What happened? I just don't get it.

instead of considering one self a "good guy", so this making it as if all the women are attracted to "not good guys"...

perhaps one should observe what women like and see it as "good"...

and then one will automatically evolve without any conscious effort into the new form of what one self now see as good based upon what women like and need, as if they are attracted to it, that is what they truly need to evolve them self...

that would be much better than using what one self, a man, thinks is "good"...

as who better to find out what is "good" to women, more than a women, versus one self, a man.

anyhow...

the imaginations of what be "good" to a man actually have no bearing on what that "good" is for a women.

so, why use it?

is it creating what one self wishes?

if not, than throw out that concept.

i can assure you, the concept you state will rightfully so make most women flee in haste.

Good thought

I get the impression men think they're automatically a good guy when they're not a player or not a good-looking hunk with a gorgeous body.
Sorry to break it to you men .. that does NOT make you a good man!

A good man knows his worth, has something going on in his life other than looking for (needing? --> sign of lack) a woman and relationship.
He's got a passion, can stand on his own two feet, dealt with his past, takes care of himself, because he cares about himself. Meaning he grooms, feels good about himself, what he looks like, who he is etc etc.

So apart from the 'bad guys', by which we usually mean the players, the sexy men who chat up every girl and woman they see, there's also the 'bad guy' type that is a .. well, sorry .. a "loser".
So this type of bad guy is not the player, but also not a good guy.

Women aren't looking for a man who doesn't have anything going for himself. We want a man! Doesn't mean you gotta look like Brad Pitt (I don't fancy him anyways, lol), but you gotta have a backbone, a life, self-esteem etc.

And from what I've seen, there are a lot of men out there that are lonely, can't get the hang of life on their own. Men that are needy ..
Not appealing .. and those are not good men, even though they probably think they are..

Chicks dig passive aggressive guys.

very well said crystal

Rather than assume your a "good guy", how about just be yourself, and let the right woman notice. It may take awhile, but I can assure you. You will find someone who takes notice, even when you least expect it. Just be yourself!

That, and really hip underwear.
If you have all that..you got it made.

op and never change yourself for another ...
their right ...be yourself and in that ...we all find good quality's of both in men and women... looking for mr or mrs right ...its all about a opinion of someone ...that may be right for the personal reasons only one can make for them selves ...

I agree with this :)

Err I can't speak from experience. They don't exist in my habitat.

Are you sure a good men always will be noticed or live bachelor all his life until accumulate huge wealth.

it seems people who say, "just be your self" have great intentions are in saying such, show them self a more none fake person...

however...

the statement induces a notion that all self feels should be acted out...

if one is feeling it self should smack another, then smack...

if one is feeling to shoot up the office for fuccking one self over, than just be your self, induces the notion self's feelings, all of them, are correct no matter what, and shoot away...

not saying people who say such things actually mean such things, of course not...

but the intention of words has no bearing on what they can, will or do create in the minds of all...

if one is feeling to steal from another, than just be your self...

if one is "using" others, just be your self...

such notions truly do not allow for any acknowledgement that humankind was primitive, and needs to evolve to better if all will have any better together...

what of the notions of many hunter gather mentalities who believe a women is there simply to serve one self...

who truly seek but a slave to accommodate one self...

what of the racist whom would love people of color to be eradicated from earth...

just be your self...

as these are primitive mentalities, lost as to any true insight as to what good actually is for more than just 1, them self...

telling them just be your self makes them believe such notions even more are the correct way, or are somehow will create good for two, or 3, or 4...

but then it cannot be missed the prevailing notion that loving one self is making all one's own feelings as some god, as all soverign and divine good feelings...

bullshitz...

animalistic humans just "be them self", while they rape, torture, disrespect the value of others, believe many and all others should accommodate them self from morning till night, while they reek havoc upon civilized society.

of course, it is easily understood how anyone who stated such in this thread could feel, and i hope not, as these words are not about any person, but rather about what words create in the minds of all humans, and so how they direct the intellect so actions, from the very worst people on earth to the very best people on earth, as both categories exist all around each human in the public sphere...

Happy Thanksgivings to one and all!

Point well made.

when you say" you don't get it" you mean like you don't get no p****? Oh my that's got to be really tuff for you man,Lol I'm kidding man,but seriously,being yourself is good most times,but you may need to recheck yourself as well,cause (general speaking)being ourselves doesn't mean it's the best way for us,simple example;one may not know how to talk to people,maybe rude,maybe shy,one be a nasty person,so use your discretion on that and check yourself, i'm not saying to just change yourself to please other people,do you have confidence in yourself?all those stuff you know,I wish ya well bro!

Haha, but then .. what is hip underwear .. For some men hip means a Garfield print, for others a thong.. neither work for me, lol

errrr, what underwear?

LOL, .. but .. what are you doing here, woman?! Go be with your man!
Hope you two are having a wonderful time!!
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He was sleeping in. I can only lay down for so long cuz of pain, have to get up.

He's on vacation.