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Yikes now what earend me a judement like that this may be exactly what Im talking about. Its not a case of low self esteem its a case of who cares about what I may or may not have. If I said Im a homeless bum without a car! No, it's all about the selling friend. Not "homeless bum without a car." You are an "Ecofriendly entreprenuer who likes to camp" 
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Agreed
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On a more serious note. Where do I begin. Im here to find out what it is Im lacking when it comes to maintaining a stable relationship. I know all women arnt the same and I respect that. The question I have is does it really matter if I have my own transport or not and how much would a not so wonderfull paycheck impact my chances of maintaining a relationship in todays world. It goea both ways and to me love comes first... If I were walking down the street and came accross somebody that I fell in love with at first site that would be a gift from God that all the money in the world cant buy. Im not here to make enemies Im here to improve myself as a man. Perhaps I already have the answer Im looking for or just maybe Im holding onto old fashioned ways please tell me if you think Im wrong.
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To be honest only you would know what you are lacking
I know for myself to be ready for a new relationship I needed to deal with stuff from the old one so it would not effect a new one With material things after working 30 years I have worked hard for what I have achieved. If he has nothing to show from his I would wonder is he wise with his money. This is my point of view |
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Why am I under the impression that Im not up to standard for anyone bar a banana swinging chimp  Because, currently, in your profile, you say that you are looking for an intimate encounter. |
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Im actually looking for many encounters with the same woman and hopefully all the encounter are intimate and never get stale for that matter.
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good luck with that gspotter.
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Edited by
isaac_dede
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Thu 08/06/15 11:08 AM
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in my opinion the guys that complain that they can't get a girl because of their own perceived faults scare them off because of this focus...if you are focused on something that you perceive as a fault dont be surprised when they focus on the same thing and perceive it as a fault. Or even an annoyance
guy, I can't get a girl because im fat, girl likes him says so, and his response "you can't like me, im too fat, im ugly, im..." she hears it from him enough times and she leaves, not because he is fat, because he can't get over it himself and it's draining to be around. guy doesn't have a lot of money, girl likes him, he's constantly apologizing that he can't take her out to nicer places, and buy her expensive things, she probably actually doesn't care about those things but his constant focusnon it and percieved flaw is again draining to be around, not because he doesn't have money but because he can't get over it himself...some of the best times I've had involved little to no money, get a $1 book from the thrift store on plants, go to the forest, park, etc and try to identify some. if you live in the city, look up historical places online and take her on a walking tour, yes it takes effort, but in my experience women have always appreciated effort over money. my point is, don't highlight your flaws, show her that they really arent flaws in the first place and have a good time |
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My name is Leon and the guy Im writing for Gspotter35 are both in the same boat. I have great respect for you and I cant thank you enough for your answer. You are 100% correct and I only now know this. Im going to apply this to myself and my wife from now on. Respect to u thank you for filling the gap in my head. Thank you.
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Edited by
yellowrose10
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Thu 08/06/15 02:01 PM
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My name is Leon and the guy Im writing for Gspotter35 are both in the same boat. I have great respect for you and I cant thank you enough for your answer. You are 100% correct and I only now know this. Im going to apply this to myself and my wife from now on. Respect to u thank you for filling the gap in my head. Thank you. Hey Leon...get off off his profile and let him speak for himself. You aren't helping him at all here |
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To be honest only you would know what you are lacking I know for myself to be ready for a new relationship I needed to deal with stuff from the old one so it would not effect a new one With material things after working 30 years I have worked hard for what I have achieved. If he has nothing to show from his I would wonder is he wise with his money. This is my point of view |
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in my opinion the guys that complain that they can't get a girl because of their own perceived faults scare them off because of this focus...if you are focused on something that you perceive as a fault dont be surprised when they focus on the same thing and perceive it as a fault. Or even an annoyance guy, I can't get a girl because im fat, girl likes him says so, and his response "you can't like me, im too fat, im ugly, im..." she hears it from him enough times and she leaves, not because he is fat, because he can't get over it himself and it's draining to be around. guy doesn't have a lot of money, girl likes him, he's constantly apologizing that he can't take her out to nicer places, and buy her expensive things, she probably actually doesn't care about those things but his constant focusnon it and percieved flaw is again draining to be around, not because he doesn't have money but because he can't get over it himself...some of the best times I've had involved little to no money, get a $1 book from the thrift store on plants, go to the forest, park, etc and try to identify some. if you live in the city, look up historical places online and take her on a walking tour, yes it takes effort, but in my experience women have always appreciated effort over money. my point is, don't highlight your flaws, show her that they really arent flaws in the first place and have a good time goes without saying .. "i love your perfect imperfections" of course this is usually the perfect version of how one describes herself/ himself when it comes to accept yourself in the first place for who you are and what you are and what you do with what you have. sounds easy but no one owns the perfect recipe in order to have a perfect relationship. a perfect start. it takes a lot of hard work and both participants have to be willing to work together as a team. it takes time, patience, tons of it actually and commitment. be wise about it. Isaac, that was a good point of view. |
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I wish I knew what it was really about. I suspect there are so many reasons women reject men that it's hard to generalize.
