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The biggest obstacle I have had to overcome on this site is sounding too "pretentious" or "superior." I am someone who is very confident in her intelligence, so I don't try to dumb down my use of language. Unfortunately, many guys see this as a negative. As far as I can tell, they are either threatened by the prospect of a smart woman being able to see through their bullsh*t, or they just don't find intelligence attractive. What is your opinion? Do you subconsciously judge people based on their intelligence? I quite agree that many guys are indeed threatened by an intelligent woman and found that they are certainly not worth dating. Sounds like they are insecure little boys and personally I would think you would want a secure and intelligent man. |
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In response to James - Wow, your comment is very dissapointing for me to read. I would hope it would be the opposite because I think that your opinion is part of the reason why girls can act very "stupid" to get attention. Looking at the age of James;I suspect that being such a young man; this would not be an unusual response. You must also remember a man can control a dumb woman but not a smart woman. I have always thought it is about control in these types of relationships as opposed to a partnership type of relationship. |
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Ok.. the op..is 19
 .... not expecting a lot.. just saying..
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Well, as far as I've understood men aren't at all that scared of an intelligent woman. But they want a woman, someone who can feel and is in touch with her feelings, not a college professor. If you're in your head all the time, you communicate with men like they do with their mates. Great if you want to be friend-zoned, not so much if you want a partner.
Many women these days have been sort of brainwashed by society to act this way, basically most women function from masculine energy as opposed to feminine energy. And as one expert said "No man wants another 'man' next to him, not even if she's pretty" Psychologically speaking men need women to be able to connect to their emotions. That way men & women can connect. So if a woman isn't in touch with hers ... you can't really connect. Yes, you can connect to his brain, not to his heart .. |
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Well, as far as I've understood men aren't at all that scared of an intelligent woman. But they want a woman, someone who can feel and is in touch with her feelings, not a college professor. If you're in your head all the time, you communicate with men like they do with their mates. Great if you want to be friend-zoned, not so much if you want a partner. Many women these days have been sort of brainwashed by society to act this way, basically most women function from masculine energy as opposed to feminine energy. And as one expert said "No man wants another 'man' next to him, not even if she's pretty" Psychologically speaking men need women to be able to connect to their emotions. That way men & women can connect. So if a woman isn't in touch with hers ... you can't really connect. Yes, you can connect to his brain, not to his heart .. I like your take on this. I think that is partially what has happened to me a lot; I get friend-zoned or denied because I sometimes connect with men in a different way than they want. Thanks! |
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Well, as far as I've understood men aren't at all that scared of an intelligent woman. But they want a woman, someone who can feel and is in touch with her feelings, not a college professor. If you're in your head all the time, you communicate with men like they do with their mates. Great if you want to be friend-zoned, not so much if you want a partner. Many women these days have been sort of brainwashed by society to act this way, basically most women function from masculine energy as opposed to feminine energy. And as one expert said "No man wants another 'man' next to him, not even if she's pretty" Psychologically speaking men need women to be able to connect to their emotions. That way men & women can connect. So if a woman isn't in touch with hers ... you can't really connect. Yes, you can connect to his brain, not to his heart .. |
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The biggest obstacle I have had to overcome on this site is sounding too "pretentious" or "superior." I am someone who is very confident in her intelligence, so I don't try to dumb down my use of language. Unfortunately, many guys see this as a negative. As far as I can tell, they are either threatened by the prospect of a smart woman being able to see through their bullsh*t, or they just don't find intelligence attractive. What is your opinion? Do you subconsciously judge people based on their intelligence? i find intelligennce very attractive in a woman..... dull people really put mÄ› off....and i'm yet to meet a woman on the same level of intellect |
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In my experience, what seems to be off-putting to many men and women, is someone who is an intellectual thinker and communicator. So many societies glorify trivial conversation; that's what the majority of people have been conditioned to think is normal - it's what they're comfortable with. Like with most things - finding a balance point that allows you to achieve your goal without compromising who you are is the challenge.
