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| Topic: Asking girls out online vs IRL | |
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I haven't been on a date ever.
So I don't know jack. But what are the differences if any of how a guy should handle finding a girl to date both online and off? I dunno but it seems to me that if I just ask a girl if she wants to go out on a date I won't ever get any response even though they see the message. I dunno if this just cause I'm not their type or I'm doing something wrong. On the other hand if I "get to know them" first then I could be spending a lot of time on a girl who never had any interest in me in the first place. But again if I'm point blank it seems to be a turn off. I feel like it's hopeless. |
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ask, the worst that can happen is she says no and that is not the end of the world.
rejection is part of life, same as acceptance, so guess what, you have to learn to deal with each. the only way it's hopeless is if you don't participate. |
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Newsflash! Show interest in a girl you actually like, or think that you would like, and maybe she will show interest back. Be friendly and honest and maybe she will too. Try to be fun and considerate and not be a downer and self absorbed and miracles may happen.
Or, you could just buy a hooker and ask her how to live your life. |
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Or, you could just buy a hooker and ask her how to live your life. is that an extra charge for advice? |
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I know jack!
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Edited by
no1phD
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Sat 01/31/15 06:29 PM
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the difference between asking girls out online vs real life..
.. online they can't see me sweat..it.. . and hear my st st st stu stutter.. Lol....^.this..lol |
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the difference between asking girls out online vs real life.. .. online they can't see me sweat..it.. . and here my st st st stu stutter.. Lol.. Nah. Saw the spelling and made you for a stutterer :-) |
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I don't need advice on how to get rejected.
I already know how to do that. |
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Even if you meet a woman online the reality is you are going to have to ask her out in person. You have to look her in the eyes and ask her ,that's just how it is and every guy goes through it. If she says no then you have to swallow hard and try to find someone that you have more things in common with.There is not set answer every guy goes about it in different ways. Best of luck to you.
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Edited by
isaac_dede
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Sun 02/01/15 12:15 AM
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there is a book,(i've recommended it a few times on here), that basically states that you should try to be fun to be around, and learn to have fun with or without the girl. He states that it's better to "AMGOW" basically "Ask as a Man Going his Own Way" Basically have a plan already, and follow through with it. whether or not she says yes.
Example, instead of saying "Would you like to go to movies?" and then letting her pick the movie, time, etc everything, Say something more like "I"m going to go see the new Superman movie on Friday at 8pm wanna come?" If she says no, go anyway, then later tell her how good/bad etc it was, she may feel left out, and next time you ask maybe she'll say yes...of course every situation varies, but you get the general idea....basically don't rely on a woman for you to have a good time, start having a good time, and they will want to join as well. |
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Even if you meet a woman online the reality is you are going to have to ask her out in person. You have to look her in the eyes and ask her ,that's just how it is and every guy goes through it. If she says no then you have to swallow hard and try to find someone that you have more things in common with.There is not set answer every guy goes about it in different ways. Best of luck to you. Thank you some actual advice. Instead of patronizing me. |
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I don't need advice on how to get rejected. I already know how to do that. 
