I'm not the title fits the subject matter but I always was favorite little phase for me.......


So what if you were in a relationship with a SO and it's going beautifully ( so to speak) ......then one day your SO says to you that they don't like how you dress, they think you are too thin or to fat, they don't like your pets, they aren't comfortable with your family, they think your hair is too long or too short....you get the gist.....

Would you stay and accommodate their needs or would that be the end......

Have you ever been in such a relationship where the rules of engagement all of a sudden shifted......

Enjoy Minglers......

If their comment was one of constructive criticism I would take it on board. If it took the form a personal attack, I'd show them the door.

Wow, you described every relationship I've been in in one paragraph.

I generally don't take my shoes off..

Never had that happen....but as some said if it was due to I have let myself go and they were only trying to get me to see that then maybe I would try to see their point.

But if I was the same way I was when they met me and they are putting me down for no reason.. I would wonder maybe are they trying to find issues with me cause they want out of the relationship?

If so I would do a bit of heart searching as well as a bit of detective work and get down to the problem..

To me the door swings one way as much as it does the other. If they are looking for a way out I will not block the door but hold it open for them..

Very insightful responses....

I meant you have been with the SO for awhile now they seem to want you to change you....

In my opinion it's there way of controlling you...why would someone change their opinion of you unless it's built on insecurities....that's my take on it...but I see what you guys mean...

At times it is not controlling issues which it very well could be...

But they could be looking for faults due to they want out but instead of putting it that way they find the need to reverse the fault back on the other person..Which in turn makes the other take the responiablity of dissolving the relationship if it goes that way...

I'd just lock her handcuffs and chains and drag her silly butt back
to the basement to follow thru with my threats ..... lol .... : )

Ohhh I see what you mean Tx....they don't want to be the bad guy.....

Good point...

I would tell them to find a very high cliff and take a run and jump

Beautiful...

This was my marraige and like klc said young n dumb. Tried to give him what I thought he wanted and made us both miserable. He wanted out and i was too dumb to let go.