If you were dating a guy for 6 months or more and took the relationship seriously, took yourself off the dating sites but he still goes on the dating site everyday do you think he was taking the relationship seriously? When you ask him to come off he says he can't believe you don't trust him, he's just playing you isn't he?

I'm in here all the time.. If I did happen to find happiness in here I wouldn't have time to keep coming in here.... But that is just me...togetherness'

oh ya I think its a must that a person doing that must at least have a profile change to, found my mate.. Just here for the forum....not still intimate encounter

I agree with Zippy. if I found a mutual love, my focus wouldn't be online. though I might check in from time to time because I have made some friends here and would want to know they're doing well.

Like Zippy said, he may not be playing you: he may be here for the forums. I hope, however, that he did post something on his page to let everyone know. I know I did!

i know a lot of married / taken people on this sight,
that use the forums and the great company a lot of the people on this sight are here for <shrug>

but if i had a lady here with me right now i would be spending a lot less time on the net <shrug>

hi i amhonest and genuine.i know how to treat a woman with respect. If your interested message me.

I also dont understand this. I mean, finding friends is a good thing but if the only active people are taken in the majority, whats the point for singles to even browse here? On one hand people tend to shun those that hit on taken people but its like "o.o Youre on a dating site."

people have different 'standards' of what dating is

dating, to me , is no commitment but if I was unsure I would ask what the status of the relationship was


I also believe many 'dating' sites are also networking sites (like this one) where people communicate with friends just as much as they look for dates,,,,,,

I've been dealing with this with every girl I've dated for the past 3-4 years. That's why it says that I'm looking for friendship. Honestly though, it's pretty much futile being jealous.

To add to the initial question. He also said he was trying to deactivate his profile but couldn't figure it out, which is BS as he was able to put himself on stealth mode. So I told him how and still nothing.

Many will say they're on here just for the forums.

IMO, that's just an excuse to keep their options open.

Speaking for myself, I've both changed my profile to say that I was seeing someone when I was and not changed it when I was seeing someone and I wasn't counting on the relationship working out. I don't go looking for other women when I've got one but I suppose that I've really got to see a future in it before I publicly declare myself to be taken.

im with someone and have been for awhile, but I'm still on here, here are some of the reasons
.

1. I enjoy the site for the forums

2. I think flirting with others is actually a good thing for a relationship as long as it is casual and not with the same person over and over again.(I have my reasons for this but thats a separate topic entirely)

3. she knows that I wouldn't listen if she told me to deactivate.

4. I also let people here know I am with someone

but im honest with my girlfriend about all of this, and when I visit this site she's allowed to look at my messages, posts, or anything else......if he is "sneaking" to use the site that may be a red flag but just using the site doesn't raise any flags for me

hiya so im looking to start soemthing new ..... am looking to start it with someone in the army so any one out there looking for that ???

Another thing is that when I met someone on here and she changed her profile to say that she had met me and was now only looking for friends she said that she stopped getting mail.

Maybe they're looking for something better.

I'm in a relationship, and I'm still here. I've updated my profile, and she knows I come on here. Granted when she moves up here I won't be on as much as now, but I will still be on here for the forums. Those who think you can't do both just sound like they have trust issues, and that's their problem.

I'm in agreement with you KLC!

For those in an exclusive relationship.

Does your partner have your password?

If not, why not?

That's right if you have open communication and he is honest and a change in profile shows he has respect for you and your relationship and where its going. If he's hiding he's on here then something is going on.