Picture yourself walking into a busy bar or a club. Would everybody scan the joint for potential matches instantly...or take a little time to 'work' the room?

Once you had identified potential match(s) do you rush in, do you watch and learn or watch for signs and then either act on them or go home alone again because you weren't sure if he or she was actually into you or just thinking why is he/she keep on staring at me?

I am of course making the assumption that you are single in this context, but then 'they' may or may not be...how can you tell without asking or spotting an obvious ring?

Personally I have been pleasantly surprised a couple of times I have acted on intuition or impulse and obviously got the signs right.... but equally I have been put down as many times!

Yes I do.
By not going to clubs or bars.
My intuition tells me that the majority of everyone I will find in there will be:
1. Too young and annoying.
2. Attention whores.
3. Alcoholics.
4. Sausage fests.
5. Some combination of 1-4.


Someone doesn't have to be single to have a conversation with them.
If the person you are hitting on likes you, they may ask you to party with them.
They may try to set you up with someone else they are with.

Plus having a banal conversation in a club or bar does 2 things.
1. It creates a group. And people that go to clubs or bars want to be around people, part of a group, that's the entire point.
Otherwise women that "just want to dance!" would do so in their room, all alone, and screw going to the clubs.
They want to feel accepted. People will be more attracted to you via atavistic "intuition" if you represent a group rather than just yourself.
An "alpha" male is only an "alpha" if he is part of a group.
There has to be a hierarchy for comparison.
If he is not a group member, then he can't be an "alpha," making him just some horny guy looking to be part of another persons group.

2. For anyone watching or noticing you your actions will tell them a lot and how to judge you. Do you just go up and hit on someone and then run away because you didn't get what you want? Do you immediately "discard" them because they don't offer what you want?
Or are you having fun and being happy and offer a false sense of security that you're "ok" because you get along with people and can have fun and smile even though the other person is taken, because you see them as absolutely no threat to your social position or masculinity.

That is going to have more of a direct impact on their "intuition" about you, the **** you have no idea (and to a large extent neither do they) they see.


That has more to do with luck than intuition.
At best you are rationalizing that you are using intuition in order to make yourself feel greater than you are or simply not wanting to change something.

Yes ...I'm not at 100%, but I'm very, very close...I go with gut instinct....Sometimes it's instant, sometimes it takes a little time, most times it's right....

No daring is fatal french writer

I alive and well...

It is interesting to note the different kind of replies you get from people who have a profile picture and those that choose to not to show what they look like?

I find both to be interesting...but has obviously raised the question about intentions? For me, at least I am looking for a life partner and am just as happy to do that on-line as I am in my local bar but I appreciate that others may be looking for something different?

For someone intelligent enough to use a term like atavistic, you certainly have a way of making someone feeling negative?

You said it sister...

"Do you trust and act on your intuition?"

According to my intuition, it would be a mistake to go to a bar or a club to look for someone to date.

It's always right.

RIGHT!!

wb angelface

i'm not a drinker so a bar wasn't really a good place for me to go

i like online cause its easier to run away from the crazy ones and less chance of finding them at my house waiting for me

I agree with this because for myself it is true, but I do tend to side with caution because a look can be deceiving.

This is very honest and deep admission. After all it really is who we are, not what we are perceived to be that makes us whole.Your a very impressive human being.

I don't go to bars or clubs, especially to search for a potential mate.

However, I do rely 100% on my intuition, when it comes to pretty much anything in life.

What about cats would that be ok

Dude....this aint rocket science. You see a chick that attracts you, and then you either sit there for three hours debating on how to approach her or you man up and make your move. Maybe she likes ya or maybe she tells you to piss off.

Can we role play this situation?

I'm as smooth as Ace Venutra.