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The biggest obstacle I have had to overcome on this site is sounding too "pretentious" or "superior." I am someone who is very confident in her intelligence, so I don't try to dumb down my use of language. Unfortunately, many guys see this as a negative. As far as I can tell, they are either threatened by the prospect of a smart woman being able to see through their bullsh*t, or they just don't find intelligence attractive. What is your opinion? Do you subconsciously judge people based on their intelligence? 
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I like a woman with an attitude..
for learning.... learning how to cook.. learning how to clean.... .. oh and if she can sew a button on a shirt... big turn on.... and if she can bake... Goldstar.. for her..lmao.. 
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You enjoy a little late night Martha Stewart porn, do ya, no1?
  
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oh please yes please...lol.. who does not like a little Stewart porn....
. I will take a woman that can cook clean bake... run a household... ... over some.. over educated professional woman any day of the week.... don't get me wrong brains are good...... but I can't eat smarts.. .. and women are losing that ability.. . to know how to look after a household .. |
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oh please yes please...lol.. who does not like a little Stewart porn.... . I will take a woman that can cook clean bake... run a household... ... over some.. over educated professional woman any day of the week.... don't get me wrong brains are good...... but I can't eat smarts.. .. and women are losing that ability.. . to know how to look after a household .. We didn't lose it, we're handing it over to you for free...see how it all works out. Oh wait what do you mean it's not a valued ability b/c you don't get paid for it...what do you mean you don't want it...it was good enough for us! The line to court a Duggar daughter starts here...LOL! |
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.. I have to make a topic about this..^^lol..
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oh please yes please...lol.. who does not like a little Stewart porn.... . I will take a woman that can cook clean bake... run a household... ... over some.. over educated professional woman any day of the week.... don't get me wrong brains are good...... but I can't eat smarts.. .. and women are losing that ability.. . to know how to look after a household .. We didn't lose it, we're handing it over to you for free...see how it all works out. Oh wait what do you mean it's not a valued ability b/c you don't get paid for it...what do you mean you don't want it...it was good enough for us! The line to court a Duggar daughter starts here...LOL! And, we're working on perfecting that whole "YOU go ahead and get pregnant and carry it around for 9 months before popping it out"-thingy, so WE can bitchandmoan at YOU about YOUR stretch marks and the extra baby weight you're still carrying, 4 months later! WOO-HOO!!! 
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The biggest obstacle I have had to overcome on this site is sounding too "pretentious" or "superior." I am someone who is very confident in her intelligence, so I don't try to dumb down my use of language. Unfortunately, many guys see this as a negative. As far as I can tell, they are either threatened by the prospect of a smart woman being able to see through their bullsh*t, or they just don't find intelligence attractive. What is your opinion? Do you subconsciously judge people based on their intelligence? I find your lack of faith disturbing....as quoted by Darth Vader. 
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Smart women know stuff!
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Smart women know stuff! Is that simply put? |
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Well, as far as I've understood men aren't at all that scared of an intelligent woman. But they want a woman, someone who can feel and is in touch with her feelings, not a college professor. If you're in your head all the time, you communicate with men like they do with their mates. Great if you want to be friend-zoned, not so much if you want a partner. Many women these days have been sort of brainwashed by society to act this way, basically most women function from masculine energy as opposed to feminine energy. And as one expert said "No man wants another 'man' next to him, not even if she's pretty" Psychologically speaking men need women to be able to connect to their emotions. That way men & women can connect. So if a woman isn't in touch with hers ... you can't really connect. Yes, you can connect to his brain, not to his heart .. I agree with Cyrstal on this. Maybe its just me but I have never been out with a woman that was not smart,whether a college professor, or just wise about life...Either way I want to connect on emotional terms with a potential mate. The Op is attractive and smart and maybe for some men that is intimidating, oh well their loss. I hope you find what your looking for, best of luck to you. 
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<----- (this person is fearful of responding to points made within this thread, because someone with superior intellect may see through his bullsh!t.)
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