My boyfriend of four years dumped me during the holidays. We got into a fight about something so trivial with what I was cooking for dinner. He then told me this wasn't working and he wouldn't come back to our home. I feel like he wasn't truly forthcoming. Definitely didn't have any true closure. Unsure of what to do. He changed his phone number. I only messaged him once and called once to see if he was OK. It's now been three months since we last spoke. I just want to move on like he has. I'm having such difficulty with doing so. Why is it so easy for some men to drop everything and not look back?

If it was something really trivial, and he left you over that, then he was probably running around on you. People like that are not people you need in your life, dear. Keep your head up, and know that you are better than him.

I'm sorry to hear of your hurt. Be strong even though you are feeling weak. Each day you will get stronger. I'm sending you a big hug and heaps of love.

You just need time. There is no magic pill or potion. Make sure you're doing things that you enjoy doing for yourself. Find things around you to smile and laugh about. Dont look for closure from someone who doesnt care, youll never find it. Make this time be about you :-)

Hmmm....the truth is dat he's tired of u,and somethings is missing in ur relationship which likely he must av seen somewhere else...let him go,just pull ur hand out as if ur nose is bleeding, u Ain't looking bad,u are just 2cute 4a guy 2 abandon...

tequila.

well now seems I just read that tequila does make clothes fall off

so if drank in large enough quantities
ya might leave a trail of clothes
take off streaking
find someone new
and have a hell of a time



and might not remember it the next day

It can be a positive thing and the best things in life unfortunately come in process form :)

I learned/did the following:

1. Be more social
2. Exercise more
3. Find a new hobby
4. Make improvements to your life (extra time and money now available)
5. Focus on what you want and pursue it (education, job, a personal goal, etc).

You will move on and look back someday, be strong and smile.

see, i solved the problem!

haha ya you did
and might I just add
you look in remarkably good health
for someone who is ...84

it's all about a quality wrinkle cream!

oh god it's not preparation H is it?
hold up...that might be for under eye bags and puffiness not wrinkles

Well first of all....it isn't just men who can drop everything and look back. Any person is capable. However, on this subject....I can tell you this (coming from a dude). He simply has been wanting out of the relationship and that one event just set it off. He kept it inside for so long and then all it took was something THAT trivial to make him just break it off with you. Thing is....you probably saw signs of something going wrong and he covered it up well. Just trust that you'll be the better for him leaving because he simply wasn't happy and he never was gonna be with you.

What the hell were you cooking for dinner that made the man bolt out the door and never come back?

^^^^^^^^ very good advice - make yourself busy - tell yourself there is better to come - get yourself ready for the next big adventure.....

.. were you boiling rabbits by any chance..lmao

So true. Success is the best revenge.
Some people hate it when others are happy, especially ex's.
Don't let him rent space in your head.
Look at him as ' a near miss' or ' a narrow escape ' or ' I deserve so much better than that kind of guy list '

staples?

Sleep with someone else

If you can't fix it with a hammer, it's an electrical problem.