I'm a 46 year old man who's activily looking for a person to date, ultimately what I want is a lomg term commited relationship. One problem though, I have a military disability that causes me to limp at times and at other times I use an electric wheelchair, I can walk but I'm feeling awkward about mentioning it, when/how, this is all starting to impede my ability to meet people online and I'm concerned that I won't measure up. I've never felt this way before and I'd like your thoughts about it.

What should I do?

Welcome, bienvenido(a), bienvenue to mingle2. Join the forums and get to know people.

I am gonna tell you, and I need you to take it well. First thing women like is a man who can spell. We all make mistakes, use a spell checker cuz "actively", "long" "committed" need corrections. Second, the lack of mobility is not an issue for people who love you. Be who you are, be confident about it, and show it. What are your strengths? Use them. Can u ride a motorcycle? Lots of people love that! Specially when they are gonna be hugging you, while on the back or your motorcycle, waiting for you to pick a place to stop for a bite to eat.

Be who you are, play on your strengths, spell check (seriously), and join the forums here. Write well, honestly, and you may be surprise how many people email you to say "hey, I like what you wrote..."

Best of luck brah!

Patrick first off.. ignore Mr spell check above me..lol..
. your problem is not a problem.
it is what defines you.. if you are chatting with women... and you're at the point. where you are going to meet them... in the relationship.
. then bring up.. the fact that you walk with a limp.. by then they should like you for you... wearing glasses.
being farsighted... having one foot smaller than the other... having one arm slightly longer than the other..
. having a limp.... it is who we are.
. inside that's what matters....
I know its trite and cliche...
but it rings true...ok... just be you..
.. tell her she can sit on your lap and operate the wheelchair controls...

"Mr. Spell check" lol It's true: it's all true!!!

And dammit the browsers can do it! I have a dictionary in Castellano and English! Now my grammar, that sucks a$$!

And seriously, spell check... it's free... lol True story!

lol. don't be too rude about the spellings, Criollo99.. hahaha.. I actually didn't noticed the misspelled words until I saw your reply. :)

but what you said about the second thing, I totally agree with it. :) That lack of mobility of PrincePatrick_J should not matter if the person really loves him. I mean, it's not like the person loves you because you walk normally, right? There are a lot of things to based with, like your character and attitude.

So for PrincePatrick_J, just be who you are. I'm sure you'll find someone who can accept you regardless of your flaws. :) I know some who also have disabilities but were able to find their partners in life. :) Cheer up! :)

Hi Patrick,
first, thank you for your time in serving our country.
After that,
not everyone judges only by the physical, rather by the heart, character, charisma of a person.
I took the liberty of reading your profile and it tells me a lot about you. just keep being who you are.
if you don't mind just one teensy bit of advice, your search settings might be partly blocking you from reaching your objective of meeting nice women. I just tried to send you a friendly message and it said im not permitted to contact this person. or something like that.
I was like, what? do I seem like a stalker chick? not really.
anyway, you have an appealing profile and I know there is someone ot there for you.
wishing you all the best.




Ps. Criollo. my spelling errors must drive you crazy ya que los cometo en 2 idiomas.
I know how to spell (was spelling bee champ) and I know the grammar. since I post mostly from the touch screen on my phone, I just figure people are smart enough to understand my message.

accepting someone's inadequacies will probably make the relationship perfect..so, worry u dont..hahaha...ahhh.. not good n this but I hope it help..hehe..

Hahaha..poor banana..its ok..u can send me friendly message all the time..

sir your disability really wont matter to the right person , and i hope you must know what does i means by saying right person

some1 who is looking for a heart rather than a perfect body

True, I also believe in proper spelling/grammar, but mine is far from perfect and it doesn't define you as a face-to-face person.

(Besides, how would a person say 'ur' to your face? :p )

As for the way you walk.. Well, it's the way you walk! Be up front and stick it on your profile. If they don't like it, then there's no point in ever talking to them.

I know a lady that is a permanently in a wheelchair, she has a 2 year old girl and is presently in a very happy relationship.

As a kid I knew a whole family whose dad was also in a wheelchair.. it never stopped them!

Something can only stop you from achieving your goal if you allow it. So, in all honesty and with no harshness intended, will you allow the way you walk prevent you from love? Only you can decide that.