I don't agree with this list at all, because why is it that if a member of the fairer sex has sex on a first date, she always gets the "slut" label, but the man gets the "stud muffim" label?

whenever a woman has ever make love to me on our first date, I only respect her even more, because imo, she has shown and proved that she has the courage and is unafraid to let it be known that women and men both have the same feelings and desires.

that said...if a woman wants to wait for a later date, rather than go for it all on the first date...that is also just fine with me too.

just as long as I can have it on the second and third and fourth date.

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Hi yellow rose

personally! I go into every first date ,.hoping it does not end ,with us having sex that first night.!..
...but more often than not.that's exactly what happens...I just don't know !..what I'm doing...wrong....

actually know 3 couples who had sex on the first date and are married now with kids.

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Totally, if there's a connection there. Spare me the false modesty, let's be friends dissertation. You're not that kind of girl? Yeah, you are. You need to admit it to yourself, and spare yourself the regrets 20 years down the road about who you should have been with.

I don't play games with people, and if I find you attractive, I'll tell you. Should you choose not to discuss it, and you throw the brakes on anything physical in order to somehow 'protect your reputation' as a 50 something woman, I can't help you with that.

Sorry if that sounds harsh, but at this age you should be able to clearly articulate what it is you want from someone. Please explain how I can believe you when you say, "Oh I think you are a wonderful person, and I can totally see a lifetime together with you, and I'll willingly and totally surrender myself to you, BUT I can only do that starting tomorrow."

Yeah, moving on....

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Darling I don't think this thread is a laundry list on how to get one to say yes

I say live for the moment.

nope not for me I got respect for meself.rather wait and see if it pans out as a prospective relationship.if not u lost nothing.

Wow...I though we were supposed to get more relaxed, understanding and easy-going as we got older. Why all the moral posturing and self-righteousness about a simple human pleasure? Do so many people really believe that sex is a divine gift to be granted only to the most deserving of your precious virtue? What virtue? Get over yourselves!
For the religious nuts out there...you say lust is a sin but so is pride. The ego-centric value you place on your so-called virtue is nothing but pride.
Sex is natural, healthy, brings people closer together and feels great. It's much better for you than almost every other "vice" in which we hungrily indulge.
I bet some of you don't agonize or sermonize as much over a decision to pig out on chocolate, pizza or ice cream. Do you need that decadent snack to prove it's love for you before you enjoy its endorphin-producing goodness? No...you dig right in without hesitation. Maybe you feel a little guilty later but that's just the brain-washing effect...you did something that felt good (decadent!) so you should feel bad about yourself. How Victorian!

We've distanced ourselves from the natural world so much that we can't even enjoy another human being's company (or god forbid, their touch) without first making sure they are Mr or Ms "Right" and they've convinced us that they'll love us forever. There is no such thing as a soul mate, people. The Notebook was a figment of someone's imagination. It's a nice story but has little to do with reality.
Stop wasting so much time bullshitting and get to enjoying one another.