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Topic: I hate people In this world
Tovar23's photo
Sat 05/24/14 05:35 AM
Men and women are both so complicated, there's almost no point in interacting with each other, because eventually they'll split up and go their own way. Screw both sides, they're just so incomprehensible and melodramatic!. Any thoughts?

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Sat 05/24/14 05:38 AM

Men and women are both so complicated, there's almost no point in interacting with each other, because eventually they'll split up and go their own way. Screw both sides, they're just so incomprehensible and melodramatic!. Any thoughts?


Yet youre on a dating site? huh

akojlyn's photo
Sat 05/24/14 05:46 AM
I Dont Think so.. :) it is a choice both of you... will you choose to stay to your lover when he/she is giving you up? you choose to let him go or you choose to fight for him... not every relationship is melodramatic sometimes its wonderful

oldsage's photo
Sat 05/24/14 05:52 AM
Hate is a big word. I used to use it. Now life has taught me not to hate. Learned to respect others & if they bother me, don't go around them.

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Sat 05/24/14 05:53 AM
That's the spirit! Just kidding sometimes in life when we are in a slump everyone feels that way,but then you will meet the right person and you will feel alive again. Go out and have some fun and try not to take things so serious. God bless you and good luck in your search.

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Sat 05/24/14 05:53 AM

Men and women are both so complicated, there's almost no point in interacting with each other, because eventually they'll split up and go their own way. Screw both sides, they're just so incomprehensible and melodramatic!. Any thoughts?




No offense...but isn't this post a bit melodramatic as well?

Tovar23's photo
Sat 05/24/14 05:57 AM
StormMessages: Im just exploring to see if it's the same as from where I've looked before, I am contradicting myself, although it doesn't make what I said slightly untrue.

Tovar23's photo
Sat 05/24/14 06:06 AM
Yeah I guess I am

Beachfarmer's photo
Sat 05/24/14 06:16 AM
Yep...no use....stopping even trying

Hmm...what now?

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Sat 05/24/14 06:56 AM
C'mon, Beach...let's show the lad how it's done...smitten

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Sat 05/24/14 06:57 AM
..jk..

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Sat 05/24/14 07:08 AM

Men and women are both so complicated, there's almost no point in interacting with each other, because eventually they'll split up and go their own way. Screw both sides, they're just so incomprehensible and melodramatic!. Any thoughts?


I know several people with a similar point of view. They all, however, have to interact with humans in the daily basis, because it is part of their job, except one: he works from home doing computer support. Even though he is not interacting with humans, he has to answer emails and calls, and even that, he says, is sometimes too much. I suggested a different field, where the interaction is minimal but he doesn't know what field, and he wants to keep working with computers like he does.

My last conversation with him, incidentally on email, revolved around my questions to him. Among those I asked him, other than complain, what can you actually do about it? Which field of work would allow you the freedom of not interacting with human beings? And if that was not feasable, how can you improve you tolerance of humans? Can you separate yourself from society as a whole and still gain in the wisdom of others before you?

He never answered my last email.

cyrilstober's photo
Sat 05/24/14 07:17 AM
Distance is never a barrier to relationship

Astrid's photo
Sat 05/24/14 07:23 AM


Men and women are both so complicated, there's almost no point in interacting with each other, because eventually they'll split up and go their own way. Screw both sides, they're just so incomprehensible and melodramatic!. Any thoughts?


I know several people with a similar point of view. They all, however, have to interact with humans in the daily basis, because it is part of their job, except one: he works from home doing computer support. Even though he is not interacting with humans, he has to answer emails and calls, and even that, he says, is sometimes too much. I suggested a different field, where the interaction is minimal but he doesn't know what field, and he wants to keep working with computers like he does.

My last conversation with him, incidentally on email, revolved around my questions to him. Among those I asked him, other than complain, what can you actually do about it? Which field of work would allow you the freedom of not interacting with human beings? And if that was not feasable, how can you improve you tolerance of humans? Can you separate yourself from society as a whole and still gain in the wisdom of others before you?

He never answered my last email.

