Topic: UnderCover Love
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Thu 06/19/14 02:37 PM
Hypothetically speaking, your potential new partner's faith and culture is not tolerant of interracial relationships. He's Muslim and Asian/Indian descent and you're Black - which is perceived to be much worse than dating any other nationality.

Do you pursue and knowing become that while he's open to dating interracially, his community isn't and that you will be his under cover and that the chances of him ever introducing you to his parents just isn't going to happen.

Knowing that while you're tolerant and acceptant of his faith and culture, you don't want to hide your relationship or stifle your natural tendencies to show affection to him while in public?

Knowing that regardless of your feelings for each other, you will be his under cover lover (no, this is not about you)

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Thu 06/19/14 02:45 PM
I would not be anyones 'undercover' lover.
Be proud, make changes, or move along.

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Thu 06/19/14 02:53 PM
dang I thought this is going to be about.. fooling around under the covers.. I was really looking forward to this.. son of a box of raisins..

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Thu 06/19/14 02:54 PM
There are hundreds of black muslims I do know that the old culture in India do have family honors of beheading the daughter if she goes against their wishes.

A true practicing muslim would not even participate in the suggestion you're asking.

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Thu 06/19/14 03:42 PM
I agree with you all. It was sad. I wanted to be proud of my relationship and even talked to my female Bangladeshi friend about it before giving him up.

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Thu 06/19/14 03:42 PM
I agree with you all. It was sad. I wanted to be proud of my relationship and even talked to my female Bangladeshi friend about it before giving him up.

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Thu 06/19/14 03:50 PM
All religion teaches the virtues of love, altruism and patience, while showing us how to discipline and transform ourselves to achieve inner peace and a kind heart. Therefore, they are worthy of our respect
Dalai Lama

If only everyone believed this.

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Thu 06/19/14 06:42 PM
Edited by 0ldhag on Thu 06/19/14 06:43 PM
Absolutely not. Unless your ok with being #3 in his life forever. Allah will always come first, family second and you (maybe) number three.

Nope. Never.

Find someone who actually respects you.

Glad to hear you gave him up, im sure it was hard!

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Thu 06/19/14 07:44 PM

dang I thought this is going to be about.. fooling around under the covers.. I was really looking forward to this.. son of a box of raisins..


Yeah. I was thinking of a scene in the comedy movie "Dragnet".

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Thu 06/19/14 07:48 PM

Hypothetically speaking, your potential new partner's faith and culture is not tolerant of interracial relationships. He's Muslim and Asian/Indian descent and you're Black - which is perceived to be much worse than dating any other nationality.

Do you pursue and knowing become that while he's open to dating interracially, his community isn't and that you will be his under cover and that the chances of him ever introducing you to his parents just isn't going to happen.

Knowing that while you're tolerant and acceptant of his faith and culture, you don't want to hide your relationship or stifle your natural tendencies to show affection to him while in public?

Knowing that regardless of your feelings for each other, you will be his under cover lover (no, this is not about you)


no. if he doesn't have the courage to break out of that ridiculous mode and act independently of his family and culture than I am not interested. period, non negotiable.

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Thu 06/19/14 07:52 PM
Why be an options when you should be a priority? You set your own value as a human being and if he is a racist bigot don't you deserve something better than that? Just about every one on earth deserves better than that.

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Thu 06/19/14 07:53 PM

Why be an options when you should be a priority? You set your own value as a human being and if he is a racist bigot don't you deserve something better than that? Just about every one on earth deserves better than that.
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