Me and my ex went through a lot n the 15 years we were married. We lost a baby girl to cancer 7 yrs ago and we've had just tragedy after tragedy and just bad luck followed by bad luck. And now it's over. So my concern is that I don't know if i still love her or was I just used to her and comfortable? Cuz it's single stuff scares the s*#$ outta me. I haven't been si ngle since I was 19 and I'm 35 now. And I've aged a little since then lol!! But I am wiser though. I'm just trying to find that one someone that I can always be myself around you know? Someone who will look at me like there's no one they'd rather be with than me. Cuz I can love strong and unconditionally so I expect the same. But I have trust issues. And I don't want to punish and nice woman that's really in to me for what my ex did you know what I'm sayin? I guess she has made me a little insecure over the years.

Gidday mate......Personally I think you need to be single for a while and discover yourself.....for me that process took three years.......then I joined here......but it was so worth it.

Welcome and good luck

Hey. I'm sorry for your loss.

Like Mikey said, recovery takes time.
You make a good start here.
It is casual chitchat that you can participate
in as much or as little as you like.

Takes time to give the past perspective.
You owe it to your future partner to give
them a wiling and available heart...I am sure
you expect the same.

Welcome :-)

!!!!! Sure is, I must agree on this one!

Yea thanks I appreciate the advice. I wasn't saying that she made me a whinny little baby that needs to be told that I'm ok or that it was all her fault cuz lord knows I wasn't perfect. And I'm sure some of u know and understand what I'm trying to say. She was my high school sweetheart and I loved her deeply and she loved me. But towards the end by her actions I just felt like I wasn't good enough or she wasn't attracted to me r something like that. But her opinion of me meant alot. That's what I was sayin. But I have been rediscovering myself a little at a time. This is just so sureal. But I'm glad that there are places like this to get get honest advice. Cuz I'm new at this single stuff.

The very worst part in the beginning, is learning to be alone with yourself.

Friends help. Socializing helps. Stay out of trouble and set boundaries until you learn about yourself again. It may take a couple years after a divorce. If you are divorced....and if that's what you and she really want? Loss of a child is tough on anyone. Especially marriages.

Yes, and welcome.

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