I get really confused and stressed when I thin about my future with a man. I fear what happens after (or on) the wedding night and cannot understand how there will be someone out there that I can share a future with while holding these views.

Essentially, teenage curiosity comes into play, of course. But I honestly cannot see why somebody would want something foreign inside her (please excuse the bluntness). I know that God meant intercourse as a privilege after marriage, but to be honest I find it somewhat gross (for lack of a better term).

I want to stay pure for God in at least one way, and I feel like I could at least be pure in body, stay a virgin for Him and enter the Kingdom still pure in one way as I know I am/have been a sinner in mind. Obviously I am repentant of these things, as much as my lack of self control at times.

Not sure what answers I am looking for here but I'd love any advice. I guess the real question is, am I weird for thinking this?

It isn't an act of impurity for a married woman to have sexual intercourse with her husband.

Also, a virgin can be impure in ways not having anything to do with sex.

Amen, sex between two that are married is never "impure". Heck that was one of the first instructions given to us by God.

Genesis 1:28

28 And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.

Hebrews 13:4

4 Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

Notice "and the bed undefiled" in reference to marriage. That is on the assumption it is done as God intended it eg., just the two married people, willing, ect. The sins of sex are revolved around two that are not married, including but not limited to, younger people, homosexuals, ect. Younger people are in reference to teens of such for instance, younger as in again not married, ect.

You are not crazy. You are curious just as you said. You can adopt if you want to still pure for the kingdom of God. You have to comsumate the marriage in order for it to be valid. You may be better off not getting married if you are uncomfortable about sex.

In my opinion, you are very refreshingly unusual,,,,

Hello. I do not think you are weird.

But seek holiness in all perspectives; not just in one aspect. God wants to be in control of EVERYTHING! That's why Jesus is called LORD. Also, it is important to know that temptations always keep hanging around the Christian. What the Bible says to do is to overcome the temptations. The Bible says to resist the devil and when we resist, he will flee from us. Each time a temptation to do wrong comes your way, think quickly - RESIST!

It is God's will for the unmarried to stay away from sex until marriage. Marriage is the institution that HE established for sex and for family life.

God bless you.

Also, please find time to meditate on the following scripture verses:

Proverbs 6:32
He who commits adultery lacks sense; he who does it destroys himself.

2 Thessalonians 4:3
For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality;

Romans 12:2:
Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.

Ephesians 5:3:
But sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints.

Galatians 5:19
Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality,


The good LORD be with you and sustain you. Amen!

You have a lot to learn. Focus on finding a good man and stop worrying. Nature will take it's course.

God's instruction is to focus on HIS kingdom and HIS righteousness and not on finding a good man. God says when we focus on HIS Kingdom and HIS righteousness, He will add to us, all that we need! See Matthew 6:33(reproduced below):

"But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you."

Amen, put your focus on God in your thoughts and actions. And God will take care of the rest :)