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Topic: TO FLIRT OR NOT TO FLIRT
germanchoclate1981 Joined Wed 10/18/06 Posts: 1245	Sun 12/07/14 10:44 PM
<-- Double nutter, at least the last time I checked. Yeah.....got those too! Lots and lots of them out there! Pun intended. Guess you missed it. Yes you might lose a friend but you might lose a chance at something more too. I have lost Both by being too brash or too timid so you have to weigh your options and ask yourself what you aren't willing to lose. Also if you have the hots for someone they usually really aren't your friend, you're just saving them for later. The greatest abuse of Any word in the last 15 years is friend.

intoyouhard Joined Sun 12/07/14 Posts: 1	Mon 12/08/14 12:36 AM
Hey cutie

Amelinng Joined Tue 08/12/14 Posts: 1547	Mon 12/08/14 12:38 AM Edited by Amelinng on Mon 12/08/14 12:39 AM
<-- Double nutter, at least the last time I checked. Yeah.....got those too! Lots and lots of them out there! Pun intended. Guess you missed it. Yes you might lose a friend but you might lose a chance at something more too. I have lost Both by being too brash or too timid so you have to weigh your options and ask yourself what you aren't willing to lose. Also if you have the hots for someone they usually really aren't your friend, you're just saving them for later. The greatest abuse of Any word in the last 15 years is friend. I'm a dork sometimes....it is the cultural & language differences! So, I may have missed something, or misread something, misinterpreted or misconstrued...a bit dim there, LOL! Anyway, I wish I could rewind and said it a little differently.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎 Joined Mon 05/20/13 Posts: 33379	Mon 12/08/14 02:01 AM
<-- Double nutter, at least the last time I checked. Yeah.....got those too! Lots and lots of them out there! Pun intended. Guess you missed it. Yes you might lose a friend but you might lose a chance at something more too. I have lost Both by being too brash or too timid so you have to weigh your options and ask yourself what you aren't willing to lose. Also if you have the hots for someone they usually really aren't your friend, you're just saving them for later. The greatest abuse of Any word in the last 15 years is friend. I'm a dork sometimes....it is the cultural & language differences! So, I may have missed something, or misread something, misinterpreted or misconstrued...a bit dim there, LOL! Anyway, I wish I could rewind and said it a little differently. One of the best things I've heard of late is: Do NOT beat yourself over such things!!! Ever! We all say or do things at time that make us feel awkward. So what? If someone's so easily upset, he clearly isn't right for you anyways. But don't beat yourself up over it!

Chrissyboy2702 Joined Sat 12/06/14 Posts: 275	Mon 12/08/14 03:02 AM
Flirting always gonna be a dangerous game but if you're a flirt by nature then best to get to know your intended partner first. & you never know what fun could be had. We've all done it & all learned from it. x

Amelinng Joined Tue 08/12/14 Posts: 1547	Mon 12/08/14 03:40 AM
Flirting always gonna be a dangerous game but if you're a flirt by nature then best to get to know your intended partner first. & you never know what fun could be had. We've all done it & all learned from it. x I must have 'flirt' written all over my face....but I am far from it! One of the best things I've heard of late is: Do NOT beat yourself over such things!!! Ever! We all say or do things at time that make us feel awkward. So what? If someone's so easily upset, he clearly isn't right for you anyways. But don't beat yourself up over it! flowerforyou I do that a lot...beating myself up! Self inflicted guilt trip...LOL! Best advice yet for me.... I will have to remember that. Thanks, Crystal!

Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Mon 12/08/14 04:01 PM Edited by Awatersign on Mon 12/08/14 04:12 PM
Rule #1,in a relationship,NOT GOOD ,rule #2,not in a relationship,OH.GAME ON ,and as far as the friendship part,it's only bad when it's unwanted ,and here's how you flirt with a friend if your not sure where their head is,you just simply start out really light and see how they respond and go from their,after all,you be friends then lovers right?! And yes flirting cud be dangerous,just know how far to go ,especially if you ain't into nothing and who you're flirting with,sometimes we're unaware that we're actually flirting!!! (flirting lol haha)

