I am currious, in these current times what is the role of
the man and the woman in a relationship? I am
of the old school but want to know what others
think.

NO Comments from the Mingle 2 family?
Well i guess with online dating, long distance relationships and cyber sex men and womens roles were pitched out the window. we have
just became robots of the times. WOW.

maybe there are no replies because no-one is sure anymore.


the subject might be too much of a hot potato..

I'm technically old school too, I was raised that way, my parents were both raised that way. I however am open minded. Open minded to what though? Don't get me wrong, I believe that women and their opinions are important and valid. I believe you should vote, be given equal human rights. I sincerely hope that Hillary Clinton should be our next President. I'm going to be criticized for that and I dont give a damn. That'smy honest opinion.
I haven't seen an even treatment of men and women, whites blacks or other minorities. What I have witnessed is reversed. sexism. I know you're still fighting for equal pay, but starting with the most recent recession many men lost their jobs for exactly that reason. A woman does the same job for less money the corporation doesn't collapse we all win right? The acquisition of the job was either a new hire or a significant raise for the woman who gets the job everybody is happy, yes? Aren't we forgetting something here?

To me this is scary when nobody knows anymore. why even have a relationship then? Its like Love, is it real or fake? No wonder we have high percentages of divorces. sorry off topic. I am just a concerned citizen.



maybe there are no replies because no-one is sure anymore.


the subject might be too much of a hot potato..

I believe the roles are defined by the two people involved, its up to them how they interact.

Is there a role in a relationship?
I was been thinking....
The people here are in different traditions and cultures.
Different religions and different belief.

When it comes to relationship we have different point of view.
Like: Marriage first before sex. And cyber sex are not allowed.

Considering our roles (jobs, placement) in society is not detachable from our relationships. Unless you're fortunate enough to have a partner whose income allows you not to work, stay home and raise children, it's still not a separate issue because it requires one of the two to be the breadwinner which is the traditional way aka old-school.

In a relationship, I agree with what another has said, that is whatever works best for you as a couple and that you are both happy with.

Since there are no defined gender roles both have to work but the woman takes care of childcare as well, either she has to pay for it or have enough money to take time off from work. This leads to divorce really fast or else never getting married at all followed by separation. Then the woman has to get the state to chase down the man for his share of childcare expenses. Then men hate women and women hate men. The end.

This is just a typical scenario, there so many exceptions since nothing has been defined.

Gender, roles, and society have been defined. As such we use these words within our lexicon to refer to what they are.
Historically, in ALMOST, not all, societies, cultures... men were the leaders and workers and women were left home to raise and teach the children and do cooking cleaning etc. HISTORICALLY.
Since WWII (Rosie the riveter, without which we might not have won the war) things began to change. Women became empowered by their occupations, many would go on to divorce and remarry or stay divorced and support themselves. Men OF THE TIME, didn't like 'losing' their 'power' over women and the women's empowerment movement began and went on alongside racial integration and the civil rights movement BEFORE I WAS BORN. I'm not a biggot or a racist.
This being said one cannot remove either of the partners occupations or lack thereof when discussing our gender based roles in our relationships and in our society. Whether the man or the woman makes more money or has a job and the other partner does not factors greatly into our position in our relationships. This is true of friendship and family as well and even expands out into our communities and economics.

What about childcare? Did that need just disappear when women started to work? This has never been defined since the sexual revolution of the 60's happened and now we can see society crumbling and children suffering the most. I think the most realistic situation under the new gender roles would be for a man to marry a woman have children and then they fined another woman to enter their relationship, since women are being expected to do 2 roles at once, it takes 2 women to do them right?

I'm all about the progressive gals. I mean....chicks holding an AK-47 while making meatloaf is just so darn hawt!

Not a hot potato at all, it's just that the very term gender roles is pass�...Women's suffrage, the Equal Rights Amendment, birth control, financial independence and more impact the way in which couples share the responsibilities of cohabitation...Raising children, providing financial support, and homemaking are no longer his or hers, they are shared responsibilities determined by each couple's unique set of circumstances...It's called equality and it works... :-)

sorry to say in these times couples don't share parenting responsibilities. it usually only one parent takes on all the responsibilities due to divorce or one side doesn't take on enough of the roles as a parent.

That's right..the only thing women have gained is another job...making money. Now men have it easier while women have it harder. Women have not gained any rights in reality, they lost some.

I hear what you are saying and that was true in my case too when I was raising my daughter,,,,,BUT!,,,,,that is not true of every couple and the men I know today are sharing parenting responsibilities, right down to changing diapers and bottle feeding...

Maybe you are resistant to change?...Just stick with men who want a homemaker and stay at home mom...Like I said Estelle, gender roles are becoming a thing of the past and each couple decides for themselves (and together) how they want to run their home...

Children deserve to have 2 parents. It takes 2 to make a child after all. One of them should be around more, probably the one who breastfeeds the most, but it can vary I'm not being rigid about it. Motherhood has become a very difficult thing for women to find time for and apparently it's an "old fashioned" thing to be a mother who is present.

I'm looking into doing business on the internet because the last thing I ever want is to depend on a man in life. I want my daughter to learn that women can find ways around all the work we are now expected to do. But I won't leave my daughter alone with someone else all day when she isn't even old enough to tell me if that person hurt her. I don't know how a mother can do that honestly.