Misanthropy is the general hatred, distrust or disdain of the human species or human nature.
..and he was born a human being, how ironic was that.

dreamerana's photo
Sat 05/24/14 07:32 AM

Distance is never a barrier to relationship

Sure it is but that's a conversation going on elsewhere

dreamerana's photo
Sat 05/24/14 08:07 AM

Men and women are both so complicated, there's almost no point in interacting with each other, because eventually they'll split up and go their own way. Screw both sides, they're just so incomprehensible and melodramatic!. Any thoughts?

Hi Tovar,
I took the liberty of reading your profile before responding.
It's brief but gives starting points for conversation.
I imagine you don't hate all the world because you like helping people. That tells me you have a good heart.
Your original post doesn't give much detail so forgive mefor supposing; i see you're young and guessing you had a bad dating experience further complicated by interference of family extended family and friends (yes, I know they can be a curse and a blessing).
It's ok to feel this way sometimes. We all go through it. Everyone has their own way to deal with it. For me it's been ripping things to shreds in the garden pulling weeds, prepping flowered or whatever, just taking out my anger and hurt and frustration with every stroke of the shovel or garden utensil. It has the added benefits of being a hermit as nobody comes around or they'll get put to work, and it leaves you physically exhausted so you just drop off to sleep and don't keep thinking about your issues.
Another option which worked greatis to immerse yourself in your studies.
If you're too busy focusing on your college classes. You won't have time to think of your issues. Plus then you can graduate *** laude like I did. Or even better, magna *** laude.

You have your whole life ahead of you. When you are ready for people again, there will always be plenty around. Wish you the best.
�nimo. Ten fe y �chale ganas. flowerforyou

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Sat 05/24/14 08:09 AM
Feeling like dating and relationships is not worth the misery is a place all of us are at occasionally.

If it is chronic then you may be depressed and or need help with relationship skills. The good news is counseling and support groups can be very helpful at discovering your weaknesses and building strengths. NOBODY is born with people skills but it does not have to be torture to learn them.

Usually when someone chronically finds relationships miserable it is a learned feeling from a series of bad relationships and has an accumlative effect of poisoning even current or future ones.

If you expect, or allow, people to treat you like dirt that kind of paints a great big target on your back saying kick me or your never going to make me happy so give up and ditch me now before my whining makes you miserable too.

It is sad but there are people that just are not worth investing your personal life in. Everyone has basic bopundries and expectations even tolerance levels in a relationship. Thinking about what we want and seeking that is a realistic way to find someone we can not only tolerate but enjoy life with.

Yes sometimes circumstances do change and not every one is flexible enough to adapt and change to their partner's needs. I know a few relationships that make the distance but that is rare and I think if we get more realistic about our expectations of what a mate can offer we will experience less heart ache, frustration, or pain.

Remembering a mate is not the fix me person , maid, wallet, scapegoat, or reason for living will allow them to be a person too and that makes for healthier relationships.

I will say no one person is going to meet all your needs so having a wide circle of friends, family, groups in addition to a mate is your best chance at having a happier life and lasting relationships.

Also realizing that sometimes you do have people and things in your life that make you a pain in the well you can name your place and doing a little housecleaning of your own. If you look back at your life and see toxic things clean it up and you may find you are a lot happier person and attract people that will like you and stay in your life. . Good luck.

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Sat 05/24/14 08:15 AM

Hate is a big word. I used to use it. Now life has taught me not to hate. Learned to respect others & if they bother me, don't go around them.



^ That's some pretty funny stuff Don....laugh Don't go around them, just go behind them?....:wink:

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Sat 05/24/14 08:16 AM

Hate is a big word. I used to use it. Now life has taught me not to hate. Learned to respect others & if they bother me, don't go around them.


You are so right, my Father taught me never to use the word hate. It's such a profound word.
I sometimes dislike things but that's as far as it goes.
As for the OP's comments, I have no opinion as his statement is just ridiculous.

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Sat 05/24/14 08:17 AM


Men and women are both so complicated, there's almost no point in interacting with each other, because eventually they'll split up and go their own way. Screw both sides, they're just so incomprehensible and melodramatic!. Any thoughts?




No offense...but isn't this post a bit melodramatic as well?


:tongue:

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