Depends on what it is. If she's just crap at giving a BJ or something I might just decide that it's not really a big deal and won't ask her to do that again.

So this is the sequel! Love it


For me matching in bed or not is a decisive factor. Sure you got to feel whether it's just feeling a tad awkward, the first time together, or simply a mismatch in passion, sex-drive, what you like etc.

And sorry for all who say you should/could teach them, and if you can't, YOU are the one to fail. Total b0||0x!!

You can NOT teach someone to be passionate or less passionate.
You cannot change someone and that is the absolute number ONE to accept when dating!! I think most of us have been there thinking we can change a partner and later on finding out you really really can't.

And in this scenario, there's only been three dates. Three dates do NOT mean that he/she indeed is the right partner. Three dates is very early stages and by no means indicative that you can spend the rest of your life together.

If me and a man don't match in the sack, we don't match in day to day life either. I'm as passionate in as I am out the sack. And three dates may not have made this clear.
So then it ends. Simple as that.

Don't get why you all come up with BS like "You got to make it work". You DON'T! It's not a marriage or relationship, it's about someone you're only just getting to know and then found out he/she's does NOT match with you.
You'd be stupid to try and make that work!

Crystal, I don't think that it's so much about whether someone is passionate or not. Sometimes they are too much so and you need to get them to slow down so that you can make love, rather than just go hard at it. I see sex as something that you work on with a partner, even if it's great with them straight away. I've had women in the sack that didn't do much the first time and weren't comfortable trying things that I wanted to do with them and my giving them passion brought it out of them. Maybe I look at it differently because I'm not a woman but it's always going to be the man that does most of the work and women being frustrated if a guy isn't very good in bed. All that I really look for is someone that is willing. They don't even have to be that keen to start off with. I can work with that. I've had women talking beforehand about "no go zones" and stuff like that and then changing their minds about that and wanting to do stuff that they said that they weren't into. The look on a woman's face when I've just banged her brains out and given her more than she bargained for is priceless to me. I don't even expect a woman to be very good in bed the first time. Sure I can tell them what to do and get them into positions where they're doing virtually nothing apart from just taking it and it being great for both of us.

Hope this post doesn't get your thread deleted PhD. I did try to keep it as PG13 as I could.

No one came to bedroom ever!!!!

As long as she can make a mean ham sammich it's all good..

I find Chloroform works wonders, one deep breath and you can do as you please with them

You do realize these two posts say way more about you than they do about your "potential" life time partner, don't you?....

Sssssh... you/we weren't supposed to notice.

DOH

For some reason I feel like rewarding you ...Here, my compliments!!!

Humm at my age if they have not learned to satisfy ya in the bedroom, and not willing to change in order to do so after you have communicated with them. Then it is time to move on for most likely that is not the only issue you have with them... NEXT~~~

Or that they have with him!