Is it really necessary to love and to be loved in return?
What if you loved somebody too much and ended up broken?
What could possibly happen when you fall apart?
How much do we need love?

Is it like water, can’t survive a day without drinking it.
Is it like a meal, can’t really do much because you don’t have energy at all.
Is it really a necessity needs?

Isn't it better to risk it all for love than not at all
Yes you are taking a chance and it can go either way. How would you feel if you didn't give it ago and missed out on something that could be beautiful.

For me to love it's everything.
If we broke up at least I gave it everything and I set the bar up for the next one to reach and left him with regret.

If there's no love I wouldn't bother wasting my time.

You're right! so definitely we all need to be loved. but sadly, I can't seem to find one...

I like the way you think, Annie, but many people who have gone through painful breakups are afraid to love again. I keep loving men who are emotionally unavailable.

You will and yes it takes time.
Join clubs and groups mix and mingle on here and outside the net.

I was told to want friends you have to be a friend

My problem with this is start of being a friend and I don't cross the line because I don't want to loose them.

IamwhoIam1: also true! its very traumatic for girls to handle break-ups. making us afraid to open up again and love. but the question is, is it possible if we don't love again? after experiencing it and having good and bad times isn't enough to make somebody stay...

"love" can come and go for many...

it's mostly commitment that's the problem...

I know what you are saying. It takes me a long time to get over him but when I decided to I am firm and move on having nothing to do with him but before that I do go through a greaving process.

Love is an emotional state induced at least in part by the release and maintenance of Oxytcin. Of course, it is a very complicated signalling process that requires many neuropeptide and hormonal interactions.

Interestingly, Oxytocin also seems to make you feel happy and inhibits depression. It could be the feeling of loss after a break-up is partially caused by a sudden reduction in oxytocin signalling. THis could even make you feel nauseous.

With an irresistible cocktail of chemicals, our brain entices us to fall in love. We believe we’re choosing a partner. But we may merely be the happy victims of nature’s lovely plan.

...so I will tell you what I told my oldest son and my nephews


don't be so overcome with fear and doubt that you become a side-line player in your own life


yes love is a gamble and there are no guarantees
yes it is scary when your heart and your feelings are involved
but with big risk comes the chance of big rewards
and even if...it lasts for only a year..or ten..or twenty

at least you will walk this earth knowing that once upon a time
you were truly loved by someone
and gave that love in return

http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/love.html

http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/emotions.html

So, does free will...and thus love....even really exist?

I think so many of us get infatuation confused with love.

I think we get infatuated often, but that fades. To me infatuation is about self. What can this person do for me? How to they make me feel? It takes, doesn't give and this can't last.

Still, most relationships start this way. To me love turns it all around, the other person is the focus, not yourself. It is also the ending of the tidal wave of emotions that can be associated with infatuation. Things even out, but get deeper. In true love you don't lose yourself, by giving yourself over to this other person completely, you gain back a better self.

Studies have shown that the change from infatuation to love can actually alter brain structure.

I think getting over infatuation is like tearing off a band-aid (plaster), it hurts a lot, but not for long.

I'm not convinced one ever truly gets over real love.

we can't really explain WHY love exists, sure we can say HOW it affects us (Oxytocin...neurological maps etc..)...Honestly it is counter-intuitive to nature's "survival of the fittest"

If a family is in boat starving with a little baby, Nature says "eat the baby" they'd be considered the 'weak' and will not and are incapable of helping the rest of the group survive....

instead because of love perhaps the father volunteers and sacrifices himself, even if he was the strong one and their best chance of getting out alive...it doesn't making any rational scientific sense. But we all feel it, and we all know it exists. ..we just can't explain it.

As far as needing it, absolutely, it is a vehicle by which true bonds are formed. And one that makes you want o think about another's well-being even ahead of your own.

I personally wouldn't want to imagine a world without love. ...scary scary thought.

on the news "mother kills daughter, to get promotion" worlds response "well the mom is just surviving, she did what was beat for her" there really would be no such thing as morality, it would all be about "surviving and advancing ones-self and hell with anyone else, they are not important"

The way i see it is that
Love is an illusion...
We fall,we float,We break...
But to stay broken...to stay hurt or to even look back, that choice is on you...
how strong can you be from falling into the ground beeign stomped on, in a way left for dead with a shattered heart?..
The way i see it if your still breathing your muscles work...you are still alive...you can push foward...
Emotionally you will be scared to open up to anyone...it will hurt...but we know the consequences when we "love"...its true when they say time heals all wounds...but the sad part is that sometimes it takes longer to heal than others...
Dont look for love...look for someone you can grow up with...someone you can learn life lessons and still maintain a friendship...love will come eventually...just try not to force yourself from filling up that empty space..

Oh! I can say this as fear anything will happen if loved someone who didn't love you same way you did towards. It will make you always do think no one will love you same way as you do towards. Give space to whoever you date and see how they will treat you. To be honest as the least thing you do is giving people chance to see if can love each others and hold hands and be there for you in both health and sickness and don't leave any for sickness reason and that is it. Love can be felt and not touched. It is why when someone say I Love You. It is said when the heart beat at first and feel so much in love with this person. Good luck to find whoever will make your heart beat like crazy and feel so much adored and also cherish and make you feel so precious.