I'm dating this guy now for almost half year.
we go out eating, movies, just cuddling watching tv and having sex.
all stuff couples doing. he keeps telling me what he is doing even if i didn't ask for it. let me read when he txt with someone when we are together. he doesn't mind if i check his phone which i'm not doing...
BUT he doesn't want a relationship. he keeps saying it's not about me. he is having big problem. he is air force afraid of leaving someone behind when he has to leave germany again. he knows that i feeling for him but he can't reciprocate my feelings back :( . all he says is that if he loses me before he get over his commitment phobie that it wasn't meant to be
what should I do

If you are already having sex with him, then he probably has all that he wants.
So, what is there to motivate him to give you a commitment?

Accept the fact that you're both living the moment for each others comfort & as f**k mates.
(P.s i've been through it)

If he's not feeling the same as you then why keep up the relationship? In hopes that might change maybe. This type of scenario, in my opinion, is typical of someone who is quite content with a "friends with benefits" situation. All the conveniences but nothing more and not likely to change. It's your decision if you want to continue to be used in that type of relationship!

I'd comment here about this subject but I do not want to commit to it.

Dump him, a man has to want to commit or he simply won't. Sorry, he's a dud, cut your losses. =/

why do women seem to blame the guy here? did you ever stop to think it might be the woman? ... wait, what am i saying here... of course the women never stop to think...

He already told you he doesn't want a relationship. If you want one, move. If not, then leave

To be honest if the tables were turned how many really would commit to a relationship not knowing if you were coming home or not????


It sounds like they are in a relationship already he is not ready to take it to the next step... She will have to decide if she wants to wait till he serves his term and if things will change then.

Why buy a cow when you can get milk for free?
Why would a man put forth the effort of marrying a woman/ committing to her when he can get the sex from her without the effort.

You're totally right!
I decided to wait a little bit. he cares about me alot. he is showing that also. he see each other almost everyday and not just for sex!!
we do a lot of things together and laugh a lot. that's why i can't just give up on him now. i still have hope. sound stupid? or i'm just deeply in love with that guy

Why does he keep leaving Germany? Is he telling you the truth?

Why is he a dud and how is she being used when the fellow has stated his position regarding the relationship up front? Why do SOME women feel they need to force the issue against another persons wishes. If he stated his position and you choose to enter into a relationship under those circumstances then you entered willingly. If this isn't what you want discontinue the relationship. Pretty simple.

sounds to me shes trying to force him into a marriage he doesn't want...

Moe, I agree with you. The OP's boyfriend is already getting sex from her.
So, why would he need to do anymore?

As WonderWoman49 said, "Why buy a cow when you can get milk for free? Why would a man put forth the effort of marrying a woman/ committing to her when he can get the sex from her without the effort."

Seriously, the OP's boyfriend is already in the relationship that he wants.

perhaps you should date someone
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http://youtu.be/InBXu-iY7cw. Navy

Did I catch you are in Germany? Maybe he doesn't want to take home to Mama a German girl? Just asking.

Seems to me you are asking for something he's not wanting right now. I'd say you need to move on. Your head is telling you this but you aren't listening.

Start....

Sorry, I meant your friend needs to move on. I know you said this isn't about you.

it's never good enough for women, they're not happy unless they can change something...