You meet someone. The two of you hit it off....things are great....about five dates in and you are thinking that this one could be a good catch. And then you find out....they have papers. They were institutionalized for depression, or suicide watch...something to that effect. Would this change things for you and the relationship?

Nope~Wouldn't change a thing.

Relationships are about futures, the past is just spice in the dish.

oh those papers , thought you meant they where over sea's and have papers to visit

uhm

no if we hit it off it wouldn't bother me
we all have are ups and downs
and they way life is now a days any one can crack

There are too many factors to answer this cut and dried.

How long ago were they on a suicide watch???
How are they today???

Are they striving to be in a better place..


Nothing is ever cut and dried for me.. I have to have more info...

When you say " papers" do you mean 30 days or more? And how many times?

Personally, unless I knew, & had proof of when & how long the stay, & how long ago... I would just walk away. Too much of a drama & emotional roller coaster risk.
* It is my time, I don't want to play mommy, nurse, or hide my aspirin & lock up sharp objects *

You will take cut and dried and like it.

And when has that ever worked for you with me???

Stinker that is why I adore you so much

Okay....just for you....let's say that this person was institutionalized five years ago. They were and still take meds, but they do not see a therapist every week. They are doing well and seem well adjusted. They were hesitant about saying something to you but they didn't want to hide it.

Would be do.able..jmo

I am sorry I have been there, done that. I don't mean to sound hard but yes it would be a factor. I would look at when it happened, why it happened and what the end result is.

What if Mingle2 is an institution and everyone here is institutionalized?

it's an admirable quality to be up front and not try to hide it.

if they are functional and not seeing a therapist, it may be they have progressed to the degree of normalcy where it's no longer necessary.
I know a person who was like the person you describe. she is now employed in our county government and leading a happy, productive life and enjoying time with family.

wish you the best

Then you will have to check on who still needs to get their shots...

Got a feelin' that the folks who make distemper medicine would have a field day here.

All information changes things for the people in the relationship.
Knowing they're allergic to cats or prefer creamy to crunchy peanut butter changes things for people and the relationship.

With that said I would say it depends on a lot of things.
How did I find out about the papers?
Did I do a google search because I am the type of person that is looking for something wrong, or a busybody?
Do they feel it's a breach of trust?
Did my friends send it to me because they know her and are worried about me, and am I the type of person to rely on the judgments of my friends?

Do they offer the information on a date?
How do they offer the information? Are they all insecure and scared and start acting weird and throwing out all sorts of "Imma skawed widdle wabbit!" vibes, turning from a strong, independent, humorous person to an insecure, scared, non interactive, having to have conversation dragged out of them waiting for the other shoe to drop type of person?

Are they not insecure about their papers at all?
Did it just come up as a part of the normal conversation and we moved on with it?

Do I have papers? Is that why the subject came up? Was I all "yeah, I had to spend time in blah for blah amount of time to work on blah," and they were all "really?! I was in blah too, for blah, and still seeing blah for regular therapy! That's so weird we missed each other by 6 months! I wonder if I was in your old bed. What ward were you in? OMG! Remember peas night? And what was with nurse blah that had that blah growing out of her blah and she kept drawing faces on it with a magic marker?"

Did they keep this information to themselves, hiding it and hiding it, acting more and more weird about confessing about their past until their indirect communication became too much and I interpreted it as they aren't interested so was breaking up with them and then they "confessed" their dirty dark secret as some sort of tool to keep me around?

Not to mention, how hot is she? Are her boobs so awesome and she keeps sharon stoning me at the bar that I don't even hear what she said about papers?

How long has the relationship been going on? What do you mean by "relationship?"
To me "relationship" can mean dating, friends, hanging out, anything. To me a "relationship" with someone begins as soon as I identify them as more than a stranger I will never see again.

Are you talking about a "relationship" where we sat down in some candle lit room full of incense watching the notebook while wearing velvet robes and chanting "I am committing myself to you, ommmmm" to make it "official?"

And what do the papers say?
Did she go on a killing spree in 4 different states, 15 counties, and 24 cities in a 6 year period?
Was it voluntary? Involuntary?

Also, I know people have checked themselves into institutions in order to get disability benefits from the government.
Is this an attempt at fraud?
Am I one of the millions of unemployable and need some way to "earn" income?



All information changes a relationship.
The more vague or lacking in relevant information you offer, the more vague or lacking in substance your answers are going to be.
And for the most part meaningless unless you know how people are filling in the information gaps.

Having worked in a psychiatric crisis treatment center, I would be leery of dating women (or men if that is your preference) with certain psychological issues/illnesses.

Patients came from all walks of life and socioeconomic groups. Some came voluntarily, others were presented for involuntary assessment by law enforcement, ER doctors, their own family members, etc.

The most difficult thing for my brain to process was when people I knew or worked with were admitted for evaluation or treatment. They seemed like really together people. But, here they were suffering from some internal struggle, ranging from life stress to severe psychological illness.

I spoke with a coworker who sought treatment while they waited for the intake nurse and can reasonably determine that they were merely absent a close enough friend to confide in when they felt overwhelmed by everyday life. Other patients, I wouldn't want to fall asleep around them.


While I have compassion for them, knowing what I know, I would avoid being involved with a person with SEVERE psychiatric issues. The state of their personal relationships, especially romantic relationships, is the most cited reason they give for being in a crisis situation. So, as he or she suffers due to their mental illness, so shall you.

Love it or hate, it is food for thought.

One look at goofball's bruce willis lookin' azz and I KNOW he's got a fist full of papers!

All in good fun... please don't hunt me down!

Vell! Ve haf z bigger papers!
Vis z smaller print.


I am more of the school of, whatever made them who they are today, has to be a good thing.

I got you in my sights.....yippee key eh.....mutha......watch yo mouth.