I think relationships are all about unrealiatic expectations,fights,insecurities and other complications! Being a frnd with benefits is a healthy relationship according to me without any expectations providing you with freedom and care!

You have a point but my experience with the whole no strings thing is that you still get the drama and demands and if you don't like it then you can go and find another f**k buddy. I actually think that sort of relationship can have more drama and the person that wants it that way can act like it's a relationship when it suits them and say that it isn't when they don't.

But an FWB has the high percentage of becoming that unrealistic relationship you speak of. Maybe go the hooker route?

Agree with Goof and Tawt about the likelihood of FWB becoming complicated, but as far participating in a FWB relationship, it's whatever floats your boat..."Ain't nobody's business but your own"....

I suppose it would set somebody up for a world of hurt. however each person does what works for them

I think its way much more complicated and full of hurting each other situation. because you cannot tell what happens on your way.its way more convenient at first.but if time comes that the one person falls but the other one does not feel the same way that's where the hurting part will come.because the one who falls can't complain because of the set up.

FWB? No, thanks! I guess that those who want it can easily find what they need in local Adult Ads.
Over and out! LOL

Of course, until, someone inevitably wants to add strings.

Let me fix it for you.



There you go.


FWB is just another way to rationalize using someone for your own gratification without having to feel bad, offering to pay for sex with a shallow emotional bond rather than money, thereby deluding yourself that it's something "real" and means more than just two people getting themselves off.

FWB is a means or attempt to protect yourself from your own insecurities and try to one sidedly control and define a relationship.


All relationships have expectations.
Do you even know what the word expectation means?
Your sentence right there says you have an expectation of the relationship providing you with freedom and care.

Relationships don't define you or the people in them.
If you (or they) are a person with any insecurities, you are going to have an insecure relationship no matter what you choose to call it or what boundaries you try to force the other person to adhere to.

Other than that, all relationships are heavily dependent upon communication.
Your compatibility, or willingness to learn compatible communication, will determine fights, expectations or boundaries, and complications.

So you simply saying "FWB provides freedom and care!" doesn't really help a prospective FWB know what you mean by "freedom and care!"
Does that mean she can bring over 30 other guys on a random night for a group bi orgy and make you her sissy fest? Does she have that freedom?
How about if she really just needs a week of cuddling and nothing else, all night long, do you provide that care?


So at best with your "FWB is a healthy relationship!" you are saying "I want to define the relationship and boundaries that you have to live up to and by, but you can have absolutely no reciprocal input at all! And I have rationalized how it's good and beneficial to all!"

Or IOW "I want what I want when I want it and how I want it, and you have to give it to me and be happy about it."

Good luck finding that relationship with someone that isn't extremely messed up mentally and/or emotionally leading to exactly what you are trying to avoid.

Bravo maestro!

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Well if this is according to you then it must be right.
However, like a few others have said, it can get messy, in more ways than one

I'll just have to be happy with my FWL's.
Friends with liabilities.

since your choice about friends with benefits appears to be made just keep in mind that you may get the added benefit of fathering a child. even if you don't want the responsibility of the relationship, I would hope friends with benefits dont neglect the child.

So are some people gonna Shag here or what?

Here? Right on this page?....

yes....and preferably and older someone with a younger someone....so we can just put the whole Dang question to rest!

20 somethings....Race ON!

I would like to volunteer (or audition) to play the part of the older someone....

rawrrr....