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there is a book,(i've recommended it a few times on here), that basically states that you should try to be fun to be around, and learn to have fun with or without the girl. He states that it's better to "AMGOW" basically "Ask as a Man Going his Own Way" Basically have a plan already, and follow through with it. whether or not she says yes. Example, instead of saying "Would you like to go to movies?" and then letting her pick the movie, time, etc everything, Say something more like "I"m going to go see the new Superman movie on Friday at 8pm wanna come?" If she says no, go anyway, then later tell her how good/bad etc it was, she may feel left out, and next time you ask maybe she'll say yes...of course every situation varies, but you get the general idea....basically don't rely on a woman for you to have a good time, start having a good time, and they will want to join as well. Thanks for the advice. But I dunno if it will work. I'm poor and boring. I don't have much of a life besides work, sleep and killing time on the computer. "You should get out more." I'm not an outdoorsy person and I never will be. I hate sports and I'm socially inept. And the things I WANT to do I can't. So really I don't blame girls for not being interested in me because I wouldn't be interested in me. I'm boring. :/ |
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I am honest so for me I would prefer straight forward after a few questions are answered to make sure we are not wasting our time meeting :)
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I am honest so for me I would prefer straight forward after a few questions are answered to make sure we are not wasting our time meeting :) I like girls like you. :) |
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Edited by
isaac_dede
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Sun 02/01/15 01:22 PM
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there is a book,(i've recommended it a few times on here), that basically states that you should try to be fun to be around, and learn to have fun with or without the girl. He states that it's better to "AMGOW" basically "Ask as a Man Going his Own Way" Basically have a plan already, and follow through with it. whether or not she says yes. Example, instead of saying "Would you like to go to movies?" and then letting her pick the movie, time, etc everything, Say something more like "I"m going to go see the new Superman movie on Friday at 8pm wanna come?" If she says no, go anyway, then later tell her how good/bad etc it was, she may feel left out, and next time you ask maybe she'll say yes...of course every situation varies, but you get the general idea....basically don't rely on a woman for you to have a good time, start having a good time, and they will want to join as well. Thanks for the advice. But I dunno if it will work. I'm poor and boring. I don't have much of a life besides work, sleep and killing time on the computer. "You should get out more." I'm not an outdoorsy person and I never will be. I hate sports and I'm socially inept. And the things I WANT to do I can't. So really I don't blame girls for not being interested in me because I wouldn't be interested in me. I'm boring. :/ Ok, you're probably going to lump me in to some pool of perceived "Jerks" for saying this...but I don't care. "I don't have much of a life"....... Then GET OFF THE COMPUTER and get a life! Seriously, if you do miraculously find a girl where are you going to ask her out to? Let me guess...She can just come over and watch you play on your computer, and then your mad Googling skills are going to get her so hot&bothered that'll she just rip her clothes off and jump on your bed, waiting for you to show her those killer moves you learned from watching hours of porn....Yeah that's NOT going to happen sorry. You don't even have to spend money, ask her to go on a hike, to the beach, to a nearby park to play frisbee or even just swing on the swings and talk. My point is, a computer(and the social interactions therein) will NEVER substitute for RL relationships. Many shy people are GREAT at chatting on-line but you meet with them once and the have the conversational skills of a moose..if you're lucky. There is a way to get over being "socially inept" it's called socializing so what if you aren't good at it, just do it, like with anything if it's not natural it takes practice, so go practice already...and who knows maybe in the process you'll meet someone when you're least expecting it. Good Luck |
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there is a book,(i've recommended it a few times on here), that basically states that you should try to be fun to be around, and learn to have fun with or without the girl. He states that it's better to "AMGOW" basically "Ask as a Man Going his Own Way" Basically have a plan already, and follow through with it. whether or not she says yes. Example, instead of saying "Would you like to go to movies?" and then letting her pick the movie, time, etc everything, Say something more like "I"m going to go see the new Superman movie on Friday at 8pm wanna come?" If she says no, go anyway, then later tell her how good/bad etc it was, she may feel left out, and next time you ask maybe she'll say yes...of course every situation varies, but you get the general idea....basically don't rely on a woman for you to have a good time, start having a good time, and they will want to join as well. Ok, you're probably going to lump me in to some pool of perceived "Jerks" for saying this...but I don't care. "I don't have much of a life"....... Then GET OFF THE COMPUTER and get a life! Seriously, if you do miraculously find a girl where are you going to ask her out to? Let me guess...She can just come over and watch you play on your computer, and then your mad Googling skills are going to get her so hot&bothered that'll she just rip her clothes off and jump on your bed, waiting for you to show her those killer moves you learned from watching hours of porn....Yeah that's NOT going to happen sorry. You don't even have to spend money, ask her to go on a hike, to the beach, to a nearby park to play frisbee or even just swing on the swings and talk. My point is, a computer(and the social interactions therein) will NEVER substitute for RL relationships. Many shy people are GREAT at chatting on-line but you meet with them once and the have the conversational skills of a moose..if you're lucky. There is a way to get over being "socially inept" it's called socializing so what if you aren't good at it, just do it, like with anything if it's not natural it takes practice, so go practice already...and who knows maybe in the process you'll meet someone when you're least expecting it. Good Luck ALl good advice here. |
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:)
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