Ok I work in this office. One day this man that my manager got life insurance form starts talking to me. Great, humble man. We talked really good about four times. One day he shows up to talk to me. Okay what about I wonder?? He shares with me he knows the PERFECT man for me. What do I do I gave him my info. Then I ask how old is your friend he says 50 something. I lost my thought. I am 33 Im looking but for someone around my age. Well so we went out because I did not want to be rude. He wants to come to my church wow!! no that is my place. He meets me there. We go to brunch and talk. Ok he is a doctor and went to yale. Yes that is great but I just went out with him not to be rude. I told no one in my family this. Just all you great people that are taking the time to read my words ( THANKS) by the way. I have not called him I'm not in to him or his age. I deserve someone my age. But I feel that he thinks I'm rude for not calling him. Let me know what you think of my funny story. Blind dates gotta love them. The romantic part was when he put my jaket on for me. ( But It felt like my dad) Ha ha right??

Sounds like this guy is a really nice guy. You may find him not in the age group you desire, but many of us would love to meet someone like that.You lucked out it seems and don't even recognize it. It's fine if you are not attracted to him, but don't lead him on. You need to be honest with him about your lack of interest to pursue anything beyond friendship. Just let him know you are looking for someone closer to your own age...and be kind when you do so.

introduce him to JSH

Be honest with this man and let him go on to find someone else.

Hope you find someone around your age...

Yes I agree snuggels...

Lass sounds like all but the age group fits you have to decide what is importsnt to you. Me That's still a deal breaker I've just gotten a little more lienent in the upper range, but i still wouldn't go that far. AQ be straight with him and explain your earlier actions. I know from experience telling Yes, it will hurt, it will hurt for a long time but, in the end it is easier for him to move on rather than wait on your reaction.

Send him over to JSH......

You went out with him, just to be nice. Being honest would have been better and turning down the date more Mature.

However, since you were nice enough to accept the date, you should now be mature enough to explain that you are not interested in continueing.

Communication is all that we have to keep us civil and it's often all that we have to maintain our self confidence. By not doing the responsible thing and communicating your decision, you are no longer being nice. What changed?

I was in the same situation as you... guy was alot older than me but once I realized that he was the kindest most sincere man I have ever met my heart was his... we're getting married in exactly one month!

I usually go after older women, but last might I met somone on JSH that is younger and we are talking.....

Why does so many people have a big hang up about age? You might have just messed up the best thing that you could have had!! I say if you want to remain NICE...tell him that you have a hang up about his age. Do both of you a favor and be nice and be honest with him!!
Do like the other ladies said...tell him about JustSayHi...I am sure that some of the ladies would make him feel right at home

AQlla, part of the beauty of trusting God is that HE knows better what we need than we do-if we are truly living within his will.
Alot of times, what we want is not the same as what God knows we need to have. By rejecting this man simply because of his age, you may be passing up a great blessing that God is trying to give.
pray about it-with a truly sincere heart-before you just write this fella off.
You certainly owe this man the truth. If he wants to come to church with you, he may be looking for God, and you have been chosen to help him find what he is seeking.
please be very careful before you set a very un-Godly example.

Just be honest. If you want to stay friends -- that's good. Maybe he is looking for God. If your gut is telling you to do the right thing -- you owe it to yourself and him to do it. I know it can be awkward, but you'll feel better for the honesty. It might hurt him alittle, but he'll appreciate your honesty too.

Wow!!! I was so happy when I read all this words. Today , being friday before I had the chance to read all this wonderful feedback I typed him a really good honest letter. I love to write. And than I signed on and read all of this inputs. You all are to cool. Just to add Lance does attend church every sunday. As amatter of fact that day we meet my service was his second service. I respect everyone because his or her heart beats like mine. But he made me feel like he was my father. The man that told me about Lance failed to mention his age why?? I wonder?? after him asking for my info I asked how old is he?? He said 51. I was like no give me my info back. But you learn and I did. Next time I will ask his age first.Thanks to all for being so nice.

For some people age isn't an issue. I actually know quite a few older men who are in relationships with women half their age. My last girlfriend was 15 years younger than me. I might add that she was the one who initiated our relationship, and she was fully aware of my age.

This summer two women in their late 20’s were expressing a very sincere desire to become involved with me in a serious and continued commitment. I’m 58.

I’m not suggesting that you should ignore age. If it’s important to you that you find someone who is similar in age as yourself that’s totally understandable. There are many people who feel that way.

All I’m saying it that there are also many people who don’t care about age, they are more interested in the person and the potential relationship. But if age is important to you, then you should certainly inquire about that up front.

You should be ashamed of yourself for not calling him and being honest. Off with you head ! lol

Be honest-- of the two of you, he sounds like the one with the maturity to be able to deal with it. You need to go back to wondering why the younger good looking guys never treat you right for awhile. Maybe then you'll have a more open mind.

Some people love dating outside their age range. I get hit on by younger guys all the time. I relate better about a generation behind me. (like 20 years sometimes LOL)

BUT not everyone is that way. Do what's right for you.

Bottom line .. if you feel no connection then move on and try to stay friends.

I'm glad you wrote him an honest answer A. Has he replied to your letter? God bless. Donna

if we are compatible than age isnt an issue..