Is a successful marriage accepting mistakes including cheating . At some point you just accept the person for who they are agree or disagree . Can a person be in love and still have bad habits or secret addictions or past that wont allow them to stay committed and in love.

I would never except cheating can except a lot of other things but never that.

whether acceptable or not the simple sad answer is yes...welcome to Mingle2.

I believe that when you truly know your partner their are certain things you accept and due to the world we live in . Cheating at some point can be forgivable depending on your circumstances of growth if you guys enter with baggage.

feels great to know I'm not the only one who agrees with the yes answer. I think the denial of it can really stop the growth process

I think if you can accept cheating then you may have stopped caring about the other person.. Chances are you are in love with your comfort zone, and other perks you may get from the person that is cheating.. No way I'd tolerate it.

Amen.

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I agree with the comfort zone but does a person really stop caring or can a be an addiction that hasn't been targeted by the right person.

I'm pretty open-minded and forgiving to a fault and not very possessive, so I agree with the concept, at least. But cheating to me isn't in the list of forgiveable faults. It creates a Dominant/submissive relationship that is one sided.

Open relationships? Sure. I've even met folks with relationships where one is monogamous and the other not and it thrived because they talked and agreed that these conditions were ok.

But a cheating partner is always devaluing and disrespecting the partner he/she cheats on. It's like saying Hurray for me and to Hell with you.

Hearing all these different opinions, one can only assume and base on different experiences. And how far are you willing on going in a true commitment. I'm starting to believe, problem is what age will you be ready for commitment and let those walls down without bringing past baggage.

Well said...

ok are you talking cheating or an open relationship...
there is a difference..

.. cheating they go behind your back and see somebody else..
. in a open relationship..
you allow each other.. to take what you need from other people...
....

I don't understand why everybody is so hung up on sex...
. if you did not like vanilla ice cream.
but your partner did..

. would you deny them the vanillaice cream for the rest of their life..

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But why can it be that you accept the persons flaws , why cant it be that love is till death do you part through sickness and in health . Mistakes and addictions are a part of till death do you part. when you know a person inside out you can see why walls are up and communicate the addiction. Every marriage I know that has lasted more than 30yrs has had its cheating

correction my parents married over 40yrs

Does icecream bring home Aids??

saying hello to a fellow newbie



not sure if he is doing cheating on you or you are just now thinking of doing same thing back again



not sure of how long you have been together, if children are involved...



not even gonna go into why people roam

I would tend to agree
if a partner stays in a marriage when the other is cheating and has no intention of changing

some of it has to do with sense of security, habit, and the unwillingness to make the hard decisions you may now have to make

.. geez I hope not I really like ice cream... and.. if you're going for ice cream.... is important you make sure it has a government seal of approval on it.... food safe.. and I'm not talking.. those big tubs of ice cream...nooo.... I like specialty ice cream.... it's only made in small batches...... not enough for everyone..

Maybe there is something in the water where you live, because I have known plenty of elderly married couples who never had a problem with cheating.

I heard government seals took down Bin Laden so I trust them..