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Netflix and lots of casual sex.
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(In response to Unknown_Romeo) Then it's best to leave. But I think the best relationships usually start with couples who met before they reached the age of maturity. I've heard lot's of good stories about couples who were high school sweethearts and about how they end up being happily married for life. For one thing they can share the same memories, shape each other's goals and lives to make better choices, and they no doubt protect each other from many things in life that happen to single people when they're young and throughout life. That's the point in having a partner in life, to share everything with and not do it all alone. What's the point when you've already done it all alone? It would be the ideal if it would work for everybody. I know such couples. Noone would feel misery of broken heart. But for most it unfortunately doesn�t work like that. Or not unfortunately - it�s always painful - but it depends what we choose to pick out of it. That pain can help us grow as persons. And also teach us to recognize good things, good people, when they happen to us. People who were most hurted can really feel love, joy and happiness, when they come, much deeper and stronger then the others. Those people can overcome the pain and hurt by giving the opposit to the world. Each wound teach us to be more compassionate, more understanding and afraid just of one thing: of hurting other people in a way we were hurted. And in that point wound starts to be a blessing. I wish to all of us to be able to transform every sorrowful moment of our lives into joy and love  And, if Davidben allow me, i�ll quote him: peace  Not everyone is that mature to deal with the past the way you described it. I have seen many immature people whose pain was so strong that it blinded them and turned them into selfish emotional cripples. They are afraid of love because it reminds them of being hurt and have trust issues in their relationships. It would be nice to see more of the people you described and less of those I have seen here online. And offline too. Online or offline situations are pretty much the same. The main difference is that it's easier to pretend and play games online than in person. |
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A quick question for all: What's the easiest way to move on from being heartbroken? Your answers will be greatly appreciated. Thanks. :-) For me it works when i stop all form of communication with the person that broke the heart.....no matter how hard it gets do not communicate at all until you completely healed....and keep urself busy with constructive things.....that worked for me.... that's the problem, actually. i can't seem to stop communicating with him. blocked him on all socia media accounts, but keeps on texting with him. :( if you can get over your heartache that way then its cool but usually its best to stop communication til you heal....in a scenario like that it leaves oneself vulnerable to stop communication with the one that hurt them but put yo foot down and do what makes you happy. If someone is giving you pain and heartache eliminate them from the equation. i don't believe in rebound relationships...Ive never been in one and for peace of mind you can be better without one.....dont jump into a relationship just coz you feeling low or lonely etc....do it for the right reasons.... i highly-agree with you on this one. . .thank you very much. |
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for me - there is no easy way - somebody told me, that I should use another relationship after breakup- nothing for me - it wouldn�t be fair to that other guy. i get what you mean. having a rebound relationship is not good. my own conscience always tells me that. :( precisely, I would feel it like cheating and wouldn�t be able to look at my own eyes in the mirror. wish you very soon recovering and all the happiness you can contain exactly. and thanks. :) |
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There is no easy way... you will just have to go through it all.. It takes time. Try to not communicate with him anymore .. if you still find that hard, then don't reply straight away, wait at least a few hours. That way you 'wean' yourself, sometimes that's what it takes, sometimes it's too much to sever all ties in one go. But keep working on being in touch less and less. What always worked for me, is promising myself I could get in touch with him after two weeks. That gave me something to hang on to, knowing that I would allow myself to get in touch. And the good thing is, by the time the two weeks had gone by, I didn't need to get in touch anymore! That made me feel soooo good! And helped me to get over it and move on with my life. This one really touched me. And yes, I do think you're right. Especially with the last part. Thank you so much for this advice. :) |
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(In response to Unknown_Romeo) Then it's best to leave. But I think the best relationships usually start with couples who met before they reached the age of maturity. I've heard lot's of good stories about couples who were high school sweethearts and about how they end up being happily married for life. For one thing they can share the same memories, shape each other's goals and lives to make better choices, and they no doubt protect each other from many things in life that happen to single people when they're young and throughout life. That's the point in having a partner in life, to share everything with and not do it all alone. What's the point when you've already done it all alone? It would be the ideal if it would work for everybody. I know such couples. Noone would feel misery of broken heart. But for most it unfortunately doesn�t work like that. Or not unfortunately - it�s always painful - but it depends what we choose to pick out of it. That pain can help us grow as persons. And also teach us to recognize good things, good people, when they happen to us. People who were most hurted can really feel love, joy and happiness, when they come, much deeper and stronger then the others. Those people can overcome the pain and hurt by giving the opposit to the world. Each wound teach us to be more compassionate, more understanding and afraid just of one thing: of hurting other people in a way we were hurted. And in that point wound starts to be a blessing. I wish to all of us to be able to transform every sorrowful moment of our lives into joy and love And, if Davidben allow me, i�ll quote him: peace Not everyone is that mature to deal with the past the way you described it. I have seen many immature people whose pain was so strong that it blinded them and turned them into selfish emotional cripples. They are afraid of love because it reminds them of being hurt and have trust issues in their relationships. It would be nice to see more of the people you described and less of those I have seen here online. And offline too. Online or offline situations are pretty much the same. The main difference is that it's easier to pretend and play games online than in person. You�re right Journey, some of those people hurted me too. The first guy I was with hated women, because he was hurted in the past - he hurted me very badly emotionaly and physically. And not only him. That�s the reason no hurt can surprise me and make me cry. But kindness and warmness always can. The choice how we react on wounds we get is just up to us. It�s like a chain: you hurt me, i hurt someone else etc. But I can also decide to break the chain. Be more careful, yes, but still consciously decide to spread the opposit toward others. pain we felt is not bigger or smaller if we decide to behave one way or another, it�s not. But it can burry us or teach us fly. Choice is always ours. It�s just up to us. |
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Yes, stopping all communications. But what about when you have two kids with them? And you have to look at them for the rest of your life???
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Yes, stopping all communications. But what about when you have two kids with them? And you have to look at them for the rest of your life??? then one must dig deep painfully... as many of us know and have found out... for to create an enemy out of HER, is to create a forever opposition against one self, so to create one opposed to one self, no matter what good one self loves and wishes to create for those he truly loves and adores... for in life, let no one be strong enough or harsh enough to steal one's simple love for all. may peace and wisdom be showered graciously unto all. |
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A quick question for all: What's the easiest way to move on from being heartbroken? Your answers will be greatly appreciated. Thanks. :-)   
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A quick question for all: What's the easiest way to move on from being heartbroken? Your answers will be greatly appreciated. Thanks. :-) i use playboy but that's just me  
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shame on the boys who deem a women's unhappiness she her self created.
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I'm in the same boat I work with her at the gym evreyeyday but we sort of getting along as time goes on. My advice to you would be to move out if posible because when you see each other with new partners is going to hurt so bad trust me
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its hard... i have the same dilemma but after two years, i know i already moved on. things that helped were.. i was always thinking that there is someone better, i also stopped comminicating with him, i focused myself to other things like my work, friends also helped, a big help actually and ofcourse prayers my dear...
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its hard... i have the same dilemma but after two years, i know i already moved on. things that helped were.. i was always thinking that there is someone better, i also stopped comminicating with him, i focused myself to other things like my work, friends also helped, a big help actually and ofcourse prayers my dear...
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Thanks for the advice. Iv been going out with my friends and having fun trying to take my mind of evreything . Its just hard having to work with her
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Just leave your pity party, and go in search of a bigger party!!
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Iv been partying so hard I don't know how much more my liver will take
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A quick question for all: What's the easiest way to move on from being heartbroken? Your answers will be greatly appreciated. Thanks. :-)  ,.........don't do that ,I'm kidding lol,you gata hangout alot,round friends and positive people,meet a guy or two,mabye then,you'll get to realize and except the fact that it's his lost!
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Edited by
mysticalview21
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Sat 12/20/14 07:44 AM
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What if you're housemates?how do you move on? I would think you would have to get separated...or your just going to keep getting hurt ... and be stuck if u don't and stop all intimacy ...an or a agreement to never bring your dates home ... |
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Yeah how to move on if you have a kid from him. Its so painful to see him happy with someone else and not letting you and your kid go.
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