What is the best approach when expressing your attraction to someone you want to know better on a dating site?

Please... no sneaking up to ambush from behind...

dont be over enthusiastic,just be honest and
sincere.Its getting a balance of the right things to say.
Show an interest in the persons activity ie:things they like to
do in there spare time.Its all about showing a true interest
in them,and a good response will come back.
Bill.x

The best aproach is to cut to the chase as quickly as possible and to ask them out. Most women on these sites aren't going to tell you anything particularly interesting about themselves when you're just some guy on the internet.

Hi Bill, it's nice to meet you.

I've read your response several times and then came back to it after soaking it in.

I'm trying to picture what being over enthusiastic looks like through a man's eyes, because I'm slow as molasses and don't think I have the ability to get over excited about much of anything unless I've had one too many cups of coffee.

And how do I show interest in what a man does in his spare time if I'm still trying to figure out how to get to know him on a dating site first?

Thank you for reading and responding as I do take what I hear and try to apply it effectively.

Tawt...

Are you cautious about the women you meet online when asking them out? Or do you take some time to get a good read so you don't end up regretting your face to face date as quickly as you make it?

I have several ladies I communicate with on here.

We talk daily life stuff, kids, grandkids, interests, ailments, meds, etc.

One time, and it was a mutual deal, a woman and I did some sex play on here.

She left frustrated cuz the viagra didn't kick in.

The rest of the gals I was attracted to because of different things I read or saw in them.

There are no illusions about getting with any of them.

Best way. Don't put up a false face. Be who and what you are with folks you know.

Forums only:

The best way to meet someone is to send them a private comment on some forum post that they made. Start up a conversation and get to know them.

It works.

My approach is to ask if they would like to exchange a few emails with me. Hopefully, this results in them looking at my profile and if they are interested, in their reply. In my opinion, we decide quickly whether or not we are interested in someone, we either like the look of them and they meet our criteria as a possible partner, or they don't. For example, I would not be interested in any one who is only "separated", so I could be unsuitable for other reasons to other people regardless of anything else I write about me.

Willing2... how apropos.

Thank you for your sincere advice.

Maybe that one viagra was a placebo. Or maybe you're lucky it didn't kick in if you were on one side of the screen and she the other.

yes I have had quite a few I've chatted to on here that way. Most could not ask me out because I live too far away from them but I have made friends all over the US & Canada and beyond on here. good times.

Hi metalwing...

I never thought about that obvious and easy approach before, thanks for the tip.

You're welcome. I might add that few people are what they appear at first. And, of course, some are not who they claim to be. As your circle of friends widens, you can get good input from others too. Some of the crazies are known to many.

Hi Duttoneer...

Simple and direct. I like that approach. Thank you for your reply.

Sweetestgirl...

I've also discovered that distance really does matter, but there's nothing wrong with having global friends. In fact I enjoy knowing how people get on where they live too.

Thank you for reading and responding.

Gosh, I hope I'm not in that loony bin category too, there always seems to be room for one more...

you're welcome. good to see you back :)

It's good to be back, sweetness...

No, I'm not particularly cautious about that. I've dated some crazy women in my time and I don't regret it. What I'm cautious about is getting too emotionally involved too quickly because I want to see how a new relationship goes before I do that.

If you pry too much before you've met them it can kill your chances of getting a date.

If they object to you prying before you meet then maybe that's how they hide the crazy so you can see it first hand and decide on face value whether it's undeniable, rectifiable, or certifiable.

In any case, I agree that getting emotionally involved too soon can have white coat consequences for you too.

.. be inquisitive.
.. point out similarities. that you share in each other's Bio/ profile
. be playful..
. not desperate.
. but a little flirtatious. men like flirting.. dangle the carrot in front of their nose. so to speak.. show them that you can be clever.. but not a budding physicist.
. make your first message.. short but not too short..
.. engage them with a little humor. and point out your willingness to ......correspond...
men need to be approached.. like you would a dog.. cautiously and with your hand out.. let them get a sniff..