Amelinng Joined Tue 08/12/14 Posts: 1547	Mon 12/08/14 05:15 PM
Rule #1,in a relationship,NOT GOOD ,rule #2,not in a relationship,OH.GAME ON ,and as far as the friendship part,it's only bad when it's unwanted ,and here's how you flirt with a friend if your not sure where their head is,you just simply start out really light and see how they respond and go from their,after all,you be friends then lovers right?! And yes flirting cud be dangerous,just know how far to go ,especially if you ain't into nothing and who you're flirting with,sometimes we're unaware that we're actually flirting!!! (flirting lol haha) Yeah.....guess I do that then! Flirting without being aware I was. So should I watch who I talk to? But it would no longer be me! Your thread, Awatersign, being me.....that is the me changing with the times and the experiences and the circumstances. Anyway, thanks guys for all your feedback...I'm feeling better now, your opinions matters and I am better equipped to deal with it. END OF THREAD.....THANKS ALL!

Kindlightheart Joined Fri 09/19/14 Posts: 2370	Mon 12/08/14 07:54 PM
Flirting always gonna be a dangerous game but if you're a flirt by nature then best to get to know your intended partner first. & you never know what fun could be had. We've all done it & all learned from it. x ...so true..lol...funny in person easy to read whats really up...texting easy to misread...but flirting still has its fun side...kinda like jumping off bridges...best to check how deep the water is first...or could be very dangerous...

Chrissyboy2702 Joined Sat 12/06/14 Posts: 275	Mon 12/08/14 11:38 PM
Flirting always gonna be a dangerous game but if you're a flirt by nature then best to get to know your intended partner first. & you never know what fun could be had. We've all done it & all learned from it. x ...so true..lol...funny in person easy to read whats really up...texting easy to misread...but flirting still has its fun side...kinda like jumping off bridges...best to check how deep the water is first...or could be very dangerous... I like that analogy, nice one

Amelinng Joined Tue 08/12/14 Posts: 1547	Tue 12/09/14 12:15 AM
Flirting always gonna be a dangerous game but if you're a flirt by nature then best to get to know your intended partner first. & you never know what fun could be had. We've all done it & all learned from it. x ...so true..lol...funny in person easy to read whats really up...texting easy to misread...but flirting still has its fun side...kinda like jumping off bridges...best to check how deep the water is first...or could be very dangerous... KLHeart Yeah....I jumped and the water was deep...real DEEP! Good thing I can swim! LOL!!

messi_is_a_tim_1888 Joined Fri 11/28/14 Posts: 3309	Tue 12/09/14 12:28 AM
So, I have come to the conclusion.....Flirting is dangerous! When I made this observation, a friend promptly replied that he would put that on his headstone. I made a blunder...and now I have lost a friend. Sometimes flirting should not be allowed to happen....at all, period. And when one party doesn't accept that kind of flirting, a friendship is at risk. It may spell the end of that friendship....but frankly, it was not rejection! Just that it could be misunderstood or be carried too far, and become uncomfortable, or it is just too soon, too early ......thus, the dangerous label! Hmmm......what am I talking about? The only thing I want put on my headstone and in really small letters, so if anyone wants to read it they have to go right up to it and it says "F#*k off, you're standing on my balls!" Flirting is natural and a lot of us do it without realising it.

Amelinng Joined Tue 08/12/14 Posts: 1547	Tue 12/09/14 12:35 AM
So, I have come to the conclusion.....Flirting is dangerous! When I made this observation, a friend promptly replied that he would put that on his headstone. I made a blunder...and now I have lost a friend. Sometimes flirting should not be allowed to happen....at all, period. And when one party doesn't accept that kind of flirting, a friendship is at risk. It may spell the end of that friendship....but frankly, it was not rejection! Just that it could be misunderstood or be carried too far, and become uncomfortable, or it is just too soon, too early ......thus, the dangerous label! Hmmm......what am I talking about? The only thing I want put on my headstone and in really small letters, so if anyone wants to read it they have to go right up to it and it says "F#*k off, you're standing on my balls!" Flirting is natural and a lot of us do it without realising it. Yeah yeah.... can you please put that in bigger prints please! We old folks tend to have eye sight problems!! My next topic will be "what would you put on your headstone??"

mysticalview21 Joined Sat 06/28/14 Posts: 5462	Sun 12/14/14 07:07 AM
I don't get it Op he saw u flirting in the forums and did not like it or you flirted with him and he did not like it ... well if he can not except your apology in telling him you didn't know it or meant to then he was not worth all that trouble as a friend ... the forums i have found you see friends joking teasing flirting all the time and trying to not step over the boundary if you believe someone my be a couple and their not coming right out and saying they are ... or their friend in each others sites ... forums are pretty tricky when it comes to that... so I just leave well enough alone and just like the forums with no intent in mind ... sorry u lost your friend ... you made it sounds as if was jealousy and you where his only ... not sure but more sorry for him you seem to be a lovely women to have as a friend ...

