LOL Sometimes I think "Mingleland" needs a Dating Survival Training Class. If some of the stories I have heard over the years on line are any indication I wonder if a conversation place about dating would help?

Most of the time I find dating fun and not that difficult but maybe I just had good coaches.

If you would like to share pointers, ask questions, share some laughs, even I can't believe this date stories hopefully it could be a fun thread.

Be cool and don't violate anyone's privacy. No bashing.

Let's start one then

Guess I will start with the obvious one which is writing a profile that is not just going to waste the readers time and frustrate the writer. Has to be depressing to try and write a good profile if you get "bad" results". Those that have had some good results could share some pointers.

I have seen some Lulu's over the years and on line dating sites can be such a great way to find the "right" dates. And weed out the "wrong" dates.

I am also amazed at the people who have drivers manuals for their cars, cook books for the kitchen, health guides to go with their insurance, instruction manuals for every kind of electronic possible but have not read one book on dating. Have you seen any good ones or any of the ones that made you think "someone actually paid money for that?"

And single parents that have zero child care/budget for any personal dating efforts. How much do most expect to spend on dating and what did it really end up costing?

I can but repeat the 'worst date ever' winner's story,
albeit paraphrased.

On her way home from a first date with a feller, the car
was slowed by snowy roads. She asked him to pull over
as she really had to..go.

She got out, and unable to find anywhere but the back of
the car, she backed up to it, squatted and did her business.

When she tried to stand, it turned out she was frozen
to the bumper.

When she did not return to the car, the feller got out and
she hollered at him to come help.

He was horrified as they tried to separate her from the car.
No go, it was freezing out.
With no choice, he peed on her backside to release the hold.

If that wasn't the worst date ever..

Hmmmm...

Do you know that I don't even dare create a thread in the "Rate my profile" community?

I'm scared I may not like what i hear

I think I have that phobia

Fear of what others think haha

But, yes i must agree

a "good" profile is a great way to get yourself shown to the "online" world

Good luck peeps

Soufie

ROFLMBO Having dated in the Midwest where the "rest stops" are few and far between and the winter wind chill is beyond description I can relate to this story.

Thankfully I live in warm and sunny California. Alas as we "age" I have noticed the need to have a discreet knowledge of where the bathrooms are as I did when I had "kids".

I wonder if anyone has ever absconded during a rest stop on a bad date?

I think I hear this on Steve Harvey show not sure they had that acouple on they actually dated more.. Talk about embarrassing...

Does any one read profiles? I have been bombarded with questions from men and all the answers are in my profile.lol...then when you answer five questions...ask one they do not answer, but continue to ask more questions. It has been an odd week on here...

NO I don't think so...




ONE DATING RULE

I think that is vital... I learned this the hard way..
Before a meet and greet and yes that is what I call the first meets do a video chat and take a screenshot of it. Saves a lot of heartbreak when you have someone come up and and they don't look like their pictures.

I learned this the hard way when I was a newby out here and the only thing I can say was his friend was freaking hawt... and fun

Generally I think if someone asks a question already answered in the profile on the initial email it may just be "nerves". But if they clearly are not reading reply's and just continue to ask the same rote questions I just delete them as a computer bot that is trolling for information to sell you something or direct pop up advertisements.

People who can't communicate are usually just scammers that are replying to select translated key words.

Yes this is a good tip weather picture or the text from original emails and if you go to text chat. People who talk for any length of time who are lying usually can't keep their story straight.

Interesting ponts. thanks

Your welcome. P.S. Good profile.

Hey guys you are more than welcome to chime in here with your wisdom. Sure it would be appreciated.

Yes, same here. All my friends give good reviews on it. I just don't dare get reviews from strangers... who knows, maybe i'll get over thjat fear and post it in "Rate Me" someday

I have never asked one.. Heck I think I would be afraid to..

LOL I have friends that don't mince their words so that is brutal enough truth for me.

I guess this forum does get a lot of views which is part of the reason for making a better profile. I really doubt that many want to follow the advice; if they would I would think the profile forum advice would get more views.

I have wondered how many profiles are put up as a spoof or something like it by supposed friends?

I think it's best that people just learn by doing.

I find that a lot of people read the books, get profile reviews on what to write, and then come up with this awesome profile that has absolutely no bearing on reality when you actually meet them.

The worst profile honestly written is more reflective of their personality than something based mostly on the ideas of others.

IMO too many people seek out advice and tips and tactics as a means to camouflage who they are in order to be who they think others want, not help express themselves more accurately.
Mostly they read some "good" idea and then magically believe it's true for them.
Kind of like people that go to web m.d., find a symptom and convince themselves they have the disease.


What specifically did they tell you?


The only advice or coaching I was given was from 3 people.
My grandfather, my dad, and my mom.
"Always pay, open her door, and let her win."
"Go to the mall. Every woman you see ask if you can fondle her boobs. 99% are going to say no. You want that 1%."
"Don't date unless you have something to offer. You should establish yourself, a career, make something of yourself first. Don't risk getting her pregnant unless you're willing to marry her."


The only advice I can see relevant is the same you'd use for anything.
Listen, pay attention, conceptualize based on reason more than emotion.

The advice everyone gave me: Stay in the moment!
So you pay attention to what really is going on and how he makes you feel.

- Make sure you hear his voice before a date: I had a date with this guy who had a really high-pitched voice, very feminine, very off-putting. The second I heard his voice, I knew it wasn't going to work out.