After rehearsals with the band, I been talking with my ex for an hour .. and dang, was that good! No lovy feelings, nothing sexual ... but just so good to talk to someone who understands me. And it makes me wonder why I never seem to be able to even get a date that is remotely interesting...
Ex is artistic (drummer, and a bloody good one at that), I am artistic... so he gets my drives, needs, feelings and emotions as an artist and I his, because they're basically the same for any artist.
He's not into the lovy dovey romance BS, neither am I, we had a good laugh about 50 Shades, talked about the novel I'm writing and so on and so forth.

And don't get me wrong, I don't love him, I don't want him either, the grief I went through with that man! But there's the bits that did work out, and it is just such an enormous relief to talk to someone who's like-minded!
Maybe I should find myself an artists dating-site. And not sure I need a fellow-artist for a partner, but at the very least someone who understands and appreciates the mindset of an artist. And has a kinky streak as well

What I usually come across is boring f@rts with a 9 to 5 job & slouching-on-the-settee-at-night type. I need someone that stimulates my brain ... if he doesn't, I'm bound to get bored within 2 months..
And the ones that match intellectually are either too soft, I'll walk all over them, or are the 'business guy' type with office jobs. Not my kind of intelligent or man, doesn't ring my bell.

But a weird experience ... Anyone else had similar experiences with his/her ex? That it just feels good to talk to him / her on a level you haven't experienced with anyone else (yet), without any feelings of wanting them back?

Funny that you made this post because my ex-BF called me out of the blue last week. He hadn't contacted me in years. Got rid of the abusive ###$&&. He called me both on my cell and landline and left me a hang up message on both. No way he is getting a call back.

I remain friends with most of my exes.


Some, not so much.

Talking to the ex......
My daddy always said if you don't have anything good to say
Don't say anything at all

I have talked to my ex not long ago.... We have kids and grandkids together....... But no, never again 35 years was enough ... I like my single life..... It is giving me time to find a really healthy lifestyle that with its help ill beat this cancer.... Stay strong.... They are an ex for a reason....

If I saw my oldest boys mum in the street, I would just blank her, like she did to my son for years! No birthday card, no Xmas present, nothing! She never even came to watch her grandson being born last year! I talk to some of my exes, but she's a wrong un' 100%!!

My ex was abusive as well :/
But someone I managed to forgive him and whenever we see each other we can still have a normal conversation, even have a good laugh. We don't often see each other, no need, nor desire. Just that he's the drummer of the band, so every year leading up to King's day I see him during rehearsals. The gig is next week, so then I won't see him for another year.

I've just never met someone (yet) that I can talk to about almost anything like I can with my ex, varying from quantum physics to artistic things to kinky stuff to the bigger picture of what's going on in the world etc. And p|$$ ourselves laughing.
And I seriously don't want him, just wished with all my heart I'd meet someone that I can have such a click with as well, artistically, intellectually, sense humour etc.
Appears to be bluddy difficult..

You're too smart and that is why you suffer. Shortage of single men who are on the same level. It's tough.

I talk to my ex husband quite often about our son and how he is doing in school

Yes, you're right ...
Spose it sounds familiar?

Need you ask, woman? Need you ask?

Lol...
Well, let's just keep the faith, and our fingers crossed, that the right guy for us is out there! Two attractive, wise and intelligent men, healthy sex-drive and strong personality (otherwise we'd just trample them with our high heels, lol), one for you and one for me
I'll gladly drink to that!

Amen, babe!!!

^ no pun meant there

I can relate. I was married for 8 years. We had great times and many memories. It was a very tough break up. Took me 3 years to get over her completely. Pure heartbreak for me. She contacts me once in a while and we get caught up. It's a different dynamic between us now. It's like meeting an old friend and going your own way after.

Make that three please but I'll have to trample with my boots because I don't wear heels (unless its a very special occasion)

Sounds nice :) And yes, it's a different vibe.

Haha, we'll make it three...

For the 3 short years that I knew her, we spent 5 hrs a week together, not a romance, but a connection beyond any friendships i've ever had, it was one of a kind. She knew and got me, I knew her, simple as that.

I miss my friend terribly, she passed last year around this time, in 3 months.

Those are the memories we're supposed to keep while we chase new ones with new people, it takes time, it's rough. If I felt anything like that with an ex, i'd be calling them to hang out for sure. gl

we'll see how it goes in the next week. 1st ex husband is living with my daughter evidently.