1j9b6c5 Joined Wed 11/05/08 Posts: 3954	Sun 12/14/14 07:24 AM
Does batting my eyelashes and making goo-goo eyes count?

Chrissyboy2702 Joined Sat 12/06/14 Posts: 275	Sun 12/14/14 07:27 AM
Does batting my eyelashes and making goo-goo eyes count? As long as it's not at me it does

Amelinng Joined Tue 08/12/14 Posts: 1547	Sun 12/14/14 02:21 PM
I don't get it Op he saw u flirting in the forums and did not like it or you flirted with him and he did not like it ... well if he can not except your apology in telling him you didn't know it or meant to then he was not worth all that trouble as a friend ... the forums i have found you see friends joking teasing flirting all the time and trying to not step over the boundary if you believe someone my be a couple and their not coming right out and saying they are ... or their friend in each others sites ... forums are pretty tricky when it comes to that... so I just leave well enough alone and just like the forums with no intent in mind ... sorry u lost your friend ... you made it sounds as if was jealousy and you where his only ... not sure but more sorry for him you seem to be a lovely women to have as a friend ... Oh dear...I have been misunderstood! That is all my fault for leaving it ambiguous in my OP....it was just a rant! It was nothing like what you described above, just something that happens in personal messages. Those who corresponds with me will know how I am like, so, that's it. I am afraid I can't go into details here, so, thanks everyone for your feedback. So, anyway, flirting comes naturally when you are having fun corresponding with someone and it happens more often that you would think, and it doesn't always mean you are seriously into something. Just have to draw the boundaries......! Thanks, Mystical

Amelinng Joined Tue 08/12/14 Posts: 1547	Sun 12/14/14 02:29 PM
Does batting my eyelashes and making goo-goo eyes count? It would.....unless you have dust in your eyes, then it could be misunderstood! As long as it's not at me it does Santa.....behave!!

Kindlightheart Joined Fri 09/19/14 Posts: 2370	Sun 12/14/14 02:59 PM
Flirting always gonna be a dangerous game but if you're a flirt by nature then best to get to know your intended partner first. & you never know what fun could be had. We've all done it & all learned from it. x ...so true..lol...funny in person easy to read whats really up...texting easy to misread...but flirting still has its fun side...kinda like jumping off bridges...best to check how deep the water is first...or could be very dangerous... KLHeart Yeah....I jumped and the water was deep...real DEEP! Good thing I can swim! LOL!! lol...mine was the opposite...jumped right in and slammed hard into the rocks...think I will stick to just wading around in the shallow water...but I can say the heart racing intensity before and during the jump was a rush...and I didn't break any bones...just wounded my pride a little...lol

Amelinng Joined Tue 08/12/14 Posts: 1547	Sun 12/14/14 03:07 PM
Flirting always gonna be a dangerous game but if you're a flirt by nature then best to get to know your intended partner first. & you never know what fun could be had. We've all done it & all learned from it. x ...so true..lol...funny in person easy to read whats really up...texting easy to misread...but flirting still has its fun side...kinda like jumping off bridges...best to check how deep the water is first...or could be very dangerous... KLHeart Yeah....I jumped and the water was deep...real DEEP! Good thing I can swim! LOL!! lol...mine was the opposite...jumped right in and slammed hard into the rocks...think I will stick to just wading around in the shallow water...but I can say the heart racing intensity before and during the jump was a rush...and I didn't break any bones...just wounded my pride a little...lol KLHeart...yeah, the jumping/diving is exciting figuratively speaking! I would choose the swimming pool next time I jump...no rocks to contend with and no danger of breaking of bones or pride!