So I ended Poisonous relationship a while ago.I feel like I'm over it I don't even think about the person or miss them.when I receive emails texts or calls it causes my stomach to just start hurting to a insane level.Has this happened to anyone else?

not that my last relationship was poisonous but I did end it because I didn't have much of a spark. It lasted a year and I tired to hang on, but couldn't drag it on any longer. We remain friends, but now its strained and I do not know what to say, how much to say (like how much do I reveal of my life now that we broke up). Its a bit better now, but we mainly just say "hi how you doing."

hi Joe,
without knowing the details, I can only offer general comments.
you talk about having left a poisonous relationship.
having walked away from a destructive relationship myself, I can only suppose you feel this way gall twisted up) because you need time to heal. focus on appreciating yourself and go out with friends. do things that you enjoyed before the relationship. when you start being happy with yourself again, you begin to find peace and the sickening feelings start disappearing. wish you all the best.

nope.when i hear from an ex,i'm like "hey,wanna get drunk and do the nasty?"


it always works in the end

Thanks for the replies yea I mean I'm over it.it just feels like a giant stress ball when I hear from her.I have been focused on my weight loss and work.I've lost 61 pounds in three months.I just wondered if anyone else gets that wretched pain when you hear from someone you regret ever knowing

Only when my first ever boyfriend kept texting me, wanting to be on again then off again.


When my step father visits my house, I get a wretching feeling, often. I have a really low tolerance level of him. I can't stand him. He always thinks he's right.

I have experience with what you are talking about. You need to break all contact ALL....for at least a brief period, possibly permanently. A lot of people are not strong enough to do that but it is what you have to do.

That's why i ended all contacts after some time. He was even using me to give him advice and support regarding his other failed relationships. I just couldn't do it and i realized that i really didn't need that (although it was hard as we had had a 10-year-long relationship, and i thought he was the "love of my life"). i don't think all relationships can or should end as friendships. Sometimes "going cold turkey" is the best solution, specially in destructive and co-dependant relationships....

I liked what Tessa said. A good reflection time is needed. One can be caught up in the emotional side of it and not realize it to the extent that one might even find that the significant other might had some good points. So the reflection time might even take a little while because you might have to get them out of your head before it can take effect. In treatment we learned about how another can project their guilt and other similar like behaviour onto us. This can be caused cause one became to a certain extent one with another. You might just to figure out who you are again and how you really view things. You might even find out that you might have been right about some things which can be a real confidence builder. Separation anxiety, The Institutionalization process and Lonesomeness can be some things with which you might have to contend with but you are worth it.

going through this...break contact completely if you can. Sometimes though that's not a possibility.

I remember it as feeling strange... with his new wife around
and having to be cordial to them ... Not so much anymore ...they both got & deserve one another ... and I don't care... only for my daughter becouse thats his only child ...

Thanks for the insight guys.I had all get information blocked after the break up to cut the contact she just kept making new email addys to send me mail so I just created all new information.so that takes care of that.I was just curious if anyone else had feelings like that.I was starting to feel crazy