why is it very diffcult to find a responsible man who is not just after sex in a relationship?

Oh this will be good, can't wait to see how many popadums will latch onto this.

Don't give him the sex. If he really likes you, he'll wait.
On another note, men will be men. If you meet a man that is not after sex, then there is something wrong with him.

one word....towel!

Most responsible men want sex.

Yay! There's something wrong with me then....shucks *Scooby *

Any man wants sex - that is a fact of life.... BUT. I think what you are asking is: Is sex all men are after??

.. I have to lovely boys who are a direct result of passionate sex.. love making... Who I am solely responsible for.
.. so this is a hard topic to answer..
.. are we just after sex.. a relationship and sex go hand in hand.. you truly can't have one without the other.. are so I thought..
.. since being online..ie.. this dating site.. it takes not having sex to a whole new level..
.. sex without the sex... ..

Not true. A man might just want sex after he gets married.

And I guess women want celibacy and walk I'm closets right?

Uh, where are you looking for a man (besides here)?

funny

eje93, you have to hang around people who have the same standards that you have if you want to find a man who shares your standards.

This website is the Internet equivalent of an international nightclub.
Thus, the people here have a variety of standards that they live by.

what is it that he is supposed to be after? I don;t get it. Like a commitment? Some men will make a commitment and some won;t.. just like some women.

It is nice to share other things besides sex, but sex is pretty important too.

If you meet men who are pushy about sex, just say yuck and move on

so....a bj is out of the question?

spank your butt and you hush....

HAAAAAAAAAAAAAhahaha

My ex fiancee refused to have sex the last 16 months we were together.
I did not pressure her. I can be very patient and understanding.
One day I realized I did want to have sex with her..ever.
I knew we were finished then.

Hey OP, just a headsup, being focused on sex reveals far more about your lines of thinking and personality than anyone else's.

If someone else seems focused on sex in conversation and you're not all hung up on sex yourself, then it shouldn't even be a blip on your radar. You should just get bored with them and move on. But if it makes your shoulders all tight and fills your head with run around arguments with yourself about it, then you're the one who's hung up on sex, and they're just playing you, and appropriately I might add.

That's how it works, it's the game of the low brows.

us men are pigs