hi everyone,

have you tried dating someone from another country?

How do you find such experience considering huge differences between your culture and other norms or beliefs?

My late wife was a native of Peru.

I have dated a couple of people from other countries. My high school boyfriend was an exchange student from Germany. There were a few cultural differences but basic values were the same - of trust, honesty, respect for each other - equality.

I dated an African man also more recently and I could tell almost immediately that the cultural differences were a problem. He ran to daddy like a naughty child (he was a grown man) every time his father called him no matter what we were doing or no matter what he had already committed to me as far as plans. That is something western women will probably not tolerate. So I just called & left him a phone message ending it one time after he ran off to daddy.

We remained friendly. But the cultural divide was way too deep for me.

Men from most 3rd world countries probably have trouble understanding what western women expect as far as equality until they have been here in the US for awhile.

I have dated someone from Serbia, and married someone from Wales. It really depends upon how different the cultures are. Though Welsh has different traditions, the differences werent extreme.

As far as my beau from Serbia, he was a riot and very loyal and community centered and his culture seemed not far from my own either.


It would be more difficult to date someone from a differing religious culture like muslim, or jewish, or buddhist,,etc,,,than someone form just a different national culture.

I never had problems with the men I dated from other countries. I guess I was lucky because they have been lengthily immersed to other cultures since they traveled a lot. Also, their minds were open to the differences --we didn't see them as hindrances, rather opportunities to enrich ourselves.

I agree that would usually be the case. That expereince I had was with that one man, and it really wasn't that negative. We remained quite good friends. He is a lovely person. In that situation he had not been here long and the gulf was a bit too wide.

But heck I know some American "originals" that are mamas boys...lol. So it is a matter of the person as well as their culture.

Hahahaha. That made me laugh! So true.

My one ex was Chinese/Thai. Though she was born in Canada, her parents where not.
We never had any real issues culturally, only issue I had was with her parents accents. Could understand them for the most part, but there were times where I had to ask them to repeat themselves like 2-3 times before I knew what they were getting at.

Then there was when I spent a year living in Japan. I thought I was the man because I was able to get a girl within a week of being there. One of the other guys I was training/living with eventually told me that she was a gaijin hunter, which actually turned out to be true so it ended ended up going nowhere.

I once dated a half canadian, half italian guy, and he took my breath away. He was just awesome, to be honest. He had to move to another country, for his career, so I was saddened by that, once it happened. He knows what I think of him, and he bought me a teddy bear, and told me to think of him giving me hugs, everytime I felt sad. Loved his canadian accent. He had tanned skin, and black afro hair.

I have, and despite the background or culture differences, it was never an issues. but if it comes to religion, I'm not willing to convert.

you are so right---without our value systems we would be wild animals---- our value systems are very important to have healthy relationships with another-- it must come first---