Why do some of you become disinterested in an e-mail conversation so quickly? I can understand the ever foreboding creepers, negative anecdotes, very small greetings, and even the cussing in messages. But why would you get bored of a man if he is none of the above?

When is a good time to ask for your phone number online? Or even, ask for a real life date? Or are you more comfortable with doing a skype date first to see if the man is even who he says he is for security/safety reasons.

I would love to know any of your opinions about the aforementioned questions and more ladies. This will help me not only to be a better communicator within the realm of online love, but it may even help me to find the right one someday!

Thank you in advance for your experiences and opinions. I think most men will find this very helpful.

It's not helping yet.....

There are any number of reasons. One if the very first things that puts me off is a person who is demanding. Sometimes they may not be on their first message, but definitely in the second one. I just don't have time for bs.
Another thing, is I just want to establish friendship. There are some who wish to marry you right from the beginning.
There are a couple of specific questions I ask that help me get an idea if a person. If they are avoiding this, it makes me wonder as they are not highly personal questions.

Talking in messages is kind of like holding a conversation. If it's getting hard to keep it going, then maybe you aren't so compatible.

Obviously we share the things that interest us. But in a conversation you also take an interest in what's going on with the other person.
When to ask for a number? Hard to say. I would say, don't ask. Give yours if you're comfortable and give the person the option to use it or continue chatting here.

Wish you the best

I'm not into men telling how to act and do.....that's a turn off....

I guess everyone is different.
The things that scared me off where people wanting to marry me in the first message, but besides that, I became uncomfortable when everything focuses on how I look or what I am doing.
I wanted to share information, you ask question , I answer and ask a few.
People dodging giving me answers or trying to impress me by seeming important.
I just wanted to know the man I was talking to.

Thank you Ladies :), this is very Helpful! I definitely don't ask for marriage on the first message ;). Maybe the second one lol. I will definitely keep all of this in mind.

For me, id rather just chat on line til I'm comfortable enough for any further personal info. I hate talking to a guy a couple of times then he wants my # or email. The fact is on line dating is scary enough. U don't even know who ur talking to & what they capable of. So I usually tell guys I want to stay on line then I don't hear from them again, which that's fine with me. Just take ur time with that woman u wana talk to & try not to rush stuff on her, she'll come around........if she is real. Good luck

It's the same off or online. You either hold their interest or not. If all is well, the friendship may develop into a relationship. When both are comfortable, exchange digits, talk over the phone, then video chat. You have to know first if the person on the other end IS real before making any plans on meeting in person, which is the goal. If both parties are not willing to meet, everything else is pointless.

Good luck! :)

For me im shy , they need to take the lead talk a lot.if I feel its a scam im out, if they ask lots of personal?? Im out, if hes to good looking no way, guess I just need to feel some kind of comfort zone to continue conversation.

I would try and get to know them first ...if you seem like you have a few things in common and you want to meet then you ask them to meet you ... in a public place ... chat till you feel comfortable enough to give them your emails or IMs but I don't want that the first chat with someone and turns some off but I figure if that is the case they did not want to meet me anyway ... an have no problem with that ... some call it red flags ... good luck op ...

You gotta have something no other man really has on dating sites: humility. Otherwise things have to be mutual or it's dead.

You need to understand that women get tons of messages, even the half decent ones. So you have a lot of competition. Try to imagine being six years old in a sweet shop. Same sort of thing.

Interesting interpretation.

Or six years old in a sweat shop in china, still ain't gettin' none...

I sometimes wish I was a woman. Honestly you don't know how lucky you are. I'd be in heaven if I had women messaging me for sex all day long.

Marriage proposals, immediate declarations of love, lives far away, immediately using pet names or terms of endearment, repeated messages, impatient messages, bad profile, obsessed with looks, obsessed with sex, big age gap, creepy or stalker attitude, and stuck on himself tends to get ignored by me within the first 3 messages. After that he shall not break any aforementioned plus must not be secretive, rude, or annoying and must have similar tastes and ideas.

all the hey babe messages get a bit monotonous so it does have it's drawbacks

and all the hemorrhaging