I hate to be the voice of reason here, but I call 'em as I see 'em.
the truth is ,sexysari, that you've been plotting on this guy since you met him, and the fact that he had a girl should have forced you to back off. with you always hanging on, his real relationship never had a chance. and I think you liked that.
you need to now accept the fact that you are the other woman...and he is essentially a cheater-to be hanging on to you when he's already got a girl.
if he did it to her, he'll do it to you.

i never went for him i thought he was cute and i liked him but i didnt even know they were having problems till they broke up and he called me and told me what happened..

and the hand holding only lasted a second.. and it wasnt planned.. we were ant the store and i bumped him and he grabbed my hand then we noticed what had happened then let go

ofcourse you should
you have all the signals
what are you waiting for?

lonely read that the girl above me wrote..

i just don't agree
because if he already broke with her as i read in your first post. why is he going to be a cheater-to-be?
he did not do anything with you while he was with that other girl.
now i agree with her in just one thing, while he was with that other girl you should have kept te position of friend, not really close friend.
however, that other girl is not in the map. Whether it was your fault or not.
You can deny happiness to yourself.
i may have lost some other info cause i did not read the whole thread. just ur intial post

i didnt plan on becimeing his close friend.. we just mesh well and his girl didnt have a problem with it till recently their whole relationship was based on a lie. and he couldnt even tell his parents about her cause they hate her..

i just don't see anything wrong
what it's wrong is you putting yourself in misery
you know how you feel, and you how he feels
then go forward, and get what is yours

hey sexy. I'm not trying to tear you down, but as a woman, you've got 50 years of this stuff comin' up.
it's not enough to feel like we're getting what we want. you have to pay attention to motives, and you have to look for the patterns in peoples behavior.
what do you know about his past before you and the now ex-girl.
this could be a pattern in his life-stay in a relationship until something better/easier comes along.
all i'm saying is don't make this guy the love of your life until you know if this is his pattern.
and it helps to know your own pattern too.
girls/ladies...it's time to start thinking, instead of just feeling.

it's Ok to think
it's not Ok to be scared of feeling

im not saying im going to run out and marry thins guy im saying i really care for him hes a great guy and him and i talk about stuff that matter.. not like music and stuff like that i mean like the future and our goals hes a great person and that will never change if we date or not i love him as my friend, hes helped me through so much and vise vera.. for us to have only been friends a few months i can count on him to be there when no one else will

i also do not see anything wrong with this. he and his gf were dating and a friendship developed outside his relationship with his gf. when forced to choose between his existing relationship with his gf and his developing friendship with you, he chose to let go of his existing relationship with his gf. it was not working out - so - best to move on. a long term commitment with his ex-gf simply did not exist. it happens.

sounds like you both were honest with everybody up to this point.

be good together and respect each other and enjoy each other...hope it works out great in the long run for everyone involved.

rebound......hmmmmmm not a good scene. If it were me, I would prolly just see what happens, just continue being his friend. He could go back to his gf anytime....and then when and if he does, where would that leave you if you crossed the line?

him and his gf are def over... and no matter what happens im going to be his friend, s1owhand thank you i agree

tinabelle ease up on this girl! lil one you go get that man of yours and enjoy every bit life and love have to offer you.
Tinabelle is so dead on wrong here. I disagree with her theory.

yea everyone disagrees with her.. cuz shes wrong i never came on to him or anything i respected his gf until she told him her or me... then she lost my respect..

gypsy is also right. things were not working out with his gf and you were there for him. it can be a very emotionally charged atmosphere. so it *is* very advisable to take it slowly and make very sure that it is stable and secure...

one cannot choose when and how you meet someone special. so, if they are special to you, then see where it goes - but be aware also.

i have been the "transition guy". (not that there is anything wrong with that)!

im not going to rush into it... im just going to explain that i care for him in more that a friendship manner.. but not put any pressure on him..

And that's not pressure??? Why do you have to explain anything!!! Best thing to do is just go with the flow...

i dont wana stand back and let someone else sweep him away