Although, I have dated/been in relationships with men in 30s n 40s since I was 18...now that I am in my 30s, I wonder if I got it all wrong from the beginning.?. Maybe things would be different if I had looked to men my own age at the time...

You can't change the past, but you can certainly do something about your future.
Good luck

Hi

Yeh it is all true what u said dear

Yes it becomes harder every year because we become wiser and our awareness levels are higher weeding out scammers and the undesirables

I wanna go on a date but I'm in my 40s its so rare to see available men of the same age in my area...

I'm sure it is harder as you get older. Most in their 40's 50's have kids, which add a different dimension to dating and they are a bit more settled in their ways and lifestyle, Which I think would make the process more difficult.

Agree... Reality bites!

yeah.. Lol.. but as your kids get older.. dating gets easier. As they then understand that you need a life.

When they are younger, most don't even look at their parent as even human.. its just Mom & Dad

then you just have to tackle the " settled in your ways thing" :)

its not were trading in for younger. were trading in the old one for a woman that does'nt b***h as much.some woman dont get it,,we want to be happy,,not nagged to death,,,

Then why do men trade their older wife for a younger one?

" trading in" their wives... it is not a flea market, Estelle

its in the perception,,

its not 'harder to date'

its just actually alot more natural and 'easier to not date',,,lol

It is not harder to date it is harder to accept a date.As you grow older you become wiser and your choices in love are well defined...so you don't fall for the one that comes with a box load of promises if there is no connection..Being older your choices matter most.. and you put them as first priority..

I think if anything it becomes easier to date. I do think we are more selective as we grow older and hopefully a bit more wiser... I have had a range quite wide on dating.I have dated someone that was almost 20 years younger and I married someone 24 years older.

For me I know more what I want out of life. I am not afraid to say so. In doing this though just because I may want it doesn't mean I will get it.

I think it is harder for men as they get older. Women have guys throw themselves at them. Men have to try and act all grown up and impress. Men don't worry about money as much and it seems money, looks, and sex are huge issues with women. I have a lot of compassion, love, to offer, but that is about it. I am not attractive, but not ugly, and my life is not even what I want so I wouldn't expect anyone to want me right now. Lol There is so much more standards and expectations on men than on women. I have 4 sisters so I do get to see both sides.

I so disagree with you. Respectfully of course.

1. Men as they get older it is okay for them to get a paunch got help us women that start having gravity work againest us.

2. Men can act more like a kid.. Try watching a couple of women have a something as simple as a water fight..We get dirty jokes about our shirts and told we are too old for this. Men get a chuckle men will be men the only difference between men and boys is the price of their toys.

3.If you think you are unattractive then you are.. I know I don't stop a 8 day clock but I am not so ugly that I have to have a pork chop wrapped around my neck to get the dog to play with me. So there is going to be someone that is going think I will light up his world.

Just IMO

I thought this post said is it harder to get a date when getting older. lol I was thinking along the lines as guys are perves and men throw themselves at women. Women do not throw themselves at men. Most of the time. Women, just think of how wild the world would be if you did not add such a respectable balance. The world would be severely over populated and poverty rates would be ungodly. I am not joking either. Men really do not think when it comes to intimate moments.

I don't know if it's necessarily harder to get dates as you age.
I do think I tend to be pretty picky/choosy if ya know what I mean.

It does get harder to FIND a man worth dating as I get older, it seems I get better with time but lot's of single men get worse. They say that a married man lives longer than an unmarried man, but women outlive men no matter if they are single or married. There must be something wrong with the single older men category that no woman can fix.