I know some of us guys and I know some of u gal's always say ..." looks aren't everything" but keep it real.... how many times have u met someone who thought was so awesome and would be a perfect match for you but........ anyone remember the movie Roxanne? ?? Starring Steve Martin. Great guy but wow... what a big nose you have!!

In my experience women are more shallow, always treating me like a piece of meat, always asking me to pick up things off the floor sometimes I feel like they glue that money to the floor so I have to bend over longer trying to get it! Then they "accidentally" slip and touch my you know... They tell me they need to inspect it but I think they are really getting a thrill from it.

Women do bad things to my innocent body.

Men are biologically more shallow and wired to be unfaithful. They are trained by this world to be faithful to their partner but they are always looking for more or something on the side, even when they have it good at home. They can't help it. Look at all the celebrity and high profile infidelities. They all do it. The rest haven't been caught yet. Just a fact of life. All presidents or most have also been cheaters. Read your history. Women cheat as well but not in such high numbers as the men. In this world where people are living longer, it is even more impossible not to want novelty and variety after being with the same person 10, 20, 30 or even 60 years.

I believe attraction is important. I agree with the others who posted that it's being realistic, especially if you're a desirable person. No reason to settle for less than the best.

I think the notion that one is shallow because they seek someone who is attractive to them is "shallow" is a fall out of Internet dating brought on by folks who refuse to post a pic.

We are first attracted by someone's physical appearance in the 'real' world, don't quite get why it should be any different on-line.

Men being wired to be unfaithful is just a theory and just as many women cheat.

I don't think that has much to do with being shallow though but being shallow can be about a lot of things other than just looks anyway. It's maybe not accepting a person for who they are and not really seeing the real person because of some perceived fault in them. Could be a big nose; could be one leg being larger than the other; could be the way that they dress. Whatever. We like to say that we're not just being shallow though when we think that there's really just something wrong with somebody, or that we have our preferences and are holding out for someone that isn't a sideshow freak.

I don't think any gender is more shallow than the other,and I don't think your preferences makes you shallow,but what I do find shallow is the way some people act towards some of THOSE people,if I don't like you like that,then I just don't,there's no need to rub it in ECT! This may be off topic but,,I'll take a hot body over a pretty face any day!

ATTRACTION IS EMOTIONAL-A PERSONS APPEARANCE IS A REFLECTION OF THERE EMOTIONAL HEALTH…

AS FOR ''SHALLOW'' IF YOUR MEANING DEPTH OF THERE PERSON WOMAN WIN HANDS DOWN ON

HAVING MORE DEPTH BECAUSE AS

A GROUP THEY ARE MORE IN TOUCH WITH THERE FEELINGS THAN US MEN--WOMEN ARE BETTER AT

MULTITASKING THEN MEN--THEY HAVE 40 PER-CENT MORE CONNECTIVE TISSUE BETWEEN THE LEFT

AND

RIGHT SIDES OF THERE BRAINS--HOWEVER THEY ARE NOT ANY MORE SELF AWARE THAN MEN--ON

ANOTHER PLUS SIDE THEY ARE MORE WILLING TO WORK ON THERE EMOTIONAL HEALTH THEN MEN

ARE--

Hmm.. perhaps because men are looking for .. instant gratification..
where women look for long term gratification... just a thought..

Mutual chemistry with physical attraction is a must,and not shallow.It's highly unlikely that it would go past friendship without those.How can you possibly flirt and seduce each other unless you have an attraction ?

I think that male or female, those with a sex-centric personality are more likely to focus on physical attributes. While those who are more interested in developing a deep emotional connection are more likely to be flexible with their physical appearance preferences.

Folks gotta do what works for them in the moment.

What about the proverbial prom king and queen who are together for decades and still turn each other on? They may have had tight hot bods in their heyday but now they're balding sagging wrinkly and yet they still wanna hump each others false teeth out?

does this make me !!.shallow..
. I need some advice...
let's say you go on a meet and greet..
. you meet each other have a glass of wine...hmm.. you think to..yourself . they are very pleasant looking..
. that is good.. but they're not exactly what you were hoping for.... but you put that out of your mind... you have a conversation.. it is good.. but not exactly. what you're hoping for...
... now it has been a while for you..
. and it has been a while for them..
. so in the parking lot.. when you go to give her a little kiss goodbye.... because you want that kiss.. it says a lot....... well she takes the kiss.. and turns it into a very hot kiss....hmm...
. now again remember it has been a while for both of you.... so things .. get a little out of hand so to speak...
.. now you know she really likes you..
.. but you don't really like her too much.. I mean she's nice and everything but not... exactly what you're looking for.... now what I need help with is this part.... how do I break it off with her now.... without coming across as very shallow.... help..
. and don't judge me..!!!... I'm pretty sure we all have had... dates . that have gotten a little out of hand...

So much man-bashing in so little space.

OP, The Official Rule Book on How to be A Real Woman/A Real Man specifically states on that on this one issue only we are free to be as shallow as each of us, individually, would like to be,


so you are perfectly within your rights to hold out for that big-boobed nympho bombshell whose daddy owns a liquor store.

Um just a question, with who do you think all these unfaithful men are sleeping with? Think logically, if an act of unfaithfulness requires 1 man and 1 woman for it to be even possible, then you know- basic math here says something else.

Nahhh...I'm not buying any of it, either. If it was an un-over-comeable "biological wiring", then *men* also wouldn't use utensils or wear clothing. It's sociological-conditioning not biological-hardwiring.

Generally speaking (and in the modern Western world), men have been *allowed* to experience their sexuality more openly and freely than women have, because historically women weren't *allowed* to enjoy sex. It wasn't until the Roaring 20s, which followed the Victorian Era that *we* even accepted that women might actually enjoy sex. It took us until the 1960s to introduce The Pill, which *allowed* women to begin having (and enjoying) as much sex as men *always* have, without fear of repercussions.

Then we *invented* AIDS and put an end to THAT ***-as-you-are-free-for-all.

Because we really ARE equal (whether we like it or not), married women are racing to match the number of married men who have a little side action going on, too. Yay, us!!! We can be just as down and dirty as men can be!!! (/sarcasm)


Oh, and the 'it takes two to tango, so men and women cheat equally' equation isn't quite accurate, either. Think in terms of the stereotypical married male executive of the 1950s who chased his single secretary around the desk...he was cheating, she was not. Chances are, because The Pill wasn't around yet, neither was his wife...though I'll bet she daydreamed about it, often.

daydreamer diaphragm..lol

Not familiar with it.

Set it to music, and we'll take a spin around the dance floor together to it, 'kay?

let me see, it its been so long..
since I've played that song...
..

No... I don't like that song... nope..

can still use some ...^^^ advice