Yes, that's kind of how I do things as well. :)
Works best for me too

Did you say pig? No, that wouldn't be kosher. But we weren't discussing living together, just the state of his home. Two separate animals, no pun.

did somebody mention BACON???

Had a date once who was a self declared clean freak and she asked if I cleaned the house myself.
I answered, Of course...... not!

Then I stepped into her car, It smelled like rotten meat with cat urine and garbage all over the floor.

So I asked her the same question... She proceeded to tell me that her car is the only place she takes the liberty not to fuss over cleanliness?

Yea right Pretty gross, when she just out of the shower with clean clothes, she drive to work in the "Ebola Mobile" ?

You could be a private detective...lol

hmmmmm my bookshelf has two shelves filled with books bought to get my boys to read
a shelf on parenting, gardening and canning
a shelf of cookbooks
and a whole lot of textbooks


that might just be pretty accurate

"Ebola Mobile"!

...window into their minds.

Yup... I don't like cooking, you won't find a single cook book in my bookshelf! I got a few, somewhere at the bottom of a drawer, lol. Who needs cook books anyways, if ever I do need a recipe, I look it up online. Much faster!

I got quite some books on crystals, and lots on spiritual subjects in my main bookshelf. And my oracle cards!
And my other bookshelf has some study (English language/teaching/linguistics) books and books on gardening.
Oh, and Andy McNab (and similar) paperbacks

Hey if she invites me over ILL make her breakfast and then ILL take her to bed and make wild love to her and I wont forget the Oil I rub on her back and other places then when I'm awake for the day Ill clean up her Kitchen because there might be a lot of dishes and I couldn't stop her from kissing me when I had the Butter Out. Tom Dodge.

Here you go.

Now come on I might want more then just a piece of candy I might want to talk to you. But the offer is great it will last all Night. Tom Dodge.

Only if it's at odds with the impression she has helped me develop of who she is.

I mean if she constantly complains about how much of an **** neat freak she is and her house looks like a special episode of hoarder headquarters with skid marks on the walls, then I care.


Only if it's really indicative of a personality or person completely different than the impression I have of her.


If it's not at odds I couldn't care less, but it's part of the environment...so I don't "simply focus on him/her," but involve us in the environment.


Depends on the situation and the person.
What would turn me off about one person, may not in another.
I can date one lady who works part time for merry maids, yet her home is trashed, and it would be a turn off.
I can date one lady who works full time at McDonald's as well as Bank of America, whose house is trashed because her only free day she chooses to spend with me instead of clean.

It just depends.


I have one bookcase that has a bunch of text and reference books, travel guides, and teen fiction.

I wonder what type of person you think you would be dealing with at my house?

I used to have about 10 full bookcases, some shelves double to quadruple lined. I got rid of most of my books because I moved around a lot and books are freaking heavy.
My one bookcase I keep all the books I borrowed from people in different states and need to return, my old textbooks that cost too much apiece for me to throw away, and books I received as gifts.

In my nightstand I have 3 e-readers. I had to buy the 3rd because the other 2 are completely full.

IMO the only way to understand "what type of person you're dealing with" is directly experiencing their behavior.

At best someone's "bookshelf" or home can be used to validate or invalidate a formed impression, but it doesn't tell you who they are or what they're about in and of itself.

Messy, Cluttered, Dusty- "OK"
Deal Breaker= Filthy, Foul-Smelling, & Toilets-where one needs to crouch over in mid-air & flush with a foot-"Not OK"

First thing anyone sees on the wall when they enter my house is a picture of me shooting a Barrett 50 cal.

My message is you don't know where I have a gun hidden. But I've never had need to use any of them.

All would be fine and just Dandy with the lovely You in the House Its your Little Caesars pizza dog that going to be hard to deal with Fido. Tom Dodge.

Sorry I didn't know you were a Man. Tom Dodge

sugar monkey.
(sugar glider)
(sugar bear)

have a biscuit.

Yes I care about how clean and tidy a man's home is. If it's neat enough, and clean at a reasonable level, then that's fine. I'm not asking for absolute perfect pristine. In fact, I'm guessing that men want to see a woman's place to be just as tidy.


Furniture, as long as the sofa isn't ripped, or got tears init, then I won't mind. I think he should have his home decorated however he likes, as long as it looks tidy.

Geez dude,that is totally disgusting!!