Who cares about what "the majority" of women want anyway?

Anyway, playing it cool can work if you're a cool guy and that's about the size of it. If they already think that you're cool or nice or sexy or whatever it stands to reason that you can put less effort in.

I'm all about eye contact. I was on this horrific date thing once where the girl was incapable of looking me in the eyes, so I assumed that even though we were talking really candidly about ourselves she wasn't interested in me physically.

Then she grabs me and makes out with me in the parking lot when I walk back to her car.

Then she e-mailed me two days later telling me that I brought out the darker elements of her soul and that she couldn't see me again.

So... I don't understand not making eye contact if you're interested... or apparently people either.

All a woman has to do is accuse a man of stalking her and he's in legal trouble. Men have to be very careful around women.

hay some time guys get shy,Iknow i do around a pretty woman,Ill look,and if she keeps looking,ill give her the ol NASCAR look that says,well hello darlen ,,but most of the time iam just to shy,iam sure i have let a few get away

Stares at NASCAR

They get shy thats why they contect witi their eye

It's an interesting topic.

I'd agree that we're all doomed if we a) can't look at each other and b) are waiting for the other person to make the first move.

Some men feel intimidated by women who makethe first move, others love it

Some men are frightened to make the first move, as the possibility of rejection is almost crippling, others takes in their stride and "chalk it up to experience"

Some men simply don't know how to make that move, or what to say - others find it comes naturally.

I'm new(again) to the the dating scene and in all honesty don't know where I stand on any of it. But on one thing I am cetain of, I love eye contact, no matter what the situation. I find there is so much to see from looking into the eyes of someoene -whether its a date or not.

Would it be safe to assume that all of the above statments could be applied equally to the 'fairer sex'?

Good question .. don't know, I don't know the settings and parameters of the research ...



Well, that's the thing isn't it; in the past it was not done for a woman to make a move, so things must have been somewhat easier. AS in, you knew what was expected of you. Nowadays everyone can make a move, but seems like it made things more wishy-washy. What can be okay for one, can offend another.

Yes, you can read a lot in someone's eyes, but I guess that is also the reason why many avoid eye-contact. Consciously or subconsciously we all know our eyes reveal a lot.

I know I can get shy when my eyes meet the eyes of certain men. And in such cases I kind of hope the guy makes a move if he's interested. But if he feels and thinks the same ...

i never avoid eye contact.i just make eye contact with the bigger lower eyes

I have all the bases covered.

Stare into eyes and boobs at the same time.

Who are these ^^^ people!!???!...Obviously they know nothing about body language or the art of flirting!

I suppose that I have to retract some of what I said about this.

Anyway, I met this girl recently and the first thing that I noticed about her was her beautiful eyes and I only mention that because that's not usually the first thing that I notice but the second thing that I noticed as I looked at her was that she had a nice body and was my type and passed that inspection. I don't know. I justhought, "Wow this woman got some curves and I like the way that she moves." Nuff said about that.

So, I chatted her up and all that and she made a date with me for tomorrow because she had to work tonight and it's a proper job and she ain't after me for my money and that's for sure. I'm quite tall and as we were making that date and speaking unspoken promises she looked up and I looked into her eyes and yeah, them there were come to bed eyes and I've done that with women before and even with other guy's girls and you can look into them for sure and you can just signify, if you know what I mean.

That isn't all of it though and this girl has got a really sweet personality and I didn't maintain eye contact at all but every time our eyes met I'll grant you that something happened and it is romantic and seductive.

*looks into everyone's eyes*....

"Men avoid eye contact??"

Not necessarily.

b4 or after pinnin ya up against the wall.!!

I do that too. first thing. I need that read...

I just think if i find interest, I make a move. though I may wait for what I consider an opportune time.
Then I look them in the eye and start a conversation. Its really not so bad...I kinda like adventure.

lol...U naughty...

The eyes are the window to the soul....you all know that right??...eye contact....or lack of it can tell the true intentions.

I watched this really interesting French documentary about vision and blindness, and this poet said something along the lines of, 'If the eyes are the windows to the soul, then is looking into someone's eyes simply windows against windows? Where is the soul?'