Who says she deliberately made you believe she wasn't what she really looks like? I come across this chit a lot. Clearly stating I'm 1.78m, clearly saying I'm a few extra pounds. Yet I get men asking "You can't be?! Have you used someone else's pictures?!" I guess they mean it complementary, I am not amused when ppl think/suggest I'm lying.
I look good, yes, but I am curvy, don't lie about it either.
And meeting one guy, his very first words (NO introduction) "Wow, you're really tall!"
Deeuhhh.... I never lied about my height, effing READ! Kinda logical if you are 1.80m and I'm 1.78m you're not going to be a lot taller.
I think often it's men themselves who get the wrong idea in their head, not the woman lying about it. If you know there's less than an inch difference in height, isn't it really stupid to say "Wow, you're really tall!!" and then be totally disappointed in me, because he didn't use his brain?
Dang, getting really PO now

Humm..myself if I agree to a meet then that is what I do. Normally I make them for a restaurant and we go dutch.. lets see will give ya a inside on one of these a few years ago I met this guy..

His pictures on the site I met him on he had a head full of brown hair and said he was 5'7". Normally I tend to go towards taller guys closer to 6'.

But figured me at 5'1" even with heels I should still be shorter then him anyway.. So figured I would see what happens.. He even sent me a picture through text message on my phone.. Head full of hair..

So I'm sitting at the bar waiting for him in the restaurant... This guy walks in and I was not paying much attention to him due to this guy had like 1/2" hair on his head and it was mostly gray.. He walks up and I realize it was the guy I was suppose to met.. Not only is he not 5'7 but closer to 5'3 pretty much no hair..

I sat there we had a decent conversation and I could not reset myself after a bit and asked him what the heck happen to your hair.. He then proceeds to tell me it was a toupee..

After we talked for a bit he went on about his hair and even asked would he look better bald. So I told him he would most likely look better that way...

Within our conversation he mentioned going to the shooting range.. Heck I agreed to it for another time.. Yes I did agree to meet him a second time...

This time figured I would wear tennis shoes lmao.. Well he was still barely my height. But when he shows up at the Gun Range this guy had shaved his head himself.. Guess cause I said he would look better.. For he had missed patches of hair.. Needless to say after the second meet I gave up on that one.. And yes that meet was dutch too..

I have never been out right rude to anyone I met... I finish out our meet and then when they call me, text me or e-mail then I just tell them there was no connection for me...

Have a few more stories like this too..

so learning some really good techniques from you people..

.. so we have chatted for a while online.. her profile picture is just from the waist up.. pretty face looks fit.. great conversationalist.... so I go to meet and greet.... I Drive up to the restaurant where we arrange to meet... she is waiting out front..... from the waist up just as she looked in her profile picture.. but from the waist down....omg.. extra extra large..... now I am NOT trying to pick on people with this topic at all...
. we all have issues no matter who you are... well ok except for me..lol.
. so I pull up and I see... my half and half date..lol... now at that instant I'm feeling a wave of disappointment wash over me..thinking in my head. not again... Why Why oh Lord.. now I think to myself.. pick up speed Dr past her and hope she doesn't see you and bolt.... but I am NOT that person..
so I park... check my look in the mirror.. pop a tic tac... and begin walking towards the restaurant and her... as I get closer I try not to let my disappointment... be a apparent. on my face.. insert fake enthusiasm here...lol... just think iceberg... so I am trying really hard..lol.. I walk up and say you must be... so and so... she says yes and the first thing second thing out of her mouth...lol.. geez you are tall... and you're better looking than you are in your pictures.... if that's possible.. ok the last part I put in for me...lol.... so now protocol dictates I return the compliment...
..hmm..hmm..hmmmm..
. you're a little bit early... or am I just a little bit late.... and in my mind I am searching for some.... other reason to give her that I'm not interested other than her..... enormous backend..

... hit her with the hight excuse..
. oh you're shorter than I thought you would be...hmm


.. use the old I only date brunettes and your a red- head.. excuse...

..noo... too obvious..
.. okay I'm here she's here at least let me buy her a drink.... but that is always bad because I am so damn charming.... it just makes it harder to tell her... I'm not interested....

... so what generally happens is I spend 45 minutes... feeding her drinks.. no food... and then at the end of it I say it's been really nice meeting you but I need to go now.....
..... she says the same.. and then tells me call me later.....ok.... drive safe talk to you later... dumpling...

... I know I'm a horrible human being..
... I just don't like hurting or disappointing people....

. I would much sooner deal with an angry text saying how come you haven't called me... and then just ignore them until they hopefully get the hint..... or sometimes I will just say I just wasn't really feeling it...lol


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Txsgal... you we nt out on a second date...wow.. you are a trooper..

Very nice & relevant topic yaar! I must congratulate you no1 for putting such useful topic for discussion...

In my opinion if one has patience & intelligence, they can easily avoid disappointment during appointment ...I mean give enough time to yourself & to the person you are dealing with even just on net & nothing will remain hided from you, provided you have been tricky enough.

Last but not least, if you are really comfortable with the person & are desirous to see him/her in person after knowing them completely...then physical appearance matters very less, I guess.

Hahahah hey the Gun Range which I agreed to meet at, only cause I was meeting him there ended up a lot of fun actually...

He really was a pretty nice guy good conversation.. just no connection...

By the way I still have the target I practiced on.. He bet me on who could hit the target the most.. I hit the target 37 times out of 37..

But he did win at skeet shooting...

yes but what did you bet each other for..hmmm..

But I'm talking about if she IS,deliberately,if wayyyy off than you say,then you're either dumb as fck,or you're"deliberately"deceiving me,come on now,you I'm right crystal!

I wish people would just grow up and tell it like it is.
no, not telling the exact reasons for not continuing, just be clear what direction it has gone. I try and leave no one in ambiguity.

Leaving stuff in limbo after you've got along with someone in virtualland is douchy yes

Hahahahah nada I just said we can bet who will make it but that was it.. Heck I had not shot a gun in 20 years at a Gun Range....

.. I would be saying what else haven't you handled in 20 years...lol..jk.... perhaps you like to handle my six shooter....mmmmm

Ok.. cap gun..lmao

You could ask but it has not been that long lmao... And I was actually shooting a 6 shooter that day ya know the old west type of gun ....and I handled it rather well..

hey cowgirl.. how would you like to ride a cowboy.. yeehaw giddy up..
kiss kiss bang bang..lol

You ain't right boy....

I'd at least make it through the date. sheesh!

Lol ... I'll think about it
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OK thought about it... you're right. Happy now?

Crystalfairy and no1phD would make a great couple as far as height is concerned.

To answer the topic question..
You should talk about it before meeting, agree to be completely honest about why or why you don't feel it's a good match, even if it hurts feelings. I would rather hear why I am being rejected, than hear a lie, how can anyone improve for the next person who comes along if they don't know what's wrong with them? People can't be objective with themselves or see what others do, so it might be hard to hear it, but in the end it will be useful to know. We are all adults dating, we can handle this kind of criticism.

Doubt he could handle me though