Lame.

You may as well say that you think that being photographed can steal your soul. What sort of a sad bastard would tag pictures of women on Facebook to pretend that they were his girlfriends and why would worrying about something like that keep you awake at night? Not very nice? Just pathetic more like and Facebook is for braindead morons that haven't got anything better to do with their time. If you get your knickers in a twist about something like that you're as bad as they are.

Well maybe some people are not aware that there are people who does these things and yes you are right they are morons. And that is why girls with good sense check first and get to know the people they talk to for their own safety because they don't want to encounter such problems that would risk their privacy and reputation.


And excuse me I did not say girlfriends , I said GIRL-FRIENDS , I think there is a big difference between the two? I did not say about tagging but yes it can also be done,and ur pic if u have not set it in private then u will be seen in public, that could invade ur privacy. And not only that, identity theft is also happening and yes the pictures can be use by other people for unpleasant purposes .The social network has its advantages and disadvantages, it's just a matter of being aware and careful of the things you do here. It's not having lame excuse, nor lying nor being one of them , but it's about using COMMON SENSE to avoid being in an unpleasant situations.

It would just bother you that a guy pretended that you were a friend of his? Why would anyone do that? Because he's not really got any friends? You don't want to get a reputation for being friends with a loser? Thatt's harsh.

Women give all sorts of reasons for not posting pictures or not posting real ones. You've got at least one identifyable picture though. You're just daft if you're more worried about some dipshit besmirching your reputation on the internet than you're worried about stalkers. Take all your pics down if you're determined to take what you're saying are reasonable precautions.

if you've been talking in cam(with video) there are no reasons at that point to request more pictures in my opinion, and I honestly feel you'd be right to wonder why and what are they doing with them

I don't have a problem with exchanging pics...seems to me it's a good way of knowing that the person is real...as we all know, lots of people use fake or pics of when they were younger...and most of us post the best out of 50...sometimes I will even ask that they send me one holding a peice of paper with my name on it...don't care much for spontaneous video chat... for some reason guys wanna Skype chat at the worst times with me...then when I decline they assume I am not real...guess it's all about what works for you...

I've got a problem with it. I won't give my email to anyone that I've never met in person.

I'm not interested in cybering either and this is where I do agree with you. As soon as anyone mentions trading photos I just think scammer or cam girl.

...amazing how many fakes are out there... But why would the idea of exchanging pics make you think scammers... I am just the opposite...seems to me that if a guy won't send me random pics he might not be who he claims to be...but then I am way too trusting and get screwed over a lot...

If we're meeting in a public place I don't tell them that I'll be the guy holding a newspaper or wearing a flower in his buttonhole. I tell them to look out for me; the man in those pictures on my profile.

I can't imagine that a woman would tell me that she's a busty thirty year old blonde and not be anything like that when she showed up. Most of them lie about their ages anyway, so if she turns out to be forty that isn't completely awful because that's still within the age range that I would date. One woman turned out to be fifty two, when her profile said forty eight. She said that she did that because young guys kept hitting on her when it had her real age on it.

I get wanting more pics if the person only has 1 photo. Maybe you might want more pics if they only have 2 photos. But if you actually have 5 or more photos of yourself and the person keeps asking for more, I think he's hinting at nudes (which a lot of them are) or he's just being weird and creepy about it. You can get a sense of what someone looks like in 5 freaking photos, there's no reason to request more, unless he really is building a weird collection of women, who knows, stranger things have happened....

About adding people to my FB, hell no, never again, ever guy that I've met from a dating site and added to my FB and we were trying to date, it ended in freaking disaster. Drama, spying, lots of crazy stuff. One jerk I added to my FB, he pissed me off so I unfriended and blocked him. He actually found me on Youtube because I had made the mistake of telling him the username I use on a lot of my accounts (big mistake there) and begged me to talk to him again. I felt sorry for him, added him back and he threw a total fit over something really stupid.

Long story short, he messaged me a few times, after I told him I was going to watch a movie and wouldn't be available. He could see I had read the messages (thanks a lot FB) but hadn't replied so he got mad and proceeded to stalk me and make nasty comments under every photo I had ever tagged him in. FB has a rule if you ever block anyone and unblock them, you're not allowed to re-block them until a certain number of hours has passed. So I actually had to deactivate my freaking account just to get rid of his psychotic *** until the time had passed for me to block him again. The moral of this story is: yes you do have some childish, psychotic idiots out there. Yes, some people do want to get on your social media to cause drama and bs and yes, you need to be aware of them and say no. In the future, it will be a very very very long time before I allow some guy I'm dating to be on my FB, if ever. At least until I have definite proof he doesn't belong in a freaking asylum. Or prison.

Better to be safe and cynical rather than scammed or worse. I had to threaten to call the police on this loser, he was so crazy....

send me some pictures? haha

if i was talking to someone and they only had the one picture if she refused to show me anymore i would be suspicious,but some people are like me, they don't think they are very photogenic and don't like having their pictures taken.

but everyone has pictures or can easily take on in this day and age, so not excuses really

Exactly Isaac you got my point, you see each other on cam , so why reauest for more pics? Argh! Something is wrong with this guy and girls tend to thread carefully from that unknown reason:)

I agree with you, even me would be suspicious if u don't have a profile pic or u only got one and refused to show more pics. But as I have said if u have given 3 -5 pics and r talking on cam already , what's the point of asking for more?:)

Btw, I think ur photogenic , nice new profile pic how many pics did u take?lol? Honestly , I take more pics and choose the best one , but the best one is still not good enough..... what can I do, im not photogenic.....ok no problem I will leave it to the editor

That's the point of talking cam to cam, so you will see the real person and not be fooled when you meet personally. It's just one click away, why waste time and wait to see her in person and be surprised that you have been fooled all along? Strange!

Very well said Tryst, that's one good experience to be learned we really have to becareful of who we talked to, taking some precautionary measures is not a lame excuse but reasonable enough to keep you away from trouble.

Very well said Tryst, that's one good experience to be learned we really have to becareful of who we talked to, taking some precautionary measures is not a lame excuse but reasonable enough to keep you away from trouble.

Also, with all this paranoia about tons of photos, consider this, you can't look at a person and tell if they're a rapist or a serial killer. Dude can have 10 pics, dude can go on webcam or Skype or whatever it is you want him to go on, dude can talk on the phone to prove he's real, and then you meet dude in real life and you do something he doesn't like and bam! out pops the crazy. Basically all you have here is an unstable moron with a lot of access to technology...they do exist, unfortunately.

You're coming up with a completely different storyline here ... This is not the situation the OP asked about, thus not what we reacted to.

I don't request pictures but I request doing a video chat on Skype. Skype will show the most current picture. Most women i chat with on Skype normally looks older and fatter than the pictures on their websites.Lots of online pictures are fake. If she puts up only face pictures she is normally obese. Some people even post pictures that are over 10 years old.

oh i agree if they have already seen a few pics then that could also be suspicious?
i don't think i am very photogenic at all, i hate taking pics of myself, ( selfies) i only do that if i really have to, most of my pictures were taken by friends usually at a rugby match when i'm at my happiest