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((((HELLO)))).. are we not on a dating site..lmao.. of course I do that.
are you serious.. I am a dude.
news flash most dudes look for the prettiest girl.. if happens to be the in the shortest line up all the more bonus.then lol.
you are hardwired.. to look for symmetry.. perfection so to speak.
. whatever that is to you..
. but beer commercials and mass media in general... well let's just say you don't see un attractive people selling . products... our society is obsessed with beauty.. actors are not unattractive.. don't you find it odd that all the pretty people can sing..
. you do not see a lot of unattractive.
. people on music video...
it is our reality.. but thankfully it is changing slowly but surely..
. but that is only due to the fact that the consumer. has put pressure. on advertisement to portray a more realistic view of people.. and honestly they don't care what they do as long as it sells products...

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Doh ... guess I'm not tall enough (5'9")

Could very well be true though. When I was teaching someone told me it is easier for a taller new teach than a short one, as you make an instant authoritative impression.
Bummer is that if you're not all that authoritative, you will still have to work hard to maintain order, tall or not.

I've had it both ways with people being nasty to me because they didn't like the way that I looked and other people being nice to me because they did. If you go through stuff like that when you are young it can be confusing and effect how you behave towards other people. You don't know if they are being nice to you because you look nice or if they are saying that you look nice just to be nice to you, or you might even think that they're just being sarcastic or something when they call you handsome or pretty.

Then there's the thing where people get old or put on weight and so on and they don't feel so good about themselves anymore because they don't feel atractive. They tend to lose confidence in themselves and that's going to effect how they act towards other people.

I think a lot of "good looking" folks, say models/actresses in the Los Angeles are some of the worst people I've ever known. The only reason good folks come here is strictly weather/beaches. I find some good things about it, maybe one or two nice people but they are rarely among the crowd, good looking or average per say. I don't use the word "ugly" other then when people have chitty personalities and like to break down others because they hate themselves. The most insecure people in the world are models and actresses/actors, so it makes sense for those people to act on being rude and mean to others because they've been told they can do no wrong. Too much ego boasting. Praising someone for their looks solely destroys a person's self worth.

Honestly (I know some do it for fun but am not talking of those people) working in a profession where your looks are your prime attribute or the reason why you got it in the first place is bound to make you rude at some point. They do it so often they should be taxed on it.

I wish most jobs/careers were based in experience, merit and intelligence.

I believe it is a human tendency to 'overcompensate' both consciously and sub consciously

for instance, someone with no sight, may therefore develop heightened hearing,, or someone with no movement in their lower limbs may become very strong in their upper arms

similarly people with no personality may therefore work harder to show how smart they are,,,,

and people who feel physically unattractive may try harder to be charming and attractive 'on the inside'


there are no absolutes , for certain, each individual poses a unique reaction to what they see as their own shortcomings

but ,basically, yeah,, I think its probably often true that those who go unnoticed or are pushed to the background around
'attractive' people, have oftentimes made up for it by being noticed some other way

What's at stake???

sounds like jobs and relationships from what people are saying. I seriously lost a job because 3 YEARS ago I did "not fit in well" with a group of male co workers who spent a large percentage of their time goofing off and arguing about sports....I am not sure my looks mattered there....but certainly the fact that I was an on-task hard worker who refused to "go along with the crowd" was held against me.

So looks aren't always the issue in jobs.

in relationships I have observed that even the most good looking person can become ugly in my eyes if they are mean hearted.

It has been my experience and even at times my outlook... How I was going to benefit was a direct reflection of my attitude toward somebody, pretty or not.. It is very selfish, however today I'll try to live as selfless as I can and even that requires a conscious effort on my part. I think that people in general are beautiful and we never know quite where help is going to come from. Believe that everyone can add something to my life, even if it is what not to do. I surrounded myself with a group of men around the age of 24, they had a group called attitude modification. In there I was introduced to something called the St. Francis prayer. It had absolutely nothing to do with religion and everything to do with what I just mentioned. Funny thing is, you do not even have to believe in God for this to apply and make sense in your life.

Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
Where there is injury, pardon;
Where there is error, the truth;
Where there is doubt, the faith;
Where there is despair, hope;
Where there is darkness, light;
And where there is sadness, joy.

Grant that I may not so much seek
To be consoled, as to console;
To be understood, as to understand;
To be loved as to love.

For it is in giving that we receive;
It is in pardoning that we are pardoned

Personally, I am no religious fanatic, but the principles and this makes perfect sense!

Also, that same group of men taught me this,

What people think of me, is absolutely none of my business.

My integrity as always at stake.

If I place a lot of value in my integrity, how I treat people will most likely be positive.

I'm going to say no. You are nice because you want to be.

yes unattractive are nicer. or they pretend to be. an attractive person can get away with being an *******. an unattractive person cannot.

I don't know what to say...I can go from one extreme to the other.

Ha ...I think I wrote the same thing in a Domme~Sub thread...

Oh well...Tis true in both cases.

I'd go/and do go with the most efficient cashier (Ken, Barbie or in-between) as queues are there to only expidiate (not expedite) the waiting-time sorry if I go against the grain

But seriously to answer the OP - people are either nice or they're not - the frills and packaging they were blessed with, and if they have continued appraising it, is going to fade in time. Their miserable personalities/characters - or fabulous personalities/characters - they will take to their graves

^ so what you're saying is..
even if your dream person..
that person that totally.. looks like they would do it for you...
. and you know what I mean.
was posted at cashier number 3..
. but they might not be as efficient as the other cashiers.. you would simply bypass them for efficacy...
and I know nobody like standing in line.. but what I'm really saying is..
. foregoing you're melting ice cream.
your rush to get home.. well maybe the supermarket is it the best example for this.. you ladies do seem to be.. goal orientated.. task driven.
so to speak... but I'm pretty sure you can understand my point.. we tend to migrate towards.. what our minds eye . proseves. As beauty

Yeah I side with this as I've seen people do this to others who don't gel with them. Seems childish and arrogant. Also feels clique-y to me. Even guys have cliques too.

Good to know you don't hold yourself back.

Ohh..klc.. you're just too funny..
.. come on now I'm sure you find a certain type attractive..hmm..

Hmm.. so you are a snipper gawker r..ttyl.. I'm out the door..