Ok heres my thing, say Im looking threw all the profiles on my list and I find one or more that just catch my eye because they are knock out beautiful.. Does it bother you to hear how beautiful I think you are then I read the profile and diside I would like to ask them for a chat...Is that creepy? Because I dont get many responces, is it because the girl Im telling shes beautiful way out of my boundrys..

I always receive flattery well.,but that doesn't mean I'm going to be interested in the person giving it. You have to give it without expectations in return.

IMHO.

I think it is just RUDE not to respond ,
maybe they cant take a compliment ..or the are just plain rude and tooo into their selves to acknowledge .....
keep trying , not creepy at alll...

i think it is good to let someone know how u feel about them... maybe send an email first to see if u get a reply... then message them... if it is ok with her first...

Compliments are nice, but you can go too far with them. I started talking to a guy one time on IM and alls he could reply back to me was a compliment. That was a huge turn off that he could not hold a normal conversation with me.

What I would suggest is tell them what about them sparked your interest, then tell a little about yourself. It doesnt have to be alot, but something is better then nothing.

I always end a message with hope to talk with you soon. Or, read the forums if she post, and if they say something clever, comment on it in a message. Thats how I've made my friends on here, they have said something in a thread, and I have messenged them about it. It gives something to talk about right away, and leads into other conversations!

Honestly I never ignore an email that I get form somebody that I have met in the forums.....or even just seen posting in the forums. Get yourself known and then try again....

Well, personally, while I appreciate flattery, I can't stand when people message me and that's all that they say. It makes it quite obvious that they didn't take the time to read my profile and find out what kind of person I am. If the only thing someone says to me when they message me is how beautiful they think I am etc. then I tend to not respond. I'm not trying to be rude, but that just seems to me like the person merely messaged me for my looks.

I would never accept an IM from someone I didn't meet in the forums or know already.

I think emails are a good way to start out... and DEFINITELY use the forums. You can learn a lot about someone in the forums... which helps... and because it isn't one-on-one, you don't have to feel any pressure or nervousness.

Personally, I try to respond to emails... unless they are straight forward propositioning me... those people get blocked.

Also- a friend request when I don't know you is an automatic denial.

Gook Luck

i never chat with anyone i do not know.
i try and answer the emails, however to be honest i do not answer all of them

It doesn't bother me...but like a poster said..if all you call talk about is how pretty i am or whatever...the conversation won't go far.

i am open to all friends.

I agree with everyone...compliments are wonderful, but if thats all you say then adu. E-mails are a good way to go though...I try to always respond to them, even if its to tell someone that we dont have much in common politely or to tisk rudely them before I block them for being offencive.

Double edged sword here....all around. You always hear to compliment the lady. However, if it does not seem sincere or it is not someone you know, it might not come off correctly.

If someone emails me, "You are pretty, want to chat?" I will generally respond with a sassy answer. I try to respond to all emails, even if it is just to tell them that I don't date married guys. And I generally don't IM with people that I do not know from the forums or email.

Also, for me, with friend requests, unless I know you, I don't accept it.

Just my 2 cents worth!

Ok thanks for the feed back but some thing I dont get is, I think you should go out and say hi to every one thats just being friendly, whats so bad about saying hi back? You cant get to know some one if you cant even say hi....Am I right? Just try to remember this gals, not every guy that says hi to you or talks to you wants to be in your pants, I know the odds are against us but give a guy a chance to show what hes all about then diside. Dont just shut him down cuz he said hi..

joe--it ain't bad to give such a good compliments to the ladies you like--yet give them time to reply and they will--and don't wait it out--just keep on till you see another one and give them your hi--ya know--you just gotta do it and you'll get something going--just be you and all--

Don't forget- some girls might be shy.
And sometimes a simple "hi" can be impersonal.
Strike up something about her interests...

COMMUNICATE - don't be generic.

yeah clown around. be cOlOrFuL.

Joe,

There are people who you might find interesting and you might be inclined to contact them. Some will respond, others won't, but the only thing I can advise is to just try to get to know the person. If you come on with massive compliments before ever having talked/written to them, it could come off as scam-like. If you write to someone and they don't respond, just move forward. This is sort of part of the gig, and you have to take it all with a grain or two of salt.

Good luck Joe.

-Drew

Yep! what they said..
I never take IMs! I answer notes thou..
Some times people haven't been here.