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| Topic: How do you mend a broken heart? | |
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duck tape.
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My boyfriend of four years dumped me during the holidays. We got into a fight about something so trivial with what I was cooking for dinner. He then told me this wasn't working and he wouldn't come back to our home. I feel like he wasn't truly forthcoming. Definitely didn't have any true closure. Unsure of what to do. He changed his phone number. I only messaged him once and called once to see if he was OK. It's now been three months since we last spoke. I just want to move on like he has. I'm having such difficulty with doing so. Why is it so easy for some men to drop everything and not look back? do you know what monkey branching is darling? I suspect he had these plans for some time going in his head and it had very little to do with dinner |
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Sleep with someone else And make sure it is unprotected. |
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Part of why people who leave us SEEM to have an easier time moving on than we do, is because once they leave, we no longer see their complete emotional lives. They might be full of pain inside, or loneliness, or anger, or confusion, just as we are. But they've put on their "professional face" for us, because they have decided to categorize us as acquaintances, or friends, or even as enemies.
You know how you put on a professional face and demeanor to go to work every day? Lots of people put on an emotional suit of armor to get through it. Others will actively try to get over us by "working on finding someone new," in the usual way: dress up, make themselves look nice, and frenetically dance and giggle, in order to make themselves back into relationship bait, just as they were before they latched on to us. The ones who GENUINELY have an easy time with the breakup, are the ones who didn't actually give a crap about us to begin with. That hurts us a lot, but it can help in a way too. When you realize that that's the way things are, it can help to finally close the book on hopes for any reunion. |
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Love this song  2:06 am... my neighbors won't be happy, but I will
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Try to ask him what the real reason(s) was that he found was missing so that you can learn something about yourself that you couldn't see. Tell him that you want to know and are willing to listen even if it's trivial things. Then listen and take notes. Then reflect if any of those things could be true (he could possibly lie just because he feels guilty and angry at himself but projects this onto you for leaving a perfectly good woman for the wrong reasons). Lastly reflect if any of those things should not be dismissed and if not try to change them.
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broken heart.. its one of the most uncured illness of heart.. and sometimes it takes time to heal and mend it.. yet I've been through with that many times but look I'll follow these steps and look I am today a woman with strong heart and optimistic perception in love.
1. Put away all remnants that remind you of your ex. 2. Make his name a bad word. 3. Do new things that will keep yourself busy. 4. Indulge yourself. 5. Meet new people. 6. Entertain suitors. 7. Go out on a date. 8. Have atleast 3hrs call with a guy you dated recently. 9. Enjoy his company. 10. Evaluate your feelings. 11. Dare to fall inlove, again. |
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broken heart.. its one of the most uncured illness of heart.. and sometimes it takes time to heal and mend it.. yet I've been through with that many times but look I'll follow these steps and look I am today a woman with strong heart and optimistic perception in love.
1. Put away all remnants that remind you of your ex. 2. Make his name a bad word. 3. Do new things that will keep yourself busy. 4. Indulge yourself. 5. Meet new people. 6. Entertain suitors. 7. Go out on a date. 8. Have atleast 3hrs call with a guy you dated recently. 9. Enjoy his company. 10. Evaluate your feelings. 11. Dare to fall inlove, again. |
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Thank you everyone for the helpful advice. I recently found out that he had met someone else and didn't have the courage to tell me the truth. I wonder how well this girl can take his ********.
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If you are looking for answers as to why such people walk out of our lives just like that then I will say it is the best thing he did. Now you know he is not the man for you and you are now free to move on and find another man. Now you can choose the man you want to be with wisely.
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Part of why people who leave us SEEM to have an easier time moving on than we do, is because once they leave, we no longer see their complete emotional lives. They might be full of pain inside, or loneliness, or anger, or confusion, just as we are. But they've put on their "professional face" for us, because they have decided to categorize us as acquaintances, or friends, or even as enemies. You know how you put on a professional face and demeanor to go to work every day? Lots of people put on an emotional suit of armor to get through it. Others will actively try to get over us by "working on finding someone new," in the usual way: dress up, make themselves look nice, and frenetically dance and giggle, in order to make themselves back into relationship bait, just as they were before they latched on to us. The ones who GENUINELY have an easy time with the breakup, are the ones who didn't actually give a crap about us to begin with. That hurts us a lot, but it can help in a way too. When you realize that that's the way things are, it can help to finally close the book on hopes for any reunion. This makes a lot of sense. Being suddenly dumped is bewildering so it is easy to look past the fact that it might have been secretly your choice if you had made it first. Clearly the relationship was flawed so accept the door is closed as a blessing and you can now pick one that suits you better and open it when you are ready. I would not rush into it. Bad relationship have a purpose to teach us something and maybe self improvement is part of it. Maybe it is learning not to rush into things and not tolerating relationships where there is so little commitment one can just pack up and leave you stuck. Maybe it is to pick more mature partners. The maybe list is always a long one but worth exploring if you can do so without being obsessive. Hard to believe but when addressing pain often it is just realizing "This too shall pass." My sympathy. |
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