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I "met" a fellow online who lived in another city, and for almost 3 months we had an intense online romance. We would Skype for hours a day, sometimes 5 or 6...we couldn't get enough of each other. We had incredible connection, and right from the start, he talked about us meeting. He told me he was crazy about me; gave me every indication that he was serious about having a relationship with me. It really sounded sincere. I then started hearing from him less and less. Times he was supposed to call me, he had excuses; one time when I was supposed to call him his phone wasn't on, he wasn't returning my messages, until finally I just never heard from him again. I've racked my brain as to what happened. All I can think of is that he must be in a in a relationship or he met someone, and doesn't have the guts to tell me. How could someone go from 100% to zero?
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Why wonder about why? Did ya learn anything from this?
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sometimes it's too much too fast.
sometimes they just see the impossibility because of distance. there could be lots of reasons. hang in there and have patience. when it's meant to be, it will happen and you'll both figure out how to make it work |
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Be thankful you discovered his 'artful dodger' side before you met.
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Based solely off what the OP posted, the guy got what he wanted....some Skype fun.....the "new" finally wore off, and he's moved on to his next "victim". Doubt he ever truely wanted to meet in the first place...JMO
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I "met" a fellow online who lived in another city, and for almost 3 months we had an intense online romance. We would Skype for hours a day, sometimes 5 or 6...we couldn't get enough of each other. We had incredible connection, and right from the start, he talked about us meeting. He told me he was crazy about me; gave me every indication that he was serious about having a relationship with me. It really sounded sincere. I then started hearing from him less and less. Times he was supposed to call me, he had excuses; one time when I was supposed to call him his phone wasn't on, he wasn't returning my messages, until finally I just never heard from him again. I've racked my brain as to what happened. All I can think of is that he must be in a in a relationship or he met someone, and doesn't have the guts to tell me. How could someone go from 100% to zero? 'That' inexplicable demeanor can only be 'explained' by the 'dodger' concerned. He might have several reasons corroborating such 'irresponsible' behavior. However, whatever's happened, has happened for 'your' good, presumably. Had this relationship progressed, and he chanced to 'dodge' you at a later stage, the 'pain/trauma' would have been more than 'pleasure'.. Stay happy & smiling. 
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Never trust anyone until they have proven to you that they can be trusted.
I wish you better luck next time
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Never trust anyone until they have proven to you that they can be trusted. I wish you better luck next time Perhaps, more significantly: Never trust anyone until they have proven to their very own self, that they can be trusted. I wish you better luck next time!
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Edited by
theseacoast
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Sun 03/08/15 09:25 AM
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something similar happened to me but with somebody I knew 20 years ago - we were just friends at the time. Now he wanted more and I wasn�t against it. Only forgot to tell me his ex fiance� is still his fiance�. She found me afterwards and now she and I are good friends and he is alone
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She found me afterwards and now she and I are good friends and he is alone Seems like you've always played the role of poison ivy
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something similar happened to me but with somebody I knew 20 years ago - we were just friends at the time. Now he wanted more and I wasn�t against it. Only forgot to tell me his ex fiance� is still his fiance�. She found me afterwards and now she and I are good friends and he is alone 'Good For Him' 
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She found me afterwards and now she and I are good friends and he is alone Seems like you've always played the role of poison ivy never - I didn�t even know about her, except that they were engaged before but broke up. He lied to both of us and that was cruel because we both were honest - but everybody eventually gets what he deserves |
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I "met" a fellow online who lived in another city, and for almost 3 months we had an intense online romance. We would Skype for hours a day, sometimes 5 or 6...we couldn't get enough of each other. We had incredible connection, and right from the start, he talked about us meeting. He told me he was crazy about me; gave me every indication that he was serious about having a relationship with me. It really sounded sincere. I then started hearing from him less and less. Times he was supposed to call me, he had excuses; one time when I was supposed to call him his phone wasn't on, he wasn't returning my messages, until finally I just never heard from him again. I've racked my brain as to what happened. All I can think of is that he must be in a in a relationship or he met someone, and doesn't have the guts to tell me. How could someone go from 100% to zero? Maybe he found another classy leggy blonde  
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I am sorry you experienced this. I too have felt the pain of a woman just 'disappearing'. You have my empathy and understanding.
And a virtual hug to ease your pain: (((ClassyleggyBlonde))) You can speculate and ask us here in the forums to help you understand. we can do the same. It is a question you will likely never have the answer you are looking for because it can only come from him. I wish you better success. |
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..How could someone go from 100% to zero? The internet introduces a new dynamic for people and we see them aware of it all the time. When you see 'I have sent out hundreds of emails' to women/men on here...that is often the return they get...hundreds. If you are one of 'hundred' chances are not real good they will refine down to just you. They play the odds. Everyone is popular on the internet. Sometimes that can translate to real life. But odds are...not so much. |
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online chat and skyping..
. are all good fun.. . but there's a point when you look down and realize it is just you in the room... once again just you... ..... perhaps you got him so turned on he went out and found himself a real life. long legged beauty.. |
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PS and may God go with you..
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I've had the same thing happen, maybe not to the degree of your situation. I guess you just have to become immune to the disappointment. When it's long distance the chances are slim anything will happen in real life. I avoid skype or yahoo cam until I've messaged with a guy for a bit. Even once I skype that is more to prove to the man that I am who I say I am. Plus, I can confirm the same on him.
If we can't arrange to meet within a couple months it isn't going to ever happen. I will say something though if he doesn't first. It's online dating. |
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I know not whether it's a matter of "choice" or "chance"..but the fact remains that "Invisible Man" "Hollow Man" have been made featuring the central character to be a 'MALE' protagonist...
 Are 'Men' Always (or 'usually') like this? [I hope 'NO']
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I think we just cant take what happens on public forums so seriously,,,,they may be the real deal and they may be a creep,, hard to tell if its only online and one hasn't observed someones interactions with others for any period of time,,,
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