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Edited by
debbie1980
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from those who do.
my granddad's cancer has now spread and he Is he terminal now.  
he is struggling mentally,more than physically at the moment and hes getting angry and hes upsetting my nan, this is hard for both of them, and all of us. the hospital admitted making a mistake, and that they misjudged how aggressive his cancer was, and he was a grade 4 then, im upset by this, but that's another story.
could all you lovely people who pray please remember my granddad albert in your prayers, and my nanny hazel too, and my family please. thanks in advance. 
( I  you granddad)
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I forgot to say he is 87 years old.
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Sure will Debbie. What type of terminal cancer does he have?
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Edited by
debbie1980
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Fri 07/03/15 03:42 PM
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Sure will Debbie. What type of terminal cancer does he have? it started in the ureter and has spread to his kidney and bladder, and a mri scan and pet scan showed spots all over his body. so its everywhere now.
thank you.
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 Prayers for you & yours .
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thanks sassy.
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You're welcome
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Prayers sent for your grand dad and prayers for you and your family also....
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thanks sassy.
It is heart wrenching, to go thru all that, & then the hospital.. 
I really don't blame him for anger. But I empathize with all those that love him & are hurting in their own ways. |
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Prayers sent for your grand dad and prayers for you and your family also.... thank you.
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I have lost a few family members to that dreaded disease too debbie,so i know what you're going through.You,nanny hazel,and all your family will be in my thoughts
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So sorry Debbie, for you and for your family...Love, light, hope and peace for all...
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thanks sassy.
It is heart wrenching, to go thru all that, & then the hospital..
I really don't blame him for anger. But I empathize with all those that love him & are hurting in their own ways. I know, if they had removed the kidney and the ureter in the first place, which is exactly what I said, they would have cured him. but they kept saying its not bad enough,its slow growing and I said it isnt its a grade 4, but they didn't listen, and now its to late. they only just admitted it was more aggressive than they thought, my answer was you should have known that when it was a grade 4, because I did and im not a oncologist. im angry, and deeply upset, im going to loose him and theres nothing I can do about it. |
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Edited by
2OLD2MESSAROUND
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Fri 07/03/15 04:01 PM
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Debbie asked >>>
from those who do. my granddad's cancer has now spread and he Is he terminal now.
he is struggling mentally,more than physically at the moment and hes getting angry and hes upsetting my nan, this is hard for both of them, and all of us. the hospital admitted making a mistake, and that they misjudged how aggressive his cancer was, and he was a grade 4 then, im upset by this, but that's another story.
could all you lovely people who pray please remember my granddad albert in your prayers, and my nanny hazel too, and my family please. thanks in advance.
( I you granddad) Here in the states we have 'HOSPICE CARE' and they offer a plethora of counseling - advice - just all around help through this dreadful process; does England have any thing comparable - grief guidance to help your lovely 'NAN' right now? Oh - my memories of my husbands anger; while I tried to understand - tried to put on a brave face - tried to allow his anger to flow over me --- it hurts, it hurts horribly because as the care giver you want to make it ALL RIGHT
And there's no making it 'ALL RIGHT' --- it just making their last days/weeks/months as EASY & HAPPY as any other human can! But your dear 'NAN' will need loads of support! {{hugs}} for you dear Debbie - this is going to be hard and you'll need loads of support and courage too!
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thanks sam and leigh
my granddad is a beautiful person, and hes a real gentleman. I just want him to enjoy the time he has left, and that he doesn't suffer. I love him so much. im remembering all my childhood memories, there all flooding back to me, which is lovely but I always tear up. bittersweet I guess. |
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thanks sassy.
It is heart wrenching, to go thru all that, & then the hospital..
I really don't blame him for anger. But I empathize with all those that love him & are hurting in their own ways. I know, if they had removed the kidney and the ureter in the first place, which is exactly what I said, they would have cured him. but they kept saying its not bad enough,its slow growing and I said it isnt its a grade 4, but they didn't listen, and now its to late. they only just admitted it was more aggressive than they thought, my answer was you should have known that when it was a grade 4, because I did and im not a oncologist. im angry, and deeply upset, im going to loose him and theres nothing I can do about it. Hospital messed up with my dad. I was angry a very long time. I wanted to sue. But the lawyer said my siblings had to agree. They didn't. They wanted to move on. Eventually I did too. I don't know what the right answer was.
But if your angry, let it out. It is normal & part of the process. Throw something, break something, curse... get profane Debbie. 
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Debbie asked >>>
from those who do. my granddad's cancer has now spread and he Is he terminal now.
he is struggling mentally,more than physically at the moment and hes getting angry and hes upsetting my nan, this is hard for both of them, and all of us. the hospital admitted making a mistake, and that they misjudged how aggressive his cancer was, and he was a grade 4 then, im upset by this, but that's another story.
could all you lovely people who pray please remember my granddad albert in your prayers, and my nanny hazel too, and my family please. thanks in advance.
( I you granddad) Here in the states we have 'HOSPICE CARE' and they offer a plethora of counseling - advice - just all around help through this dreadful process; does England have any thing comparable - grief guidance to help your lovely 'NAN' right now? Oh - my memories of my husbands anger; while I tried to understand - tried to put on a brave face - tried to allow his anger to flow over me --- it hurts, it hurts horribly because as the care giver you want to make it ALL RIGHT
And there's no making it 'ALL RIGHT' --- it just making their last days/weeks/months as EASY & HAPPY as any other human can! But your dear 'NAN' will need loads of support! {{hugs}} for you dear Debbie - this is going to be hard and you'll need loads of support and courage too!
thank you, and my nan is getting plenty support. yes we do have hospices, and when that time comes, he may go there, but I really think he would want to go peacefully at home. hes been snappy, but not all the time but hes going through one of the hardest things possible. god bless him, hes such a beautiful person and hes always loved me to bits.
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Sorry honey
never easy losing a grandparent Hard watching someone you love grow weaker feeling helpless prayers for you and your family |
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thanks sassy.
It is heart wrenching, to go thru all that, & then the hospital..
I really don't blame him for anger. But I empathize with all those that love him & are hurting in their own ways. I know, if they had removed the kidney and the ureter in the first place, which is exactly what I said, they would have cured him. but they kept saying its not bad enough,its slow growing and I said it isnt its a grade 4, but they didn't listen, and now its to late. they only just admitted it was more aggressive than they thought, my answer was you should have known that when it was a grade 4, because I did and im not a oncologist. im angry, and deeply upset, im going to loose him and theres nothing I can do about it. Hospital messed up with my dad. I was angry a very long time. I wanted to sue. But the lawyer said my siblings had to agree. They didn't. They wanted to move on. Eventually I did too. I don't know what the right answer was.
But if your angry, let it out. It is normal & part of the process. Throw something, break something, curse... get profane Debbie.
im so sorry sassy, its just heartbreaking when you know they could have been saved.
im angry, but I don't act on it, but yes your right, I need to let it out. thank you.
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Sorry honey never easy losing a grandparent Hard watching someone you love grow weaker feeling helpless prayers for you and your family thank you.
and yes, watching the person you love grow weaker and feeling helpless is heartbreaking.
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