im ok with it. becouse i have lady friends as well.

Well I agree with hazleyes and a few of the others I do have a male that
is my best friend and we have been for 20 years now and nooooo we have
never been anything but friends. It is narrow minded to believe that
women and men cannot be just friends. Then that is your case but not
everyones for noone is a mirror image of yourself we are all unquie in
our own way and deal with life and friends totally different. Just
because it does not work out for you in no way does it mean it can't
work out for someone else. But now I do only have the one not many and
yes at first the ones I have dated take it wrong at first till they meet
him and see for themselves. But I'm very honest up front that my best
friend is a guy. The advantage of that men do not stab you in the back
as another woman will. If a man gets mad at ya or vise a verse the next
day or so they usually blow it off and everything is cool a woman if she
comes back the next day its to see if she can turn that knife in yer
back and get it a little deeper. lmao So having that said noone can
convince me that you can not have a woman or man as friends only! Now if
you have had sex with them that is a totally different issue!! And can
cause problems for I'm talking about one that there has never been any
sexual involvement!!

true that!

HAVENING MALE FRIENDS WHILE IN A RELATIONSHIP ONLY CAUSES PROBLEMS FOR
MOST MEN BECAUSE THEY GET JEALOUS OF ONE ANOTHER ABOUT MOST EVERYTHING.I
ENJOY HAVENING MALE FRIENDS BECAUSE I CAN TALK WITH THEM EASIER THEN I
CAN A FEMAILE BUT I HAVE FOUND THAT WHILE IN A RELATIOSHIP WEITHER IT BE
MALE OR FEMALE THE ONE YOUR WITH STOPS TRUSTING AFTER A BIT BECAUSE YOUR
SPENDING ALOT OF TIME AROUND YOUR FRIENDS WITCH MAKES YOUR MAN OR LADY
FEEL LEFT OUT.I DONT SEE ANYTHING WRONG WITH EACH ONE HAVENING FRIENDS
BUT ONCE THE MISTRUST STARTS THEN EITHER YOU LOSE YOUR FRIENDS OR YOUR
MAN OVER NOTHING BUT BEING JEALOUS.

its a tuff call. i guess its better to just stay single!!!... lol

Well now I'm not talking about that friend being at your house everday
and that you go off and do things with them when you are in a
relantionship with someone else if you include that friend than think
with what is upstairs and make sure both are there you don't go off and
leave the one your in the relantionship out for a friend unless you
don't think much of that person. I'm talking about having friends that
are included once in a while with the respect of the one you are with
that is a two way street and you must be honest with the one your in the
relantionship with and have respect for there feelings.

amen to that! it is only an issue if the women is a big flirt then it
becomes disrespetful to her man . thats just my thoughts on the subject.

That is so right smoke but like I said that goes both ways. Just treat
the one you love the way you would want him or her to treat you it is
all about trust and respect!

yes. but its hard to trust people when i have been burned so much.

Humm 4fun now do you think you are the only one that has been burned?
For we all have felt those flames. At sometime or other people have to
look back for when it really comes down to it none of us are perfect in
a relantionship and each at times adds fuel to that fire. If anyone can
sit and say they never did anything wrong in a relantionship they are
only fooling themselves. For we all have our faults and must deal with
them on our own no one can fix our problems but ourselves and we each
must learn to deal with life and what it throws at us. And move on. For
if you do not trust and respect the one your with how can you expect
them same from them. Is that not being shallow?

I for one have never done anything wrong in a realtionship.

but ive never done anything right either so BLAHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!

umm... maybe. depends on the persons past history if you can trust them
or not. i guess you really have to look for the red flags.

It wouldn't bother me. I'm confident in myself as a man. Most of my
best friends who stay in regular contact are female. If my partner is
going to do something, i.e., step outside the relationship, there is
nothing you can do to stop it. I offer all I have, but recognize that I
can't be everything to my partner, and won't try to be. Both of us need
individual interests, and at times, space.

Sevenup your soooo right.

txs gal... would u trust me??... lol!

Now 4fun you & I have butted heads in here more than once and by your
post that I have seen I don't think you want me to go there being honest
lmao.

ok.... i give up... lol!

Thank you!

But its all good!

hey Txs, how r u girl?
hope you had fun, and Im glad your back
strong as ever.



morena