I have anecdotal evidence that women in their later years (start at late 40's) prefer men that are good providers. They've fallen for love at least once without looking at the practicalities. A 51 year old woman friend of mine is taking her mother's advice: it's just as easy to fall for a rich man than a poor man. I just spoke to another woman 49, who said the same thing. This in a 1 week span. But at the same time, the feedback I've gotten is while they wish for their material needs to be fulfilled, they are done raising kids. That means the ones who have spoken to me don't want to cook a meal again. That's all I ask for . . . . LOL They don't want men who are still babies and can't take care of themselves but it seems to me a bit extreme. They don't want to do anything for a man. I guess their scars are still fresh but it's on them because of their choices. I have a bigger question: which shall I open? The Cabernet or the Pinot Noir? |
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Understand what you are saying Tupperware
For. I have done looking after children three of my own and the big one Why is it that the women have to do everything around the house plus work over 40 hours I want someone that can think for himself. Like oh I will load the dishwasher ect without being asked Also help around the house I believe you are journey the life together so to me that also means doing crap jobs too If I want something to look after I would get a puppy Its not that I don't or won't do anything for him because I will give him my all I want an equal partnership with the right man not a little boy I don't have scares I want a real man not a boyman Open both because all the thinking has exhausted me I need it lol Enjoy your night |
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Wise words everyone... Im not alone after all. It worries me when I think about it. Probably the best advice here is 2 treat your relationship like a job and split everything 50/50 down the middle. What happens when u fill in your partners percentage of the actual relationship part until uve hit the 100% part though. Does it become a case of mistaken identity on your behalf. Very hard 2 explain mmmmm.....
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Wise words everyone... Im not alone after all. It worries me when I think about it. Probably the best advice here is 2 treat your relationship like a job and split everything 50/50 down the middle. What happens when u fill in your partners percentage of the actual relationship part until uve hit the 100% part though. Does it become a case of mistaken identity on your behalf. Very hard 2 explain mmmmm..... I wouldn't say everything has to be 50/50 at least in a financial aspect, but certain things absolutely. the quote that has stuck with me is "most women want a captain, but they want that captain to recognize them as a capable co-pilot" so before I get the feminist calling me a misogynist pig let me explain. most women honestly don't want to be the one making every decision, they don't want to have to ask their husbands tokdo things constantly, essentially feeling in order to get things done, they have to be the one 'piloting the ship'. instead most would prefer to be a co-pilot that trusts their household/kids/finances are in good order when their husbands are 'piloting the ship' but at thr same time the captain must have full faith that the co-pilot is fully capable of piloting the ship on their own, and at times may need to, he shouldn't question how she does it, but have faith that she can and is capable. but again thats most I've met |
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Well..I was going to post, but this thread is from 10 days ago. So good luck to you OP. Love yourself first, the world will see it.
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Well..I was going to post, but this thread is from 10 days ago. So good luck to you OP. Love yourself first, the world will see it. ..........or, car-jack a porsche |
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Is that so ??
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Is that so ??
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