Soooooo.....you are saying that Mom's basement doesn't count?

No I am not saying that. It takes careful planning and consideration for all.

I would be the LAST person to "yank" my kids out of school for anyone. When I made the decision to follow my husband, I am not talking some boyfriend, career there were many times we yielded to the son's best interest. He had to prove that where ever we were going to they were going to have the services and education my children needed. Practically every move we ever made together he was the one who stepped up with POA in hand to scout out school districts and plan IEP meeting for both my gifted and handicapped child to make a smooth transition. My children went to twelve different schools over all but they had perfect attendance and honor roll grades because we made it a priority.

I did not give up my home, even when we were married and him having the rank he had that required living on post until I sold it for a profit that went into the kids's trust fund and my medical IRA. He would have had it no other way. But he was eager to tell anyone from friends to family that I managed his money wisely and he quickly had fewer debts and a better quality of life than he enjoyed as a financially pretty conservative single man. Yea he finally had more of and interest in owning a home than donating to some of his favorite charities but he never went to work wanting for spending money or did I tell him what he could or could not spend on.

And no I did not quit my job. I lobbied for a transfer and when I got it my career actually improved because together the things we learned from each other resources helped us both. I will concede that was partially using military perks for wives but corporations like WalMart and Kaiser for example move employees cross country all the time.

Was leaving some of my really everyday coworker friends tough? Yea but anytime you advance your life locally or long distance your friends , at least some of them change. Maybe it is unique to me but I am just as close to some of my friends that live half a continent away still because I have gotten on and airplane and gone to "be there" for their significant times. Sometimes to their surprise. I had a single girlfriend break her leg and I was "the one" for two weeks while my great partner held things up at home. Sometimes to my surprise too. Was my husbands friend's/family who dropped everything and drove 10-20 hours when he died to get me and his only recently adopted kids through the worst times of our lives. I am not faulting my family they showed up too. Just like they made the distance melt away by other visits and connections.

I am sure there were times my husband could have not made the efforts he did to honor my & the kid's sacrifices and don't kid yourselves in the least I didn't stick my neck out so far it could get chopped off and leave me destitute but it isn't just jumping off the cliff and saying whoopee making a long distance relationship work. I have seen some real idiots screw up their lives making dumb choices they didn't sort through. I would warn people to use common sense and do your homework whenever you consider someone local or otherwise.

Yes I agree with your observations and the idea of providing continuity when your child is the age that changing school systems would be a hardship. I one hundred percent see continuity when tweens/teens are Jr. High and Sr. High age are involved. Even into their early twenties. Part of the reason we as a couple picked where we went after the military and bought sizeable insurance policies on each other was because we BOTH wanted our children to NOT have to disrupt that time. Something they modeled in their own lives. But the experience of moving successfully as younger children created a great spirit and trust in us and people in general. My kids used to joke yea Mom/Dad moved us but we were in Walmart buying groceries every Tuesday, the playground with friends of all creeds and colors every Saturday, and Church on Sunday. It might alternate which grandma got Thanksgiving or Christmas but the time with/haul was great with both. lol

And I might add the family has never questioned who was going to show up regardless of how far we have to go when they are in need. If I had not had the confidence and experience I had from moving I could not have begun to make the move and last decade of my father's life quality by being his end of life caregiver.

Distance is a problem...If she's more than 8 inches away...(just sayin')

This is crazy...last night and tonight I am rethinking this subject. When the last one hangs at some of the places you do...it may get weird. At least my LDR doesn't just show up unexpectantly.

Pacificstar was in no way singling you out and my apologies if it seemed so. Married to a military man is a whole different ballgame

Well it works well enough for the 6 I have down there now. Shackes might need a dust though

Oh......so you're a planner I see. Yes....come to see me this weekend on Saturday between the hours of 2-4 PM.......and then we may......MAY.....go for snowcones and rollerblading.

...well, no, I'm not a big planner....well, kinda....ok, yes I like to have somewhat of a plan. NOT down to the last minute or color of everyone's underwear
However, when the last person you dated, and don't really want to see again, can show up just anywhere that you frequent, it kinda makes ya think about going back to an LDR because the odds of "bumping" into him again are very slim to none.

unfortunately ya, it can be