Wonder why it is so difficult to meet someone who actually lives close enough to have coffee, lunch or dinner with. Have meet lots of nice guys but they seem to be in other states or countries. Just wondering if anyone else is having the same troubles

Yes, well, I happen to live in a small town. All the towns around here are kind of small. Every so often a guy who lives 100 to 200 miles away writes, too bad you live so far away.

Hi,
Thank you for writing what you did. I too have met some nice guys, but you really do need to be careful. These so called nice guys are usually scammers. I have gone through about 4 of them, 1 from this site and 3 from
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yeah, never mind local, i have found it hard to meet or talk to anyone from the same country!

I only date locally but I don't find the internet brilliant as a way to meet a "partner".

Think of it this way: This site is slow but even if I register on loads of them it means trawling through hundreds or thousands of profiles that may or may not be real and may or may not be active members on the site. Then I somehow have to find somebody that wants to talk to me and might be interested in dating me. So then I message loads of women and they usually say something about me not being for them. They don't even know me and all that they do know about me is what's on my profile and what I said in a few lame emails when I was bored but they've decided that I'm not boyfriend material anyway.

So, that's mostly a waste of time and you end up just letting random floozies message you because at least some of them are up for it.

It's different if you meet somebody through some activity or hobby that you get involved with. It can also help when it's organised. At the moment I'm going to a creative writing class at the university. They go to the pub afterwards. It's a mixed bunch but we all have a common interest at least.

Basically, it's not easy on the internet to narrow it down to compatible people. It's far easier to just go out and mix with people that you meet through your job, social circle, hobby, or anything like that than trying to find a needle in a haystack.

yes the same with me finding a lots from Philippines and about 15 from country and they are not active

I find that most of the guys who live near me are all kind of the same. I don't feel compatible with them.

best wishes on your hunt : )

Yeah, I found it difficult because I live in a small town and didn't have much in common with the guys there. You're more likely to find a guy with things in common online, but usually they're far away.

I have driven a long distance to meet a man, like 250 miles. They did not seem to appreciate what I went through. I don't think I will do that again.

thats bad...

I am looking for some cool girls in Atlanta. I am new to this city and living alone. Age doesn't matter to me.

Beautiful, respectful women give me chance

Until I wandered into this refuge with you folks, I didn't think I'd find anyone from the same planet :-P
I was getting the full Body Snatchers experience, with another site as well. 12-20 contacts and every one of them bogus. My favorite response from Southern California? "lol.. thats so funny but am in nigeria right now.. i wouldnt be in the states till its needed cos i work here"

Sister you have a witness!

I only use this site for forums.

It's really not as difficult as you might think it is. A warm smile can be a good start. Just go to the nearest pub, or church, or any other social place, and start talking to someone. you never know what can happen ;)

Maybe try a place that has mixed age groups. Never felt like I could get along with a man in his twenties, as I'm too old-fashioned. Not into rave music or rap or hip hop. Thirties is still too young for me, as they still want to go to nightclubs. Anyone from age forty and upwards, for me, I reckon ;)

yea is not good sometimes

With distance between,it is very difficult to make relationship work and not much locals on this website though.

Moreso,when life gives you a reason to love,embrace it and becareful while you step into it because people like me had experienced little and there are some heartless woman too...

That doesn't change my kind of person,am still searching and i am still more caring,funny and more kind....

Where u live