I've seen it too many times on dating sites. Someone will proclaim their undying love to someone they've never met. This almost always turns out a bummer. People change their profiles. "I'm not looking for anyone" I met my dream come true" When in fact it's only been phone calls. I just want to warn that before you proclaim for another, Wait till you actually meet them face to face. Even if you feel it, and sure want it to be true, Do not utter those words till you are face to face. It will save you some possible hurt in the future.

One more thing, a few have taken themselves off the market, for someone they have no idea when they are going to meet. I mean, no imeadiatte plans. Just excuses. This is crazy! That first initial meeting is the utmost important p[art if the relationship has any chance of moving forward. Haven't lives been put on hold long enough?

Good advice, but it will often fall on deaf ears. More than a few women have pledged their undying love to men serving life sentences in prison. But think about it. Would you really want such a person as a mate?

sad but true...desperation, like any other emotion can make people lose perspective...

i agree vocalist.my uncle met someone from another site and yeah they had seen each other in person a couple of times but about a month after they met,they were already talking about buying a house together and getting married,2 weeks later she calls him and tells him she has a date with another guy!.

they talked it over and realised they had rushed it.they're still dating but now taking it slower

"i love it"

Oh man he doesnt love me???

I've been on a lot of sites in the last 18 months. Rarely does it ever work out, when the people proclaim their love, whithout meeting. Those paeople are back days after stating. "I'm back, it didn't work out" or "there was no sparks" Then how can you claim to be in love? I'm just saying as a safety for everyone. Be careful before you utter those words. At least meet the person face to face. Then decide.

Well I think it can go either way, in most cases people fall in love with the idea and mistake that for loving the actual person. My friend met a guy who lived in Holland and she lived in Cali, they were so crazy about each other and i thought she was insane when she told me they were in love. One month after phone/email communication he flew here to meet her in person and she took me to the airport with her in case the connection was not complete after meeting. Once they laid eyes on each other it was instant affection as if they had been together and touched before. Much to my surprise they were really in love, the way they looked at eachother and the way they seemed to have this unbreakable bond, I was impressed. Now they are going to marry next weekend. Yes it is rare but sometimes it's meant to be and sometimes people settle and that when things don't work out.

TK - ^^^^^^ - smart woman

Don't put the Cart before the Horse.....



If it is ment to happen it will be.

there is a difference between telling some one you "Love" them and "Being in Love"

I agree whole heartily. It is easy to like the idea of love, but until your eyes meet and your souls become united it is only a dream. I know I am in that dream right now till we get to meet. I am trying to stay sensible about it till we meet and actually know if it is meant to be for us, words are cheap!

Very wise words Im2fun

thank you

I'm witnessing this very thing on another site right now. A woman claimed her love this man she never met. He was coming to the States to meet her. When he got here. it was off to see his kids for 10 days then meet with her A few days ago which would have been monday. His account when hidden. He was talking to other woman and told them he could tell she wasn't for him. So this poor woman is devistated.

I LOVE YA MAN!!! OH YA I LOVE YA!!!!

That was well said good advice



I still love Gypsy with all my heart and soul and hope to meet her someday

MMMMM K

The purity of love knows no agenda, no borders, no expectation. It is absolutely possible and likely, in fact, to love the who of people ... that does not mean romantic love.

Too many get wrapped up in the fantasy online and mistake their fantasy for reality. You don't know if something will translate to the real world until you are in the real world as far as a physical relationship goes. Does that make the rest of the relationship invalid? No, of course not, it just may not be a romantic relationship.

If you have your blinders up only acknowledging 'romantic relationship' like some holy grail then sure you will likely face disappointment. If, however, you allow the experience to be what it is ...making connections along the way ...you will discover much about yourself. We are all mirrors for one another.

My relationships with the people I meet online are real. My feelings are real. I am under no illusion about what may or may not happen in the physical world though...but does it really matter? I embrace the experience for all that it is and absolutely love the who of people.

I saw a documentary not so long ago that talked about the numbers of couple who fell in love ... who's only communication was in the form of letters. In the days of war ... in the days when travel was not easy ... in the days before computers and webcam. Are we really so different?

It all depends on the people, the expectations, the groundedness...

i agree
had a friend tell me that this women said she loved him after only a week of telephone conversations and they were getting married. he never even saw her picture. i asked him if that did not make him uncomfortable because you can not fall in love with someone before meeting them and spending a lot of time with them. he said no, of course it did not work out after they met.