. okay you wanna know how to meet someone on this site.. here's what you do.. now tomorrow night at precisely 10:15 p.m... a big yellow bus will pull up on the corner of where you live.. don't bring anything just yourself... don't think don't question it just get on that bus... now that bus.. is going to take you somewhere...
. it's a secret I can't tell you now..
. but I will tell you this much.. its going to take you somewhere where you can meet.. someone from this site. I can't tell you who it's going to be.. but I'm sure you'll like this person... follow these instructions very closely.. do not.D.V.8..ok..ok. ..jk... what I have a little time to kill..

Oh really.

If that's what your messaging them with, then I can't blame them.

Torgo echoed my sentiments, exactly...however this 'Seriously if you focus more on making friends than meeting someone you'll find someone eventually '........makes sense!

Your pic is nicer too - good luck.

I had to come back today to check up on ya. Has the stats improved? lol funny thing is someone wrote me a whole page email yesterday after this. It did get my attention enough to go check out their profile. so yes, saying more than hello works.

it hasn't worked for me , and i have been quoting shakespeare :P

It was your green hair. I just find it so compelling ;) I couldn't help myself in all my excitement. Hope you can forgive me for that.

You are saying nothing that will catch a woman's interest. Try wit, charm, humor, and show some interest in the woman you are contacting. You are showing zero effort or interest in her. For all they know, you might be sending out 50 of those a day.

Awwww ... that was you, sorry, I could never understand that Shakespeare stuff

I don't count. I took a four year hiatus and I'm only here for the forums.

I often wonder that when I read threads like this. I remember a similar thread when I was fairly new on this site and they were going on about "personalised messages" and I said that I was getting more joy with, "Hi. Like your profile. Fancy a chat?" You can get plenty of long waffly messages from people on these sites that are into that. Nobody I ever dated did that. They just aren't interested in wasting time getting to know someone with endless aimless emails when you can get their whole story in one night by meeting up for a simple date.

I see people who are here for a variety of different reasons. That's how these sites work.

There is quite a bit of ground between long winded personalized e-mails and "Hello, how are you?" I believe something in that vast middle ground is better than either extreme...

wow, hot and wise. that is one hell of a combination!

Yes, and your remark about people being here a long time carried certain implications like "why the f**k should someone listen to a long time single person?"

I cannot speak for anyone else on this thread, but I am not single. I am here for the forums, and I did have lots of success meeting people when I used these sites as a dating tool. Soooooo, maybe I have valid input?

I am speaking in generalities. I did not mention any gender, and you are one woman not all women.

Men are first contacted roughly 20 percent of the time...When I was first contacted with "hi how are you?" it automatically was deleted unless the pictures were stellar...

In any case, the guy is failing. Doesn't it make sense for him to try something different?

Is that whats its about again?
I thought I was in "rate my profile" then the pet section and at one point I had a strong urge to slit my wrist opposed to crying on each others shoulders.

Sure but at the end of the day if you are on here for dating you look at the profile and the location. A nudge from someone that lives locally and looks interesting is worth more than all of the well thought out personalised messages in the world. Sometimes you get into it with them a bit with the getting to know each other online first and maybe sound them out to find out what they're looking for and so on but in my experience they just want to cut to the chase as quickly as possible and arange a date if they're ever going to.

.. ok getting my popcorn.. pulling up my lawn chair..
. making myself nice and cozy..
... and going to watch the fireworks..
Hmm.. .. ..

That is quite possible, but why not try something different? Maybe it is a combination of both. Maybe he can get a makeover and develop new communication skills.