.. same old same old.. putting my two cents in everywhere I go.. ... so you dating anybody?.hmm... did you do something new with your hair... I love that outfit you have on.. how was your day.. can I get you or do anything for you.. just let me know I'm here to serve... ...jk

You know, dating is a bit of a head game.

'Giving up' is often useful, you delete
your expectations.

Surprisingly, things often happen then,
perhaps because someone has to really jump
out at you to break through the indifference.

Strategy :-)

I understand that dating and relationships is a long hard process. when there is someone in your life and you try to keep that idea alive, when is it enough? or is it ever enough?

I find for myself I have really high expectations of others. I always treat the person how I want to be treated. making time for them when you are busy with a simple " hi how is your day?" or any small message to let them know you are thinking of them. Making them feel special and paying compliments. I don't ever seem to get that in return or its not up to my expectations. I strongly go by treat people the way you want to be treated. after clearly explaining at the start what I expect and its not done.....

so when should someone just walk away and say forget it?

I fully believe that is why I am a single lady. I can not find the person that will make me feel special and that I am their #1 person. all in reason of course.

soon enough Im not even going to care anymore. a lot of work for nothing it seems.

thanks for reading my rant/thoughts/questions....

This post actually made me reactivate my profile, because I was this way, and i've known a few people as well...and thought maybe I could help a little....maybe but this is just my opinion so take it with a grain of salt.

I emphasized some of the points above, first I'll say I understand the old adage "treat others how you like to be treated" but I think that applies to everyday interactions and not dating, in the dating world I would say treat others the way THEY want to be treated,

A lot of people do these 'little' things but they do them with the expectation of

1. It's what the other person wants(when that's not always the case) and 2. They do them because THEY want them...in other words they give so the they can get.

If you constantly have this mentality, I did A, B, C, D an E for you, but you haven't done A, B, C, or d for me! often the response is "I didn't ask you to do any of those things"(which is often true) so that reveals the true meaning behind the gestures...it wasn't for the other person, it was for themselves.

You can have high expectations, and also choose to leave someone if they aren't 'meeting them' but most often the person in this case doesn't leave, instead they think they can just give more gestures and eventually the other person will want to pay them back(or feel guilty for not paying them back) so instead of doing what they really should do(just walk away, find someone who appreciates those things) they instead do what would push the person farther away(increase the gestures)...the other person doesn't want them, they are only increasing them because that is what they want the OTHER person to do....

I'm going to say that there does come a time sometimes when you have to love yourself enough to walk away.
However, we often ha expectations of others that don't have to do with the real personal. If you go into a relationship expecting that you are going to change someone, it's doomed from the start.
As for the expectations and treating someone how you want to be treated; just because being a certain way to others may come natural to you doesn't mean it's the same for others.
Keep in mind what attracted them to you in the first place and see if that's still there before you give up. Wish you the best.