Ok, who else has this problem? My husband died three years ago, I'm 61 and he was ten years my senior. My kids keep pushing me to have a social life, and I'm at a point where I'd like to have one too, but I don't know where the hell to find one.

I'm not that great at this computer thing, but I'd really like to make some friends and talk to someone other than my cat, so maybe it's a good idea? The grandkids are great, but how many times can you hear your grandkids talk about "Manga" and "Nintendo DS" without losing it a little bit? I don't even know what those things are or WHY these children are so into them. Totally foreign to my experience.

I tried doing the advertised mixers and activities at the "Senior Center" here. What a mistake, it's like the land of Zombies. I was the only single to show up at a "mixer dance", and the woman who was in charge of it handed everyone a handout with "hygiene suggestions to be courteous of your partner" as in...ie: make sure to bathe and wear deodorant! I was in total hell and ended up spending time with an engaged couple my kid's age before I snuck out. I went to a "game night" and there were old women who were honest to God stringing dried potatoes on dental floss. Why???


My sister came down one weekend and took me to a kinda sleazy local bar. Noisy, smelly, and getting hit on by alcoholics who are cheating on their wives is really not my idea of a good time. Some of these guys didn't get the hygiene handout. Was just another nightmare.

Where do I meet NICE men who are 55-65? I'm not old enough to be a zombie threading potatos yet! And the whole bar thing doesn't really appeal to me. For that matter, a girlfriend would be nice too. (I'm not gay, I just mean, I'd like to find other women my age to hang out with as well)

Where do people make friends my age?

You have come to the right place to make some friends...
Thats a good first step...


Welcome Dear!

Maybe you can do some searches on the computor for activities in your area. Maybe you can find something to do that way!

I hate to mention the same old stuff, Judy, but how about volunteering?

Hospitals need people to help out. Your local Humane Society would LOVE to have someone walk dogs, cuddle cats, and socialize pets.

What are you interested in? What do you like to do? There are tons of places that would really be excited to have someone like you - energetic, willing to learn, open-minded. You have a wide-open world. Go look for volunteering opportunities.

Welcome to JSH There are a lot of good, friendly people here!

that is the beauty of the cyber experience. it doesn't matter if the other people have been on a three week binge of garlic bagels!

you can waste as much time and effort as you want, and sometimes,
it is almost as good as the bagels....

Judy...

Before I got completely addicted to my computer, a friend of mine recommended volunteering. I think bookworm has a great idea. I also thought of taking a pottery or photography class in the local high school. Find something that makes you SMILE and go after that. Go for a walk...you never know...who could be across the street...

Welcome to JSH!!!!!!!!!

Hi Judy and welcome. You will meet plenty of nice people hear. I'm not gay either, but, I have made lots of girl friends as well as guy friends on this site. There are some men around the age your looking for on here, matter a fact, I just saw a new one the other day, think he may be like, 61 or so. Nice looking tooo. Well, welcome again. Enjoy it here. Get involved in the community posts. There is always something to talk about. Have a great day.

Well the first step you have made ... so Welcome to JSH and pop around to the different " places" here to see who is who ... :)

I dont need my kid to tell me to get a social life.....my cats already told me!!! Oh wait!!! My son did ask me if I made any friends at work yet......

My Kids don't tell me that anymore after I threatened to go get milk and not come back..

Ya...you know it's bad when your six yr. old asks how come you never have a boyfriend......

fresh....how come you never have a boyfriend???

LOL....because I work full time and take care of kids full time... ...I have no social life! LMAO!

Oh ya me too......and that I hate everyone!!!!

Yep Gypsy pretty hard to have a social life if you hate everyone!!

ummmmmmmmm ever work in a hospital setting???? hmmmmm>????? You wouldnt believe how many biotches there are!!! Back stabbers, gossips, ppl who think they own the place, miserable ppl, the list goes on!!!

When I was a stylist, I never seen that.....

So, I would rather hang with my cats at this point!!!

Judy, jump in here & get to know the folks.
A lot of nice people, won't help locally, but will give you good solid feedback.

yep i understand im raising my son by myself and i hate being around alcoholics.good thing about online is you dont have to walk out you just hit the off or delete button ..problem solved im 47 havent dated or tried to for 2 years i would just like to welcome you to jsh. the one thing that has improved since ive been here is my typing because i dont know how to post a pic not that it would do any good.but the folks here seem friendly enuf and i hope you have a better time than stringing potatoes with dental floss take care

My son always tells me that I need to make friends now that he's gone away to school and not here to keep me entertained, however, my cats love me just the way I am!!!